Your childrens friends

chewynut

My mum was really good at letting me have whoever I wanted over. In hindsight, I wish she'd stepped in when she started having doubts about a certain two friends. It would've saved me a lot of anguish in the future!

There's only one kid I can ever remember her telling me not to play with. A new family moved in down the road and the first time we played together, we happily swapped all my Barbies for his Action Men and we were happy as larry. I was a ginormous tomboy and I'm guessing he was...well...:o I don't know if comments were made because I hardly saw him around after that

kloana

Getting off the point slightly, but just been reminded of something I haven't thought about in years!

When I was little, my mum used to babysit other kids on and off, for example she'd pick up extra kids (pre-arranged, obviously!!) who went to our school, and would watch them for a few hours until parents came home from work.

She got paid for this, but she eventually had to stop minding one 'regular' girl. Her dad was newly-divorced, and was raising her alone. He had a very good job (paid mum quite a bit over the odds for her work), but his little girl was a disgusting eater. She would eat with her mouth wide open, and would make the most obscene chewing/lip-smacking noises. She wasn't a baby (she was 8/9), so she was old enough to know better. She also didn't have any physical conditions (that we knew of) that would make her eat this way. It was bizarre - she was a well-raised girl from a good home. She was actually borderline posh.

Myself and my brother actually cried in frustration with the situation once. We had a tiny house and no dining room/kitchen table, so we had few places to retreat to to prevent us from almost vomiting when we ate our own tea alongside her. My mum would (politely) ask her to eat nicely, whereas us kids would ask her not so politely. Mum even approached her dad, delicately, to drop hints. But in over a year, this didn't improve.

Argh, I'm shuddering at the thought of it now.

Treevo

I don't think there's anything wrong with encouraging the right kind of friendships for young children, and discouraging the wrong sort from being anything other than 'in school/nursery playmates.

Hezzawithkids

missindecisive wrote: »

There are no children that I won't let in the house, but then none have been as badly behaved as mentioned above.

However, I must admit over the years, there have been one or two that I have not warmed to, and have always watched the clock waiting for them to go home! Things like, climbing on the back of the sofa, handstands infront of the tv, rumaging through the kitchen cupboards for more food, helping themselves to extra icelollies from the freezer when theyve had 3 already, being cheeky...the list goes on. Yes, my own kids are not perfect, far from it, but they know how to behave at other peoples houses Im sure. :rotfl:

Ditto. DS has a best friend who I struggle to have in the same room as me let alone in my house, but DS likes him so I tolerate him. This kid is rude, lazy, untidy, sulky, sullen, bad tempered - the list goes on. He also makes disgusting noises when he eats and doesn't appear to have the words "please" or "thank you" in his vocabulary. He throws a total paddy if he doesn't get his own way and I try and tell DS that he shouldn't give in too easily - he knows that his friend's behaviour is unacceptable and tries to make up for it, bless him. He doesn't come round often these days but I do find myself on edge whenever he's in the house and counting the minutes until he goes.

19lottie82

kloana wrote: »

his little girl was a disgusting eater. She would eat with her mouth wide open, and would make the most obscene chewing/lip-smacking noises. She wasn't a baby (she was 8/9), so she was old enough to know better. She also didn't have any physical conditions (that we knew of) that would make her eat this way. It was bizarre - she was a well-raised girl from a good home.

That sounds like a guy I used to sit across from in work!

I can tell you about a kid I DO like!
My neighbour had her niece staying so my OH invited her to play with his DD as they were the same age (7).
They had been playing outside and came into the livingroom where i was sitting watching TV, then they went in to the kitchen, where i heard her ask DD, "Is that your big sister?"

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

sweetme

I have pretty much an open house for my kids and their friends. I have a limit of 9pm though and they have to be gone, unless they are sleeping over.

There's only been one that I will never allow in here again but she assaulted both me and my daughter. Mixed up kid

balletshoes

sweetme wrote: »

I have pretty much an open house for my kids and their friends. I have a limit of 9pm though and they have to be gone, unless they are sleeping over.

There's only been one that I will never allow in here again but she assaulted both me and my daughter. Mixed up kid

how old are your kids sweetme? If my DD's friends are at mine they are usually gone by around 7.30pm, same if she's at her friends houses, I expect her home by then. She's 12.

The only time thats been extended is in the height of the summer, when its not dark until well after 8.30pm, then I let the kids stay until its just starting to get dark, and DD can stay out til then too.

ouchy2012

My son has never had friends round, we didn't live near any of his friends and so none came round to 'call' for him, now though we have moved and have a lovely bunch of kids my son plays with but they usually play in the garden.

With a young baby who naps often I'd rather not have lots of children running around, wouldn't mind him having one over but there is usually at least 3/4 of them.

mazza111

I've got mainly open house, or I had, they are grown up now. But there was one of the DS's friends who was a tea leaf, got told not to come back and one of my DD's who I just didn't like. Felt rotten about it, something I just couldn't put my finger on.

2 weeks later I got a call from the police, saying she had been caught shoplifting, and had the cheek to give them my phone number.

valk_scot

You know your children's friends like you btw when they say hello to you in the street or introduce you to their mothers in Tesco. I'm not "John's Mum" though, or "Mrs Smith, John's mum". I'm "Mrs John'sMum", lol. Even the teenagers won't call me by my first name.


(And no, my name isn't Smith, nor is DS called John. Example, you know?)