How to let go of anger?

daisiegg · 19 May 2013 at 10:13AM

How do you do it? When you are really angry about something but you know it can't change, you can't do anything about it and you can't ever say out loud all the things that are running through your head?

I hate feeling like this and usually I am very good at letting anger go but today I just can't.

Any tips? I don't want to feel like this, it is toxic

balletshoes · 19 May 2013 at 10:18AM

get out of the house and go for a long walk, blow off the cobwebs, you can stew while you walk and eventually it will dissipate. Distraction is a good technique for me, so I don't stay home where I have a tendency to brood if I'm in that kind of mood, I get out and do something for a few hours.

daisiegg · 19 May 2013 at 10:19AM

balletshoes wrote: »

get out of the house and go for a long walk, blow off the cobwebs, you can stew while you walk and eventually it will dissipate. Distraction is a good technique for me, so I don't stay home where I have a tendency to brood if I'm in that kind of mood, I get out and do something for a few hours.

I can't! I have a broken foot and am on crutches! :rotfl:

Also can't drive so am completely stuck in the house until I go to work tomorrow

devildog · 19 May 2013 at 10:21AM

Write it all down on paper, it gets it out of your system. Having it down in writing stops your mind re-running through whatever has gotten your angry and because it is written down your mind can revisit what actually happened when you have had a mental break from it.

daisiegg · 19 May 2013 at 10:22AM

devildog wrote: »

Write it all down on paper, it gets it out of your system. Having it down in writing stops your mind re-running through whatever has gotten your angry and because it is written down your mind can revisit what actually happened when you have had a mental break from it.

I am a little bit scared that if I do that, I won't be able to walk away from it afterwards, if you know what I mean. Seeing it written out will make me feel like I should do something about it.

duckeggblue · 19 May 2013 at 10:25AM

Could you telephone a helpline and talk to someone? X

mummyroysof3 · 19 May 2013 at 10:26AM

I take it out on the house....mostly I scrub tiles or clean the oven lol

balletshoes · 19 May 2013 at 10:26AM

daisiegg wrote: »

I am a little bit scared that if I do that, I won't be able to walk away from it afterwards, if you know what I mean. Seeing it written out will make me feel like I should do something about it.

didn't you say that the situation couldn't be changed? How about screaming and throwing a hairbrush around your room (I have resorted to that in the past, just to get some kind of release).

devildog · 19 May 2013 at 10:27AM

That's because it is still in your mind and you are angry

I wrote (typed) 7 A4 pages some 4 years ago and still have them. I don't need to look at it anymore but I like to keep it just in case any of the issues are ever raised again.

cheeswright · 19 May 2013 at 10:32AM

break something
plates are excellent and can be skimmed good distances too
its surprisingly hard to break something thats still ok
even if you hate it
and so
quite empowering

Tiglath · 19 May 2013 at 10:35AM

I hold a glass of water in my hands and visualise the anger pouring through my arms and hands into the water ('see' the water changing colour if that works for you), and then pour it down the sink. The first time I did this, it was like taking a diazepam, it worked so well, so I've used the technique ever since for anger, anxiety, stress etc.