Dissapointed in a family member.

FBaby

And then in 5 years time, she will be in the same place, with even more time without work experience, the situation becoming more and more difficult. What else will be available to her but to continue on that same path? Except that getting pregnant will get harder, and looking after more kids more demanding, dealing with changes in benefits, which are likely to become more and more restrictive rather than generous, stressful.

It might sound like she got the easy option right now, but one day she will realised that her laziness has actually become a burden rather than an opportunity.

Dunroamin

FBaby wrote: »

And then in 5 years time, she will be in the same place, with even more time without work experience, the situation becoming more and more difficult. What else will be available to her but to continue on that same path? Except that getting pregnant will get harder, and looking after more kids more demanding, dealing with changes in benefits, which are likely to become more and more restrictive rather than generous, stressful.

It might sound like she got the easy option right now, but one day she will realised that her laziness has actually become a burden rather than an opportunity.

Then she'll switch to claiming some kind of disability benefit because of stress and depression.;)

FBaby

Dunroamin wrote: »

Then she'll switch to claiming some kind of disability benefit because of stress and depression.;)

Ha ha, very true!

sammyjammy

Sadly it's all too common, as has been said she will be required to seek work up until the later stage of pregnancy. If this is how she thinks she could do this for years to come, a woman in our street had a 10 and 12 year old when I moved here 15 years ago, she now has another three children, each around 4 years apart, two of them have learning disabilities, poor things. She has never worked a day in her life and is 41. We were actually born on the same day (her 40th birthday card was delivered to my house) and our lives couldn't be more different. She has a drink/drug problem and spends most of her time in her back garden drinking with her older children (whose own children have been taken into care and are apparantly not expected to be returned)

There are no values in this household.

Mumto3cheekymonkeys

What on earth goes through some people's minds! I have 3 boys all under 6 and work full time over 3 days! I would say a 14 hour day shift is a lot easier LOL!

pinkypoopydoo

As a family, you need to now be encouraging your niece to get into some kind of education, while her children are young, so that when her youngest becomes old enough to mean she cannot claim IS and is expected to look for work again, she has the means to support herself and her children. There's plenty of home learning courses and funding available for those who wish to better themselves and build a better future for their children. It may not be a complete replacement for experience, but it proves to potential employers that there is a desire there.

midnight_express

The only solution is to phase out all child related benefits.

shedboy94

This is why the benefit system is a joke......most working families on reasonable incomes have children when they can afford them and stop having them when they can't afford anymore, however the benefit system encourages those on low incomes/benefits to keep popping them out because they know the state will keep throwing more and more money at them.

mojos.revenge

StormyWeather wrote: »

That sentence contradicts itself.

You know she'll get away with it.
You're also asking if she can be sanctioned if the JCP know about this.

As far as I know she will get away with it, that's why I am here. She won't have to look for work either, as she always gets gestational diabetes and is prone to bad attacks.

mojos.revenge

Jemma-T wrote: »

She is being sanctioned -she'll have to love and care for the child for the rest of its life.

And it's none of your business I'm sure you could do better things in your own life without poking your nose in others'.

How rude, it is actually our business when she asks family members for hand outs and to do baby sitting, we do it for the kids, but none the less it's our problem as well.