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MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

MOMEMTS I'm glad for your sake that you have made the decision, it isn't easy I know, but I'm so glad you have the end of the process in sight and I know you won't regret having made it. It's the first day of the rest of your life isn't it? Hope your DH can find his fulltime employment very soon, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Thank you, it certainly feels like the right decision, I know we won't have much spare cash but we will be rich in ways that money can't buy.

Overcast here today, I have been out and picked a few fresh peas (I have to get in quick before my girls eat them straight from the plant) :rotfl:

DD has gone for a uni visit to Cambridge today, her Grandad has taken her but has also taken his partner and it seems they have left her to 'get on with it' and are meeting up with her at 2pm. Had I known he was planning this I would have gone with her, I hate to think of her having to walk around alone

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Oh MAR that's so sad and makes you feel dreadful doesn't it? For what it's worth we ALL think the world of you here, your observations on life are one of the high points of my day any day and guaranteed to make me smile, but not when you're hurting today, no smiles there, just lots of hugs and lots and lots of love coming your way right now, like that soup ad where the big hairy pink thing wraps round your shoulders! I don't understand how people can post anonymous nastiness and look at themselves in the mirror, couldn't do it myself!!! Put it behind you and look into the light my lovely, you can because you're strong, Love Lyn xxx.

fuddle

Moments thats exactly how I felt whenever I thought of work (the job I told you about lasting 6 weeks) When we went on our hols to Scotland we had to drive past the nursery (it was 15 mile drive away from where I lived, utterly stupid decision to work there all round!) and surprised at how sick I felt even after I didn't have to go any more.

I would love to be a stay at home grandma! I would adore helping my girls out with their childcare. I have had to pay for childcare as family help was not an option and it really is crippling financially.

Honey on wounds? Wow, I never knew that. I am also an advocate of hot honey when colds etc come along.

Childrens multivits - a good inexpensive place to get them from? Anyone know?

Just finished my cheese salad and now on with my jobs. Include loo cleaning and grass cutting. This afternoon I am heading out for a long walk with the dog. We're heading for a heat wave eh? It's cloudy and breezy here but oh so warm.

Mackerel and roasted veg for tea, with a side of boiled rice. Girls are having tagliatelle and fruit salad.

Have a lovely day everyone.

PS does anyone know if the idea of not spraying crops with pesticides to help protect bee got any further forward?

Possession

Moments don't worry, I went to all my uni visits alone, it always takes me by surprise that students all seem to be taken these days as it wasn't the usual thing then. Once when I was visiting Lancaster I think (they've all blurred into one) my shoe fell off as I was getting off the train and went onto the track. I had to hop to find someone to retrieve it.
Cambridge is a lovely place for a wander, she'll be fine.

moments_of_sanity

Possession wrote: »

Moments don't worry, I went to all my uni visits alone, it always takes me by surprise that students all seem to be taken these days as it wasn't the usual thing then. Once when I was visiting Lancaster I think (they've all blurred into one) my shoe fell off as I was getting off the train and went onto the track. I had to hop to find someone to retrieve it.
Cambridge is a lovely place for a wander, she'll be fine.

Thank you. She has text to say the talent is quite hot so probably a good job I'm not there as I would only cramp her style!

mardatha

Awh MrsL, am fine, thank you. Just pleased I have finally noticed it. Wasn't nasty as such, just unhelpful and not supportive.
Back to my abnormal self now that I've dealt with it
I once had a book with recipes for making your own lavender furniture polish and linen spray in it, but gave it away. Has anybody got such a book? Is it worth doing?
And has anybody heard from D3 ?

monnagran

Moments: You have made the right decision for you so it's all looking forward from now. There is a great satisfaction in facing challenging prospects (especially financial ones) and managing them. It makes you a very powerful person. I think it's largely shifting priorities from 'how does this look to the outside world?' to ' is this right for me and mine and will it add to our happiness?'. Once you have that sorted you're home and dry.

Another lovely day here and I should be out digging up weeds and discovering a front garden. Was I out there at 6.00am this morning?
Answer comes there none. (For people who think my grammar has gone to pot, this is a quote from one of my favourite books, "Diary of a Provincial Lady".)

Now I must repair to the kitchen and make the pasty I promised the Rev yesterday. She needs an early lunch today.

Hope all those with difficult things to do today are filled with strength and courage.

x

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Welcome home MAR, pull up a chair and have a nice cuppa and a chat, I'm in all the time, so feel free anytime, Love Lyn xxx

I do have a book, in fact several and if you want recipes to play with I'm sure I can find them for you. D3 did say she might not be able to post from the hospital, but I would think that heart surgery being pretty intense, she is maybe waiting for DS to be off machines etc before having the time to let us know how he is, don't worry too much, I hope all is fine for them both, Cheers Lyn xxx.

VJsmum

Re SAHM's, can I make a case for part time?

The debate always seems to be SAH or work full time, but I have worked part time ever since my nearly 17 year old DD was 4 months old. When I got pregnant, I was working in a very high pressue job 9 - 7 and OH and I decided that it wasn't going to be the way forward with her, part time wasn't an option at that time so I gave my job up and decided to retrain as a lecturer.

I didn't really intend to go back so soon but an opening came up for 1 day a week when she was 4 months and, to be fair, I was desperately lonely. So I found a childminder I trusted (who was the SIL of OH's boss) and went back to work. I have worked part time ever since, now doing 2 1/2 days a week. I am about to increase my hours to 4 days a week term time, 2 days holiday time. I still don't want to do full time as I think teenagers need you more than toddlers do and DS is still only 14 and would spend a lot of time left to his own devices in the holidays which could be dangerous! I am lucky that my job is really flexible and that working at home is quite common, therefore I have rarely missed a nativity, play, sports day, assembly etc as I just catch up my work at other times.

However, like others, I do think people should do what they think is right for them - many would be horrified that i went back to work so soon but it was a fantastic opportunity to get the experience I needed and I really needed to use my brain and get back out there to some extent. V was suffering anyway cos I was so unhappy, bored and lonely. My kids have never suffered by me working, if .they had I would have stopped. I think they benefitted by going to childminders - they interacted socially, learned to share, learned that they weren't the most important thing in anyone's lives but ours

mardatha

Monnagran - that first paragraph is superb and so true
Mrs L I canny eat cake I'm doin low carb so hide the cake tin !! LOL
Re working or SAH mumming - we aren't robots, we all have free will, we have to all do what works for us. Just do what you feel pulled to do.