MSE pregnancy club II

caleo

Agutka wrote: »

OMG, this is gonna kill me! Who's idea was it that when your baby is due, you have to redecorate?? We have barely started (and this isn't even the nursery!!) and I am in soooooo much pain. Hubby has spent the whole day muttering under his nose about 'getting someone in', but hey, who's that rich?
Although I must say, this is getting my fitness levels up from the rock bottom they recently hit (ie unable to walk up the stairs).

Congratulations to all the new arrivals.
Every time I see a baby, I think aah, I want one!:rotfl:

Glad we aren't the only ones! In the last 4 weeks, we have had a door put into the side of our house, redecorated, the lounge, repainted the kitchen, moved DD1 into the small room in preparation for DD2 and her new sibling to share the larger room..........and we are now stripping the room ready for painting!!!!

Weeeeelllll, I have to admit that it is DH who id doing the majority of the work!!!!:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: I have pulled a few strips of wall paper off though!!;)

Caleo
10 days till EDD

Agutka

You're doing better than me then! Although I have pulled more than one strip of wallpaper *proud*. We have spent the last few weeks trying to clear the house of accumulated junk, but only succeded in moving it all to our bedroom... and the bed. So have been sleeping on the sofa. Am getting fed up now, as time shows no signs of slowing...

Counting_Pennies_2

Hi all,

I keep forgetting that we have a dedicated thread for pregnancy. I am so used to posting new threads on the forums on other matters.

Well after posting some weeks ago about a bleed, it was then discovered I have antibodies in my 28 week check. I have been under consultant care for the last few weeks and the levels aren't great, so they have now given me steroids in readiness to deliver the baby next week if things haven't settled down by the next consultant appointment.

It is all so scary. I am petrified that I might lose the baby, or that it will be too poorly to survive. The consultant is being very calm, but I am finding it hard to keep myself positive, even though I know I am in the best position I could be with them monitoring me. I am then upset on a selfish level that I have been told I will be two floors away from baby once it is delivered, as they only have 2 rooms for parents to stay with baby in special care and they are often for babies who aren't going to make it. I know of course they deserve to be with their babies more than I will, but I wish there was better access to being closer to special care. I have been told you are limited to time you can spend with baby, this is so different to my relatively straight forward birth with my son. I have asked to have a look around special care to prepare myself, but told due to obvious reasons they don't allow it.

I keep getting emotional, and at night I am getting bad dreams, I think partly through stress, and partly the side effects of the steroids I have taken.

Has anyone else had steroids to take for a prem baby to get their lungs etc mature in time for delivery, did you find you had side affects?

alison6692

Really sorry that you are having such a worrying time counting_pennies. I have no advcie I am afraid just want to say - Wishing you all the best and really hope everything goes well x Alison x

Justie

HUGE congrats to the new mums and new additions to the list :T noodlebutty she's gorgeous!

we had our last NCT antenatal yesterday and have already arranged for all of us mums to meet up so we get into the habit before the babies are born. I thought the classes were great and I'd highly recommend them to anyone who's expecting. One of the main things I got from them was that the medical terminology often makes things sound worse than they are - so an emergency c-section is just any section that's not been preplanned, it doesn't mean mum or baby is about to croak and are going to be rushed into theatre and given a general anaesthetic etc. And that foetal distress covers a whole range of things and that you need much more information so you can make a decision about whether you need intervention then and there or whether just more monitoring is needed. I feel much more empowered as I understand more of the processes so we can talk as a couple beforehand about what we want and should decisions have to be made I know my OH will have a clear idea of what I do and don't want.

Agutka

Justie, what does foetal distress cover then? I don't remember them talking about that.
I agree it is so good to have things explained. When I look in books now, they lack so much info... Although none of it has made it real for me yet .

Curious_George_2

Agutka wrote: »

Justie, what does foetal distress cover then? I don't remember them talking about that.
I agree it is so good to have things explained. When I look in books now, they lack so much info... Although none of it has made it real for me yet .

i know its usually if the babies heart rate dips (even slightly) during a contraction, im sure there are lots of things that can cause it but im sure they only way they can actually measure 'distress' is by what the heartbeat is doing

and comments like this

what are you still doing here welshlassie

are banned in this thread!!!
we are all in the same boat. lets not turn into those people who cant let a day go by without asking "you still here then?" and "havent you had that yet?" (my most hated of questions!!)



hello and congrats to all the newbies (how many!!!... was there nothing on TV?? )

Justie

Curious_George wrote: »

i know its usually if the babies heart rate dips (even slightly) during a contraction, im sure there are lots of things that can cause it but im sure they only way they can actually measure 'distress' is by what the heartbeat is doing

the heart rate may also increase or if there's meconium in the waters or sudden excessive movements.

SOME babies who show signs of foetal distress need to born asap but just because the words foetal distress are mentioned doesn't mean it's suddenly an emergency situation. The medical terminologies of birth are often umbrella terms that cover a whole range of outcomes and there are very few occasions when there isn't time to ask what's ACTUALLY happening, what the risks are, what the benefits of intervention now are, what the alternatives are, what would happen if no intervention was used etc. The medics have to inform you of the possible risks but sometimes it's not balanced by how small those risks can be or what other alternatives there are and in the moment it's very easy to get scared and just go with the medical flow when it's not always necessary. Obviously though there are times when medical intervention IS required but all of us have to make a judgement of when to go with the medical worries which may include future litigation etc or when to ask for a few more minutes to see what's happening - not easy to do in the middle of labour when you're being told your baby is in 'distress'.

Curious_George_2

I get ya, but babies can also poo themselves for no other reason and also start moving about madly because they are being sucked down a strange tube towards the light :rotfl:

i watch enough baby progs for the terminology not to freak me out though(luckily!)
but your right, and sadly we are living in the age of 'too much information'
the docs have to tell you everything and sometimes you really dont need to know!

3KIDSNOMONEY

I Definitely Think We Get Too Much Information. Sometimes I Am Even Scared To Read This Thread In Case I Read Something Else To Worry About.