Separated, how much should I provide?

duchy

So it was a good night then

Excellent

Gigervamp

Keep hydrated and take it easy.

CH27

So glad you had a good night

JackRS

My son initiated a communication by text yesterday discussing some sports news (he supports the same football club as me). He also told me he was working most days doing 40 hours a week. I asked if he was thinking of going on a snowboard holiday this winter (as we’d been on some together in the past), he said he wasn’t as saving for other things (car insurance in Feb etc). He’d love to but not what he can spend his money on. I told him that I was very proud of him working out his own priorities and being independent.

He achieved excellent results in his Business Studies college course in the first year and is looking to do an apprenticeship at a bank when he finishes next summer. I’ve sent him some links to a few places that are running apprenticeships and advised him to find out about the recruitment process as they start earlier than you think and you don’t want to miss the boat. Also to apply for as many as possible as it’ll increase chances but also give him experience, most of them do a telephone interview if you get to that stage so more practice and experience you get the better prepared you become.

I remember applying for graduate training schemes, I went to 7 assessment centre 2 day events in a 4 week period around Easter time. Some of the tests, group exercises and interview questions were similar so you got to be more relaxed about them and performed better. I was so used to doing those logic test that I sat the Mensa IQ test, thank goodness it didn’t have a spelling and grammar bit, I hear you all say…I know but in my day at school it wasn’t called dyslexia you were called thick and given extra spelling and reading exercises, I wasn’t diagnosed until I reach my 30’s a couple of years back

Mediation Friday, all the documents in today!

19lottie82

That's great Jack, it sounds like your son is developing in to a fine level headed young man! Great developments since you started this thread. You should be proud of him!

I worked for BAE systems a few years back and used to assist with the apprentice interviews and they were a lot more in depth than people would imagine. A large part of it was "group tasks" where they would assess how your interacted with other people. You had to be confident but not over dominant, and also listen to what others had to say.

JackRS

19lottie82 wrote: »

That's great Jack, it sounds like your son is developing in to a fine level headed young man! Great developments since you started this thread. You should be proud of him!

I worked for BAE systems a few years back and used to assist with the apprentice interviews and they were a lot more in depth than people would imagine. A large part of it was "group tasks" where they would assess how your interacted with other people. You had to be confident but not over dominant, and also listen to what others had to say.

Yes I get involved with assessment centers for Graduates for my company and conduct interviews. I always look out for those who don't jump in, assess the situation and who know what they don't know or understand, it's a very subtle difference.

I remember at a parent teacher review with my daughter the teacher explaining that true scientist is one who knows what he doesn’t know or understand. It’s true in Engineering and in good management, if you know what you don’t know or understand there’s a chance you’ll seek advice and expertise from your team. Sorry gone of on a crusade of self righteousness, better stop

RAS

JackRS wrote: »

Yes I get involved with assessment centers for Graduates for my company and conduct interviews. I always look out for those who don't jump in, assess the situation and who know what they don't know or understand, it's a very subtle difference.

I remember at a parent teacher review with my daughter the teacher explaining that true scientist is one who knows what he doesn’t know or understand. It’s true in Engineering and in good management, if you know what you don’t know or understand there’s a chance you’ll seek advice and expertise from your team. Sorry gone of on a crusade of self righteousness, better stop

Happen to agree.

A flat mate was a medical student and kept failing his MCQs. He was answering 90 percent, getting 60 per cent right and failed to understand why he failed the whole assessment (negaitve marking).

I explained that what they were testing was not how much he knew but whether he knew what he did not know. Because IRL a doctor who knows the limits of their knowledge is safe and inquisitive and one guesses is dangerous. I tutored him to stop answering when he had done 60% of the questions. He starting passing.

JackRS

RAS wrote: »

Happen to agree.

A flat mate was a medical student and kept failing his MCQs. He was answering 90 percent, getting 60 per cent right and failed to understand why he failed the whole assessment (negaitve marking).

I explained that what they were testing was not how much he knew but whether he knew what he did not know. Because IRL a doctor who knows the limits of their knowledge is safe and inquisitive and one guesses is dangerous. I tutored him to stop answering when he had done 60% of the questions. He starting passing.

That's much better example and more critical, and also reassuring!

CH27

I'm so pleased your son is communicating again Jack.
Your patience is paying off.

kelpie35

I am so pleased that your son is communicating with you again, you must be so proud of their achievements.

I always said you are a wonderful dad and now you might be able to see some light at the end of this very dark tunnel.

I will be thinking about you on Friday and hope things go well for you.