Cashback cheat

BitterAndTwisted

Of course, the sensible way to deal with this might be to have a face-to-face adult conversation about it. Goodness knows, the prices of food in the shops has soared of late. Someone who hasn't done a grocery shop in the last 12 months might have a picture in their mind that 250 grammes of butter still costs fifty pence.......

pigpen

If all the money is yours she isn't really your partner is she?

Money in here is joint once the bills are paid.. if you don't trust her to shop go do the shopping yourself.. and if she has any sense she will see it soon and realise what controlling behaviour you are displaying!

Have you considered looking at a receipt? Food is itemised from all the big supermarkets so it isn't hard to add up.

Maybe £50 cash covers top ups of fresh milk, bread, fruit and veg.. where do you think appears from?

BitterAndTwisted

Before you start making accusations it might be wise to actually do the weekly shop with her. That hypothetical fifty quid could be being spent at the butcher, greengrocer, fishmonger, bakery, dry-cleaners etcetera etcetera

paulineb_2

bntcsh wrote: »

Can anyone help I am certain that I’m being financially cheated by my partner. I’m convinced she uses the cash back option when doing the weekly shopping at ASDA and TESCO and pocketing £50 each big shop then going mid-week for more cash . Is there any way I can trace the transactions. My bank are unable to help, its costing my limited resources big style every month. Anyone experienced this ?

Ask to see the receipts. Go with her. Or set up a different account for shopping. Transfer a set amount into it.

I dont think its particularly controlling behaviour, if someone is taking out £200 plus a month and its not being spent on groceries I think Id be entitled to ask what the money is going on.

If shes using your debit card and its not her account, for goodness sake do something about it. Not everyone who is married or lives togther have joint bank accounts.

Have you asked her why she needs the extra cash, what its being used for?

thehappybutterfly

How is it costing you money? It's extra money that unfortunately your partner isn't sharing with you but my lordy, she must be spending a fortune on the monthly shop if she's making that amount in cashback. I think she's being clever and thrifty!

FBaby

Surely you can get an idea of whether what she has bought matches what she supposedly spent on it? I can understand not being sure by £10, but even a man who never goes shopping can tell the difference between what £50 and £100 would buy and fill the cupboards?

balletshoes

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

How is it costing you money? It's extra money that unfortunately your partner isn't sharing with you but my lordy, she must be spending a fortune on the monthly shop if she's making that amount in cashback. I think she's being clever and thrifty!

I think you might have the wrong end of the stick - she's not making cashback, she's asking for cash back at the till , allegedly.

balletshoes

FBaby wrote: »

Surely you can get an idea of whether what she has bought matches what she supposedly spent on it? I can understand not being sure by £10, but
even a man who never goes shopping can tell the difference between what £50 and £100 would buy and fill the cupboards?

my OH couldn't, he has no clue as he only does cash n carry style shopping.

BitterAndTwisted

Happybutterfly: it's not that sort of cash-back. It's a cash withdrawal from the till which is added onto your card-payment

BitterAndTwisted

FBaby wrote: »

But even a man who never goes shopping can tell the difference between what £50 and £100 would buy and fill the cupboards?

You reckon? I wouldn't want to bet on it.