Relationship Advice

securityguy

If this were an account of a man's poor behaviour, the MSE women would all be chanting "leave him, get rid". But because it's a woman behaving like a !!!!!, you're being told to communicate, discuss, understand, try to see her perspective, consider what's gone wrong. It's a double standard, as DaveTG points out.

Leave or throw her out. As you're married the divorce courts will sort out your asserts more equitably than you might manage yourself. Whether she's having an affair or not, she doesn't want you, and is making that perfectly clear. It won't get better.

lazer

OP - did you and your girlfriend live together before marriage - the first year of living together can in fact be the hardest, getting used to each other etc.

Do you have any interests outside of the relationship - do you go out with your friends at weekends etc?

TBH - I am kinda like your wife - we are married 7 months and for the first 5 or 6 months I basically spent all my time with my new husband and everything revolved around him, I then realised I was losing touch with my friends and the past 6 weeks or so have started making up for that - meeting up with them for dinner, having a night out with them at weekends (And My husband knows this is how I am feeling - but I think he resents it a bit, as he tends to want to do nothing other than play on the playstation)

I am a socialable person and need some nights out with the girls - I need to go dancing (and my husband doesn't like dancing - his idea of a good night out is sitting at the bar with a pint or so), I need to see people.

It's important to try and reach a compromise and its important to have your own interests but also do joint things.

The time you do spend together - do you spend it doing different things (one watching TV, one a the computer etc)?

The important thing is to communicate with each other and make sure your wife knows how you feel amd you have to make sure you lsiten to how she feels too.

PS - your post has made me realise I maybe need to put more of an effort into my marriage too, but my husband also needs to put more of an effort into our marriage - we need to spend time talking and listening to each other.

I was reading out pre-marriage course worksheets last night and have realised how far we have deviated from our plans, so its time to get back on track.