What mainstream things do you NOT allow your children to do?

ash28

raq wrote: »

Does any parent not let their children play with special needs children in the school playground or outside school?? I bet there are a few on this website.

Why??? that is how I feel as my son is special needs and they SNUB you at our primary mainstream school. So tiny things liking smoking, and certain things on t.v. to me are way down my list.

Manners go hell of a long way in my eyes.

Sorry just had to be said

When my children were at school there were no special needs children in the school.

However their junior school was right next door to a special needs school, they used to have shared assemblies, watch each other's Christmas plays, the older kids would help out a the Christmas party etc....the playgrounds were separated but adjoining and I suppose they had a lot of exposure to special needs children who would now be in mainstream school and to severely disabled children.

Once we were visiting an aunt of mine and her step daughter in law visited at the same time with her profoundly disabled son.

The kids never turned a hair when he was carried in and laid on a bean bag, didn't stare, absolutely nothing...other than to ask his mother his name and say "hello Scott" and tell him who they were. His mother was absolutely amazed.

It was then I realised that what was a sore point for many of the parents in the school was actually very beneficial for the children.

Our grandson did have an issue with a special needs boy in school for a while, he used to come home and say that he had been punched, kicked and pushed over...while in the classroom. They would be about 6 or 7. Annoyed, you bet I was.

Off I went to the school, to tell them in no uncertain terms that I didn't send him to school to be physically attacked....turned out that the child needed his own space...and GS kept invading his space. And when his space was invaded the child lashed out.

So a good telling off for GS who I told to stay away from him, I got to know his mother and grandmother and they were lovely,...in the end they sorted themselves out, it started off by GS coming home and when I asked him what he done at school he would say "I played with X today", and they are friends to this day. But it took a while.

sunflower_2

shoppaholic_returns wrote: »

I have a large breed dog who is about as calm as it comes, and loves kids, they hang off her,pull her tail and she's not bothered.

be careful - i once got slated for saying something along the same lines

the poster must have been watching too many RSPCA adverts and thought my brute was being tortured

made me feel sad for a good 7 minutes

butler_helen

notanewuser wrote: »

Wait till you have a 2 year old. Softplay turns from scary death trap into total heaven. Provided you go during school hours, of course!

No no, I can't imagine that :rotfl: Swimming pools with large slides and bouncy slides don't scare me though - you'd think they would fill me with horror:eek:

Ask me in 2 years and 18wks and I will confirm or deny if you were right

notanewuser

butler_helen wrote: »

No no, I can't imagine that :rotfl: Swimming pools with large slides and bouncy slides don't scare me though - you'd think they would fill me with horror:eek:

Ask me in 2 years and 18wks and I will confirm or deny if you were right

I first went to one with a friend and her 2 year old, on a Sunday afternoon, when DD was about 4 months old.

It HORRIFIED me. I swore I'd never go there again.

It's now me of our favourite midweek places and we go most weeks!! :rotfl:

Person_one

sunflower wrote: »

be careful - i once got slated for saying something along the same lines

the poster must have been watching too many RSPCA adverts and thought my brute was being tortured

made me feel sad for a good 7 minutes

They were probably concerned that your child will do the same to a less tolerant dog.

Actually, was it me?

fawd1

Hmm, what do I ban... Not much really. I moderate a lot (TV, sweets, fizzy drinks etc) but other than that I tend to only ban things that may cause death or a broken limb. E.G. my 2 year old climbing a tree all by himself ( because "I do it mummy, I do it!"-nah!!). The only thing I've absolutely banned is tea for anyone under the age of 14-kids don't like coffee anyway (believe it or not my SIL gave her child weak tea in a BOTTLE from the age of 2). And the only child whos house they haven't been allowed to go to is the one whose mother has black teeth. Now she's obviously a healthy woman now, however, teeth like she has at her age only indicates to me serious levels of drug abuse, so no, I'm not happy for my kids to go there. Other than that, they can go nuts and be normal kids

katieclampet

Can I ask what's wrong with giving children weak tea? Mine all had a cup of tea from about 9 months old (in their own little cup, with a handle and help as needed).

Is this a new thing, (my children are grown up), genuinely interested to know.

katie

fluffymuffy

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

- I do not allow my son to watch ANY tv/DVDs etc (reason - I'm a primary school teacher and strongly believe in children being active/mentally stimulated. I focus on reading books, doing arts and crafts, nature walks, bug hunting etc).

We didn't allow ours to watch any TV until the oldest was about 8, and we realised we were creating social misfits as they didn't know enough about popular culture to join in with pretend games with other children. Just basic stuff like what a mutant ninja turtle was, and batman, superman etc (going back some years here).

So we decided to get a TV with a video slot and be very selective.

fluffymuffy

katieclampet wrote: »

Can I ask what's wrong with giving children weak tea? Mine all had a cup of tea from about 9 months old (in their own little cup, with a handle and help as needed).

Mine were all fully breastfed until I weaned them onto weak tea (no sugar) at various ages between 11month and 2 years. Juice and Pop was something they got at other people's birthday parties.

cazziebo

We didn't have a TV at all until my DDs were early teens, and that was a gift from an uncle who thought lack of a telly was a form of child abuse! Both DDs were superb readers, and had read 70-80 of the most read book list which was published at the time...

It didn't last. Youngest DD only ever reads Heat magazine and spends every spare moment watching car crash telly. The oldest has encyclopaedic knowledge of every US drama series... They both certainly made up for the lost years! :rotfl:

Their friends always thought our house was more fun. The only problem was getting babysitters..although where we lived babysitters could be very choosy and wouldn't accept anywhere with less than the full Sky package and a three course takeaway....