Need help to find out what I am owed

bigboybrother

shedboy94 wrote: »

I'm assuming you will be moving in with her because if she is receiving DLA at HCC then the criteria for that is that she requires help or supervision day and night, so I'm assuming it will be a struggle to care for a child when she needs daily and nightly care herself.

Maybe more thought and effort is being placed in what they can claim as two single people instead of as a couple?

Oh yes I forgot, he wants her to get a bigger council house so that he can move in with her. Then a year or two down the line decides to purchase it off the housing association at a knock down price?

ryanmurphy

nannytone wrote: »

yet you havent moved in together.

committed enoufg to get her pregnant but not committed enough toppay her bills[
the more you say then the worse you appear.
you are having a baby through choice. so support it and the mother5/B]

Please refer to post 18 of this thread where I clearly state that I will pay the relevant bills. Since I am moving in with her with the clear intention of supporting her and my child then your post is inane.

The more I see that you do not read nor comprehend what I have written, the more of an idiot you seem.

ryanmurphy

shedboy94 wrote: »

I'm assuming you will be moving in with her because if she is receiving DLA at HCC then the criteria for that is that she requires help or supervision day and night, so I'm assuming it will be a struggle to care for a child when she needs daily and nightly care herself.

Exactly. Her mother currently looks after her, I will help with that role.

ryanmurphy

bigboybrother wrote: »

Errr yes, by working for it? Why do you think that I have a responsibility to pay you via the tax I pay more money so that you can give your child a better lifestyle than my own grandchildren have where their parents have two jobs each to make ends meet?

As per my previous post, we live in an inclusive society. As per my previous post there are demarcation lines. If I am entitle to something, then so too are many others who make equal to or less than myself.

If your grandchildren's parents have to work two jobs to provide the same income as my single job then I applaud their commitment to their family and sacrifice. However everyone is born with equal oppourtunities in life. If your children want to make more money then they should have perhaps chosen another career?

It is not my fault that they do not.

nannytone_2

then theres no problem. you earn more than enough to look after both of you and the baby,

theres only an issue because you thought you should have ab ebtitkenebt to mire

ryanmurphy

bigboybrother wrote: »

Maybe more thought and effort is being placed in what they can claim as two single people instead of as a couple?

Oh yes I forgot, he wants her to get a bigger council house so that he can move in with her. Then a year or two down the line decides to purchase it off the housing association at a knock down price?

Actually I want her to get a house that is suitable for her. Again you must be one of the plethora of mind readers frequenting this thread.

I thought the Money Saving Experts Forum would be a place to receive advice on benefits entitlement, not a mouthpiece for illiterate keyboard warriors.

ryanmurphy

nannytone wrote: »

then theres no problem. you earn more than enough to look after both of you and the baby,

theres only an issue because you thought you should have ab ebtitkenebt to mire

I assume you meant to write "an entitlement to more". If you had read my posts and have the intellectual fortitude to comprehend them then you would see that I am merely seeking guidance on if ("if" being the operative word) I am entitled to anything.

Again, the purpose of the topic is to discuss facts relating to benefits, tax credits, etc; not for you to school me on what you feel is morally just.

Jox

The MSE forums are great for advice about saving money on utilities (i.e. finding cheaper service providers for gas, electric etc), ways to save money on food shopping, reducing costs of internet services, satellite tv services, getting cheaper car, home and travel insurance and other ways to save money.

Maybe if you go through all your outgoings you could find ways to save money and make your salary go alot further.

Through the MSE forums I have gained valuable advice and have paid off loans and credit cards and am debt free and now have an ISA and other saving that I didn't think was possible.

I'd love to have a child but worry about how to provide for it. My family has never claimed public money even though my dad didn't earn much or consistently when he supported my mum and us 3 children when we were growing up. Though perhaps I should try to change that mindset as public money is squandered on illegal wars and state funerals that I didn't agree to.

Anyway, this is off topic so to ryanmurphy I would say that if your partner is struggling in her home then she should seek assistance but if you are to be involved in her life and be a boyfriend or husband to her and father to your child then you should contribute to this.

FBaby

ryanmurphy wrote: »

Actually I want her to get a house that is suitable for her. Again you must be one of the plethora of mind readers frequenting this thread.

So why don't you declare yourself as a couple know, which seems from this post you are already, and then claim as a couple, or if it means you don't get the perfect council house for your family, look at renting together? As a matter of fact, it would have been even better to do that before she fell pregnant.

Why are you waiting for her to get a better place to declare yourself as a couple? It's not about living together, it's about being in a committed relationship as if you were married which sounds like that's what you are already.

ryanmurphy

FBaby wrote: »

So why don't you declare yourself as a couple know, which seems from this post you are already, and then claim as a couple, or if it means you don't get the perfect council house for your family, look at renting together? As a matter of fact, it would have been even better to do that before she fell pregnant.

Why are you waiting for her to get a better place to declare yourself as a couple? It's not about living together, it's about being in a committed relationship as if you were married which sounds like that's what you are already.

I can see your point on this one. My logic was that she would get a council house suited to her needs until I had saved a deposit for a new-build.

The reason we haven't moved in together permanently is that her mother and I both act as her carers. I was simply waiting for my lease to expire so I wasn't paying two rents and council tax (one being for a place I would no longer live)