Interfering in house move

AutumnMist

What to do?

I'm moving house, soon hopefully. The EA is coming out today to put the sign in the garden. Need to move to a bungalow due to my mother's health. We're looking forward to moving anyway as we've been in this house far too long. The neighbours are, well, rotten. Most of them anyway. We don't exactly have any friends in the area, and no family living nearby. So really looking forward to finally get moving

Now for the problem, extended family interfering

I am being told that certain neighbours who have tortured us over the years, and even left me crying recently, is 'not that bad'. And another neighbour who is also a bully, as are his family. I have been told that he is nice enough, as one time he told my extended family members, if there's anything we want, let him know. This was years ago when my mother was ill. Talk's cheap as they say. If I wanted something, that neighbour would be no help.

I have been told that if we move to another area we will know nobody.... So what? We can get to know people. There's nobody here we'd miss.

I've had said to me, what happens if I get sick, we won't have the neighbours we have now to help, so what will Mum do if I'm not able to get out for shopping. I said I'll order the shopping online from Asda. Even this answer wasn't good enough, I was then asked what would Mum do for shopping if I was in hospital (I'm not prone to any illnesses). I said I must teach her to use the computer, its about time she learned anyway.

Next up, "There's that much you have to watch for when you're moving, flooding, tall trees..." Seriously, talk about pointing out the obvious. Sure there's a website for checking flood risks.

Then, "If you move, you don't know what sort of neighbours you'll get". Sure we don't know who could move in here, and my extended family members don't know who could move in next door to themselves.

Another neighbour sold his house, and different times it is mentioned that we might get someone nice in his house. We're not staying, so we don't care much who moves in there.

I was even told that if I move my curtains won't fit the windows of the new house. The curtains will be swinging up the windows. Where did that come from? I didn't even mention curtains. It feels like they'll say anything to 'convince' us to stay.

They've known for years that we hate living here. Sorry, they've been told this for years, but clearly haven't been listening.

Any ideas?

kazwookie

Ignore them, do what is best for your family / you, and wish them well for the future.

Good luck with the move.

fluffymuffy

Why are you even talking to these people?

Kayalana99

What exactly are you asking? You know these are ridulous comments.

aliasojo

I assume you just really want to chat about this?

You're not seriously looking for 'answers' as such?

You know you ignore them, right? As Fluffy says, why are you even talking to them about any of this?

mummyroysof3

Just ignore them. I would if any of our families made stupid comments. Just do what's best for you

CH27

What relation are the extended family?

securityguy

Why on earth are you talking to, never mind paying any attention to, these people? Just tell them to !!!! off.

Counting_Pennies_2

I assume these are your mothers relatives, ie your siblings, so they think they have a stake in her life.

If not totally ignore.

If it is them then reassure them you have everything in place. Then say you don't wish to speak with them further about it, that you have a good solicitor, and you have thought of everything.

Leave it at that, they have no right interferring in your life. Likewise though you should not go into further discussion with them about the housemove if you don't wish to have interference

peachyprice

Are they offering to come round and do your mum's shopping, help her up the stairs, stick up for you when the neighbours are bullying? No, didn't think so.

It's none of their business where you and your mum choose to live. Nod, smile sweetly and carry on with your plans.

mumonashoestring

I wonder if they've lived in the same place for a very long time? People have a tendency to project their fears onto others and it's possible they've wanted to move in the past but these are all the fears that stopped them doing it, and now they simply can't get their heads around you being less worried about these things than they were.

We're looking at moving soon and I've certainly noticed that my parents, who have lived in the same house for 35 years, are ringing often to ask if we've thought about checking for flood risk, checking crime stats for the area, checking local schools etc., whereas my MIL, who used to be an army wife and has lived all over the place, is excited for us and looking forward to seeing where we move to