Cashback cheat

Alikay

Why would you have a problem with her withdrawing cash? I assume it's a joint account if she has a debit card for shopping...perhaps she needs the cash for additional shopping (like fruit and veg from the market), haircuts or kids dinner money etc. I'd feel very restricted if I was only allowed access to joint funds via a big shop at a supermarket.

happy35

i would just ask tham, no joint account in this house we each pay different bills and the rest is our own.

OH wouldnt have a clue what the shopping costs as I pay for that, if I said £50 or £100 he wouldnt know as he doesnt go shopping from one month to the next.

tayforth

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

How is it costing you money? It's extra money that unfortunately your partner isn't sharing with you but my lordy, she must be spending a fortune on the monthly shop if she's making that amount in cashback. I think she's being clever and thrifty!

balletshoes wrote: »

I think you might have the wrong end of the stick - she's not making cashback, she's asking for cash back at the till , allegedly.

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Happybutterfly: it's not that sort of cash-back. It's a cash withdrawal from the till which is added onto your card-payment

I confess, I had the same thought as thehappybutterfly at first!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Rottensocks

Agree, you should show a sudden interest in doing the shopping with her..... If the weekly shop is regularly much less on the days you attend with her...well, I guess you have an answer.

Question is, why do you think she is taking this money? i.e. what could she want it for? Is there a history of financial 'misunderstandings'?

thehappybutterfly

tayforth wrote: »

I confess, I had the same thought as thehappybutterfly at first!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Thank god I'm not the only one!

OK, asking for cash back at the till puts a completely different spin on it. OP, you just need to ask her for all the shopping receipts so you can reconcile your bank account.

anderson8

FBaby wrote: »

but even a man who never goes shopping can tell the difference between what £50 and £100 would buy and fill the cupboards?

You would think so, but meet my husband he's not got a proverbial scooby.

barbarawright

Can't you just ask her? :huh:

valk_scot

On the rare ocassions my OH comes to the supermarket he practically needs oxygen when he sees the price of food. In his mind cheese is still 50p a pound and milk 25p for 2litres. He can't get over how much cash I take out for the housekeeping every week though I'm actually a very canny shopper, I could easily spend twice as much on not much more iyswim. He might well think I'm keeping half of it for my own personal fripperies...except he wouldn't, actually, we've got a somewhat more trusting relationship than that.

You coud suggest she does what I do, I take out the housekeeping budget on Monday in one ATM transaction, then pay for everything in cash. I find it helps me keep a closer eye on what I spend, you notice handing over a fistful of tenners far more than your plastic card.

Kayalana99

I think this is one of those threads where OP never comes back again and were all left guessing...

Cornish_piskie

Just to turn this on it's head ....

when married, our finances were entirely joint - absolutely not a problem, we always spent respectfully (ie neither of us spent more wildly than the other). Now, the problem with entirely joint finances is how the ruddy heck do you buy a surprise something for someone without it appearing on the bank statement? :eek: I'll tell you how - by getting cashback at the end of the grocery shop every week and snaffling it away until you have enough for said surprise something:rotfl:

Maybe, just maybe, OP this is what your OH is doing?