The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

Monnagran - I managed to squeeze an extra few hours into my day by skipping sleep!!
Catches up with you eventually though

Am exhausted having done school discos at DD7 school with the PTA. Havent stopped all day again, and made a rather interesting discovery, DD7 is in year 3 at school, and I attended her assembly today, she was at the front as she had stuff to show, whilst there she was flirting with the year 6 boys! Then at the disco tonight, there was a whole line of year 6 boys - as she went past went all doe eyed - hi DD and a little wave??

savingqueen

Thanks for the posts and kind thoughts after my post today. I don't have a problem with taking ADs or feel any stigma at all, I just don't like taking any meds unless I know I definitely need them. All the GP did was ask me to fill in a short questionnaire and comment I had been depressed before. I used to work for a mental health charity way before my depression and have always challenged people's uneducated views about mental health and various other prejudices and ignorances.

My main concern is that having a hormonal imbalance could very well be the main or only reason for feeling depressed though GP insisted it couldn't be. I have been looking at websites this eve and all link hormone imbalances and depression and symptoms of depression. I am fine with ADs if they are needed but if not if I need something to stabilise my hormones instead. My GP is only too quick to write a prescription out rather than talk with you properly.

I have taken my 1st tablet (only low dose) but still not sure it's the right thing to do. I guess if I feel better in a couple of weeks or so, I will have my answer. My other worry is the serious depression I had years ago will come back - I couldn't cope very well with everyday life then but was on sick leave and then benefits with no dependents but I need to be well enough to take care of the kids.

Anyway I will be fine plodding on whatever happens, my anxiety is making me fear the worse. If I can think more rationally, I know I will cope. Thanks again for sharing and being supportive.

Kidcat - you must sleep properly or you will end up ill. be a good girl and catch up at the weekend (on sleep that is and not housework!)

sq:)

savingqueen

A big warm welcome and hello to lobbyludd and candlelight!

meanmarie

Welcome Lobbyludd, this is a very supportive, helpful thread, I feel that when I am here I am among friends. Congratulations on having the courage to be on your own with your children, you will survive and win out in the end.
ADs have been part of my life for more than 7 years now, I am now on a very low dosage but find that my life is more manageable with that low dosage, although I have no great money worries, am healthy and have a loving family and beautiful grandchildren. Depression is not something that one has because of weakness, stupidity or lack of intelligence, its just something which has to be dealt with, be it by anti-ds, counselling or both, and nobody should feel guilty about it....one of my daughters regularly asks me if I am still taking " those mad pills", but that is her problem not mine.

Sorry for the offload, sleep well everybody and stay safe

Marie

lobbyludd

thanks for warm welcome, hope everyone has good sleep and bright day tomorrow. I've a friend coming over for a sewing/crochetting/knitting evening, and general catchup, a party to ferry ds(10) back and fore to and I'm going to taste test the passion flower fruits in the back garden.

perfect

Hard_Up_Hester

My ex MIL always insisted that anyone on anti-d was just self indulgent and that keeping busy was the best cure for depression, such a kind and caring woman she was, not!
Hester

Pooky

Morning all

Gorgeous sun rise over the channel this morning, all pinks and oranges.

Welcome to all the newbies, hope you brought cake and biscuits

SQ - I have PCOS, I've had it since 1999 and it does make my hormones very wibbly but I don't suffer from depression. I find I have days when I'm tired and feel a bit low and even if I haven't noticed then it's evident from my food choices (carbs, carbs and more carbs) but that just leads me to feeling Blugh for a few days longer so I try to moderate the carbs (I can't cut them out, I'd be locked up for several counts of murder if I couldn't get my carb fix). If you don't feel the ADs are the way forward at the moment then why not look at your diet and see if you can make any changes that will benefit you? I'd push the GP to send you to a specialist in hormone issues, maybe even a scan to see if it it PCOS as then you can find out lots of information on how to deal with it.

It took me 7 hours yesterday to gut DD1s room. I have 7 black sacks of rubbish (and that's just the obvious rubbish - I will be going through clothes/shoes etc today) everything is out of the room, aside from her bed and I filled the Hoover. Today I get to scrub the floors/windows/woodwork and wash the walls down before putting everything back. It sounds gross and to be fair it was but I've not touched her room for over a year. It's so disheartening to see it all messed up so I gave up tidying it. Its also so mentally draining for me to have a room in my house that's so dirty.....I hate it!

fuddle

Cheapskate my phone is acting up. I'm having difficulty getting texts and calls.

I'm up at father in laws in Scotland. We came up last night to break the news we were moving. His advice? Move further and get out of this country as the S is going to HTF.

Father-in-law is quite old fashioned and thinks families should communicate face to face it at least call. His other offspring don't have anything much to do with him because it's too much effort to do that. Their stance is that it's all on Facebook, if he can't be bothered to read it its his fault. It's quite serious as SIL was in hospital a few weeks back with a burst cyst. Nobody rang him to tell him but if course it was a constant on Facebook. You know what the sad thing is? DH, who has made the effort to travel over 4 hours after working all day to tell his dad face to face some news, well he got anger directed towards him for not telling him sooner about his other daughter.

Sometimes we can't blame the government for our failing nation. I think we need to look at ourselves as we'll and question the amoun of effort we put into things for the good of everyone around us.

savingqueen

Thanks Pooky for your post about PCOS. My GP, although not good at the talking side of his profession, is better at the referral side. I am on the waiting list for a scan but that could take weeks and also have the blood tests repeated in 4 weeks to check my hormone levels again. I am going to make lifestyle changes anyway, improve my diet which will be difficult for me especially cutting down carbs and sugary stuff. I have already stopped drinking alcohol and joined a gym. Caffeine is another thing to cut down further. I would prefer to go down the natural route to be honest but if I am depressed I don't want to leave things til they get worse with my history. I guess I can always stop the ADs or start them later, not set in stone.

This morning I have party preps(my friend's child's party) - baths and hair washes all round, DS9's new jeans to hem and a ton of food to prepare. Then getting to the hall early to help set up and ferry some kids without transport. I will know most of the children from the class I volunteered in last year so apparently I am in charge of supervising 24+ 4/5 year olds and a scattering of older ones. Wish me luck, been up since 6. doing stuff.

sq:)

jem132

Morning all

Hi to all the newbies.

I feel bloody dreadful iv run out of my pain killers so iv taken one of dh tramadol not so sure I should of done my head still hurts and iv got tummy acch like stinging in my belly now. Arhhhh

So I am off back to bed now kids and no dh so I won't get disturbed.

I myte fold my washing first tho.

Hugs to everyone in these hard times x