£21,000 to pay off -but we will do it this time.

mummytogirls

Oh Pennywise, what a lovely friend you have there! I love it when people expect you to be mind readers when they haven't exactly been in contact either!!! At the end of the day she doesnt sound like she's doing a lot to change her situation so I think you are better off without her.

Enjoy your haircut tomorrow! You do deserve it as we all know xx

pennywisepoundstupid

debtfreeoneday wrote: »

I'm sure you're a lovely friend.. :-)

Enjoy the hair appointment! x

Thanks DF1D, she just has a way of making me feel like I'm a really bad person.

DH made a good point about the fact it's a very one sided friendship and she does a lot of taking, for example if she wants to go out for a drink she always manipulates it so I have to go over to her which means I have to drive and be the taxi service for the evening, yet if it's doing something with the kids she is quite happy to drive to me, as it's our house that gets trashed and us paying out for food to feed them all.

I feel so sad .

pennywisepoundstupid

pennywisepoundstupid wrote: »

Morning.

Feeling low today and for once it's not money that has caused it.

I Know I'm a bit of a control freak and that I like things done in a certain way, I know I have an issue with time keeping and if i'm running late it makes me anxious, I also can't stand being kept waiting and get wound up if someone is late and they don't let me know if they are running late, which I know is not always possible but most people do have a mobile on them. I got really upset last night because I was kept waiting in the pouring rain for half an hour, the kids were soaked through and freezing cold, when my friend arrived I was very offhand and I know this was wrong, but she couldn't really see it from my points of view and just said she couldn't get parked, which I know is a pain and the reason why I parked away from the event and walked to meeting place. I know she was annoyed with me and talking about me to others because I'd sent a snotty text wanting to know where she was, so I now feel I'm to blame and blew it all out of proportion as DH can't understand why I'm still upset (his time keeping is also carp).

Sorry for the rant/ waffle just needed to offload, feel like I'm going mad.

This was same friend .

debtfreeoneday

Please don't feel sad.

Friendship should be a two way street.. and true friendship lasts through life's ups and downs.. sending hugs!

pennywisepoundstupid

mummytogirls wrote: »

Oh Pennywise, what a lovely friend you have there! I love it when people expect you to be mind readers when they haven't exactly been in contact either!!! At the end of the day she doesnt sound like she's doing a lot to change her situation so I think you are better off without her.

Enjoy your haircut tomorrow! You do deserve it as we all know xx

Thanks Mummy, starting to think that maybe she isn't that good a friend.

sweetpea26

Penny I used to have a 'friend' like that. Her marriage was falling to pieces and she was cracking up...I spent every night for literally 6 months talking to her for about an hour on the phone...her parents are good friends of mine and I really did not mind doing it. She then moved home to live with her parents...she manipulated me ...put me in a position to witness her divorce papers. Something I should not have done as I should not have been party to this due to my own beliefs.

She then systematically wore me down..always making digs at my faith etc. She would meet up for coffee and I always offered to pay for us or paid my share. One day I arrived and she had already ordered hers and was sitting drinking her tea..!! I thought what one earth am I doing here? This person has no respect for me. I then did not rush contact with her... It took a while but she soon got the message. Told her to stop playing the victim and move on from her past to a better future..she did not like this one bit. I found out later that she has a habit of treating people like this...draining them dry and then moving on to the next mug who would feel sorry for her.

She spent the next year searching for a new husband and got one...hell bent on what she wanted. I was then dropped like a hot potato. Boy but it has taught me a very good lesson.

I would help anyone that I could but you have to follow your gut instincts and not put up with people because you think it is the right thing to do. Break the connection if you can. You will be happier for it.

Sorry for the rant but users really annoy me. No one but them has a problem.

sweetpea26

oh and enjoy your trip to the hairdressers you deserve it.

poohbear59

pennywise a hair appointment is not naughty. It is not as though you go every week like some people. Enjoy the pampering

And like others have said I am sure you are not a bad friend it is just that some people expect you to be able to mind read.

pennywisepoundstupid

sweetpea26 wrote: »

Penny I used to have a 'friend' like that. Her marriage was falling to pieces and she was cracking up...I spent every night for literally 6 months talking to her for about an hour on the phone...her parents are good friends of mine and I really did not mind doing it. She then moved home to live with her parents...she manipulated me ...put me in a position to witness her divorce papers. Something I should not have done as I should not have been party to this due to my own beliefs.

She then systematically wore me down..always making digs at my faith etc. She would meet up for coffee and I always offered to pay for us or paid my share. One day I arrived and she had already ordered hers and was sitting drinking her tea..!! I thought what one earth am I doing here? This person has no respect for me. I then did not rush contact with her... It took a while but she soon got the message. Told her to stop playing the victim and move on from her past to a better future..she did not like this one bit. I found out later that she has a habit of treating people like this...draining them dry and then moving on to the next mug who would feel sorry for her.

She spent the next year searching for a new husband and got one...hell bent on what she wanted. I was then dropped like a hot potato. Boy but it has taught me a very good lesson.

I would help anyone that I could but you have to follow your gut instincts and not put up with people because you think it is the right thing to do. Break the connection if you can. You will be happier for it.

Sorry for the rant but users really annoy me. No one but them has a problem.

Hi sweetpea, thankyou for posting. She sounds like a lovely person to be around.......NOT and for her to make digs at your faith is truly awful:eek:, friends should respect each others beliefs even if they are not the same as their own.

pennywisepoundstupid

poohbear59 wrote: »

pennywise a hair appointment is not naughty. It is not as though you go every week like some people. Enjoy the pampering

And like others have said I am sure you are not a bad friend it is just that some people expect you to be able to mind read.

Thankyou Pooh, I had a lovely time being pampered.