The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

lillibet_dripping

Ooooo wine! Count me in. Give me a few minutes and I'll knock up some cheese straws too - don't really 'do' cake:D

Fuddle - I admire your strength for making what must have been such a difficult and heart-breaking decision. Maybe you will be able to offer a home to another rescue doggie who will love you and your family as much as Alfie does?

What's that saying about not judging before you have walked a mile in another man's shoes?

jpscloud

Oh fuddle you must not feel ashamed. You did the right thing, which turned out to be the hardest thing - why is that so often true?

Alfie will love and be loved in his next home, animals (generally speaking) move on much better than we do. You will feel grief and bereavement over him, because he is now not part of your life, and the tears and sadness are normal and perfectly ok.

You did a very good thing for him when you gave him a home, and all that love. Rehoming him was the right decision if the chances were you'd be living in a flat, you couldn't have known about the house.

When you're settled in and you feel ready, maybe you can give another little lost one a home. Do not ever feel that you have done something wrong over Alfie.

Yes, I am judging you - I judge you a loving and responsible person!

Hard_Up_Hester

Oh me & my big mouth, I'm so sorry Fuddle, I shouldn't have put you in such an awkward situation, I wish you and your family all the very best in your new home & I wouldn't have upset you for the world. You have nothing to be ashamed off you have done your best for Alfie as you always have done for all your family.
Big hugs Hester

wondercollie

Thank you for your PMs of support.

I've corrected the link. How the bicycling one got there???

Mrs Chip: I too used to be accepting of all I was told and believed the best in people but after a few decades of being used by the emotional drainers of the world, I toughened up and started to question the constant victim mentality and need for support. Why try and improve your lot if you can get others to cheerlead your choices. If you go back and read old posts concerning money, you'll understand why so many have issues with this.

ArthriticOldThing

Oh fuddle, I can only agree with what others have said. You did the best you could for Alfie always, making sure he had a home and was loved. When my first marriage broke up I had to find another home for our dog - could not leave her with ex and I was in a one bedroomed 2nd floor flat. It's a hard thing to live through. You loved him enough to make sure he was taken care of when your future housing was unsure. Nothing to be ashamed of there.:)

What's that saying about not judging before you have walked a mile in another
man's shoes?

So right lillibet.

I'm with you there Mrs Chip. None of us can really know what another person is going thru or why they say/do what they say/do. What I love about this thread is the sharing of pain as well as joy as you say kidkat.

Oooooh did someone mention wine!!!! I can bring full-bodied red. Am not allowed much cake anyway.:(

ginnyknit

Aww fuddly one, how could anyone feel nothing but respect for your decision, we all have difficult choices in life and that was a hard one but for the best I feel. You will have a lot of work on when you move settling everyone and making choices about work/study. Alfie would have been at best disorientated and at worst destructive or fed up.

Kidcat, I wish I could just nip down and help, I know how difficult it is for Dd with little man and his autyness and you have 2 to deal with and in need of rest. Dd tries so hard to take DGS places and it doesnt always work, usually through circumstances beyond her control like you today. Hope you get some rest soon xxxx

Hard_Up_Hester

Pooky, weeing in the fish bowl, lol, my SIL has been known to wee in the wardrobe thinking it was the toilet, but that was because he was drunk, lol.

If I disappear from this thread it won't be because I'm upset, it will be because I've been arrested! Hubby loves his garden and gets bored during the winter when he can't grow anything. So today we collected a greenhouse heater/light, I'm convinced it's designed for people growing cannabis on an industrial scale!! He put it in the greenhouse to start with but it started to attract low flying aeroplanes, so he's moved it to the spare bedroom, I await a visit from the local police, or the local dealer who will think we are going to compete with him.
Hester

katieowl_2

kidcat wrote: »

Maybe its time to break out the wine and cake - I dont have any cake to offer but can gladly throw in a few bottles of wine?

Red please. Right up to the top would be lovey

Kate

pondskater_2

ArthriticOldThing wrote: »

.......I'm with you there Mrs Chip. None of us can really know what another person is going thru or why they say/do what they say/do. What I love about this thread is the sharing of pain as well as joy as you say kidkat.

Oooooh did someone mention wine!!!! I can bring full-bodied red. Am not allowed much cake anyway.:(

Well said AOT, there are too many glass houses anyway to be lobbing anything about.
The red wine sounds good so I may go and partake of one (or two)

Fuddle you did what you had to do and the best thing for the dog.

mardatha

"People come and go in life and they'll come and go in a forum. The thread will continue and evolve in different way, such is life."

Pooky - spot on! very wise words