Bettering myself is better for my ex!

shop-to-drop

Just looked it up and maintenance is definitely worked out on net pay (after NI, tax and pension contributions are taken out).

krashovrload

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I still remember getting the letters announcing that I was being migrated from CSA1 to CSA2 which was going to reduce my maintenance payments from about 33% down to 15%...

It said that I had been reassessed and would be paying £30. It then went into great detail about the phasing and how it was going to take 5 years to get from about £62 down to £30...

...And the key reason for the phasing? To give the PWC time to get used to the reduced payments...

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clearingout

so...had you and your ex remained together for the duration and you had 'bettered yourself', your son would have benefitted from a better standard of living. Why should he not benefit because you are now separated?

clearingout

kevin137 wrote: »

Which is sadly a fact of the CSA, but the best you can hope for is that it comes to an end, which it most definitely will.

And then where will you ex be, no lifestyle, no money and racking up debt...

But you can live in the knowledge that you did what you should, provided for your child. And she will have to live with the knowledge that while that money was provided to look after him, it is SHE that will be missing it...

why make that assumption? why assume she is unable to manage her money effectively or make plans for her future? Contrary to popular opinion there are plenty of PWC who are able to manage their own futures, with our without the financial support of their ex. I have more money in the bank today on a very modest wage and 3 children to provide for in full 'cos my ex doesn't/won't than I ever had when I was married and we were on two full-time wages...it's a question of priorities...and in my case, removal of the dead weight!

Plongeur

clearingout wrote: »

so...had you and your ex remained together for the duration and you had 'bettered yourself', your son would have benefitted from a better standard of living. Why should he not benefit because you are now separated?

Re-read my post, absorb it, then comment.

I make sure that my son never wants or needs for anything, and providing money for him is not an issue. The issue is that the money is being used to promote my ex's lifestyle, and that of her current family.

Bluemeanie_2

Does your ex have more children by someone else? If yes I definitely see where you're coming from. I guarantee your money will subsidise her new children one way or another.

clearingout

Plongeur wrote: »

Re-read my post, absorb it, then comment.

my comment still stands...what is the issue? You want to cap that because in your opinion, a child can a) only cost so much and b) you earned less when you split up so don't see why your child should have a better standard of living.

Whilst I am not necessarily in disagreement with the fact that a child can only cost so much, your child absolutely has a right (legal and in my opinion, moral) to benefit from the success of BOTH his parents and benefit from an increased income in exactly the same way he would have done had you remained together. This is a completely different point to your affirmation that you don't have a problem paying for your child.

Dogger69

I am intrigued as to how much the OP thinks is "too much". I expect we all have different ideas of what such an amount may be.

kevin137

clearingout wrote: »

and in my case, removal of the dead weight!

And in his case he bettered himself despite the need for her, yet he is still expected to up the money for there lifestyle as he earns more...

We go round and round in circles with these arguments... Why should the kids life suffer as a result...? Well he has done something to better himself and was asking a simple question...

I didn't hear him complain about paying for his son, just that it has gone up and is probably more than most people earn as a wage, i think i would be a little bit !!!!ed at this myself as would most normal people...!!!

We don't know the circumstances or what was paid previously for sure... But she may of been the one to walk out, take half of the household etc and then EXPECT more for child support...

Which always brings me back to the fact that the courts should deal with this... It is quicker, more power to deal with non payment and takes into account circumstances...

Maybe a more transparent reasoning with the finances is a better idea, i mean lets be honest, the PWC has NO right to know how much the NRP earns, but it is very simple to work out... How about the PWC having to disclose how much she earns or receives in benefit as well and that will level the playing field...!!! Or is that just wrong...???

And i believe the limit is capped at £2000 CS a month, although even this can be varied under an application for further support...!!!

Macca83_2

Plongeur can you be sure that your ex hasn't bettered herself in much the same way you have?