Struggling with Dad after his stroke- long post!

sunnyone

I had to stop reading at the begining of post 5 because it mentioned vascular dementia and I am now facing with my husband.

My husband's stroke was three years ago now, he has had further TIA's since and one other suspected stroke.

Has your dad seen a Neuropsychatrist? if not he needs to ASAP for comprehensive neuropsycholoical assessment, they are a rarety in the NHS but its really worth while seeing one as they are the only people who can help your dad cope with the mental after affects of his stroke, it sounds like he has the same speach problems as my husband, he can put together a sentance in his brain but he cant translate that into speach which leaves him very, very distressed (Aphasia) and he also sounds like he has PBA (pseudobulbar affect) which is treatable by CBT.

I will add to this thread later but Im a bit upset atm because my husband has become distressed by seeing a RSPCA commercial on TV (part of his PBA)

MrsDrink

((Sunnyone))

motherofstudents

My dad also suffered like this and ended up with dementia (I don't mean to alarm you at all, not everyone who has a stroke gets dementia). I think you need to concentrate on your own health and your baby. This is what your dad would want if he was his usual self. It can take many months to recover and both you and your mum need some outside help. It would probably help for you to meet up with some people in the same situation as you so that you can share experiences and get advice. I do hope things improve and you can relax a bit and enjoy your baby.

heartbreak_star

sunnyone wrote: »

I had to stop reading at the begining of post 5 because it mentioned vascular dementia and I am now facing with my husband.

My husband's stroke was three years ago now, he has had further TIA's since and one other suspected stroke.

Has your dad seen a Neuropsychatrist? if not he needs to ASAP for comprehensive neuropsycholoical assessment, they are a rarety in the NHS but its really worth while seeing one as they are the only people who can help your dad cope with the mental after affects of his stroke, it sounds like he has the same speach problems as my husband, he can put together a sentance in his brain but he cant translate that into speach which leaves him very, very distressed (Aphasia) and he also sounds like he has PBA (pseudobulbar affect) which is treatable by CBT.

I will add to this thread later but Im a bit upset atm because my husband has become distressed by seeing a RSPCA commercial on TV (part of his PBA)

That was my post, and I am sorry it caused you distress

You make some very valid points re diagnosis though, my dad had a lot of speech problems and it made him sad.

Lots of love to you and your husband.

HBS x

Sezzagirl

Oh Giraffodil, what an awful position you and your family are in

Some of the advice you've been given on here is excellent and I'm sure will help you and your family

Looking at your position from a slightly different angle, you appear to be feeling a bit isolated now you've left work. I wonder if you have an NCT group in your area or something similar that you could hook into. The NCT will often run Ante-Natel classes but even if you don't want to go to the classes, they often have coffee mornings or Bumps and Babes groups where you can meets up with other women and families who either are expecting or have small babies. If you're feeling poorly, there's usually someone who can give you a cup of tea and some sympathy!

I think that with everything else going on in your life, you need to have support and something else to be involved in

My NCT group was a big support when my boys were little and, now the oldest is just about to leave school, my best friend is still someone I met at a coffee morning!

Good Luck and Every Best Wish