Depression II

Sazbo

Tulip wrote: »

Hi Sazzy,

Have a nice weekend,dont forget your blue smarties

lots of love and light,

Katie xxx

Thanks for reminding me, Katie hunni! I'll pack extra blue smarties!;) Close your ears Tiffy! :rotfl:

Have a fab day K, catch you later.

Sxxxx

Tiff_2

Hi lrs!:hello:
How are you angel?
quote=Let_Robinson_Sing;Thanks Tiffy
Welcome - not a problem hun.;)
Most of the time that i do feel bad is when I am not with me girlfriend (now fiance)

Whoa there mister!!!
(Tiffy goes off down into the Tiff Archives...)

As I thought, I can find no paperwork from you requesting permission to be happy! I told you before that I need a request form filled out in triplicate. This is not your first such offence lrs - consider yourself Tiffed!:D :rolleyes: Any more behaviour like this and I will have no option but to put you on weekend board watch dutys.:eek: Humphh!:rotfl:


Seriously sweetheart, my sincere congratulations to you both on your engagement! :j :j :j I hope you both find the happiness you so deserve.:T :A
Going to miss you not being around so often lrs - sorry always cry at engagements - only because sazzy and I will have to double up on the hat fund now what with you and blinky going to tie the knot! (er, not with each other!:D );)
So when i wasnt with her i get all mopey, miserable and just start feeling generally low but i look to the future and we are going to Australia in 22 days :beer: and moving in in September. I just feel bad because i really wasnt as depressed as i thought i was, i was just missing my girlfriend.xxx/quote

Whatever reasons you had for coming here angel, they were good ones. I'm glad you're starting a new journey and I hope that while you were with us, you found some help and hope and laughter anyway lrs.
There's no reason to feel bad hun - we wouldn't wish depression on anyone.;)
You know where we are if you ever need a shoulder.

NOW GO ON - GET OUTTA HERE AND GO BE HAPPY!!!:j :T :A
Much Love Always,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi gem!:hello:
How are you today hun?
quote=geminilady;Hi Rbk,I am a bit down at the moment seem to be having more down days than up.I don't really want to go back on medication but if i get too low will go see the doc.
I'm sorry you're low angel. Well done on having the back up plan of seeing your dr hun.:T :A

Sad today because it is my birthday (just)
A belated yet very sincere

:j :j :j HAPPY BIRTHDAY GEM! :j :j :j

:j :T :A !

and "N" did not even wish me a happy birthday until i text him at nearly 9pm.I think you asked once before who "N" was,to keep it short he is a text friend who i met online over 4 yrs ago.We have only met in person twice.I would like a relationship with him but he just wants a text friend but even the text friendship is not as i would like.I always text him when it is his birthday and i mentioned a week or two ago the date of mine but still did not get a text.It is not a lot to ask but he could not even manage that.I have said before on here that i know i should stop texting but he is all i have.I suppose when he texts i kid myself he cares so it fills a need if that makes sense./quote
I'm so sorry hun that you feel so alone. You know I only have good things to say about you hun, and you deserve better than n hun.:o
You've summed up your own situation perfectly angel and you've even given yourself the answers. You can't hold a bird that has already flown sweetheart.
I know you've tried going out with someone else hun but you still wanted n. From all you say angel, it's not going to be. I'm not trying to hurt you hun, honestly.:o

I know we can't help who we fall for, but you got ol' Tiff thinking angel. :rolleyes: Grab a pen and paper and let's do some soul-searching. List all the things you love about n. How does he make you feel? What's his personality like?etc. Also write down the things you'd like him to be. And no, this isn't the positive/negative test. Finished hun?



Do you know what you just did angel?


You wrote a shopping list for finding the man for you deserve! So now you can go shopping for the person that ticks all or most (no-one's perfect;) ) of your boxes.

It won't be n sweetheart - you've said yourself that's not going to happen. You're not losing him gem because he was never there with you.
Yet you seem unable to move on because what you see in him, are all the things you want for yourself in a relationship. I don't know about the texting hun or how your relationship is angel, but it already makes you very unhappy and he can't commit even to that. It's not a recipe for a good relationship hunnie.

Your confidence seems low hun so it's not surprising that you are happy for whatever crumbs he gives you - anyone would be! It's your self-esteem that needs your attention angel. Why shouldn't you have a real relationship where the man is actually in your life?:T :A
But you can get out of the vicious circle hun by changing your mobile number and deleting his. First step to a fresh start.;) Now he doesn't exist and won't stop you from finding your real man and not a dream one.;)

It'll be really hard sweetie I know, but this situation is a heavy weight on you and that's not what love should feel like, imho. I know you love him and I don't mean to disrespect you in any way hun, but it's love based on a ghost of a man you want.
Just from reading your posts gem, your warmth, kindness and intelligence come through.:A Please believe in yourself hun - I'm sure I'm not the only one who sees all the positive assets you truly have.;)

If I've upset you, forgive me angel - that's not my intention. Just talking from the heart and not meaning to preach in any way.;) I just hate to see you alone and hurting. Thinking of you sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

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send this rose to everyone you care about including me if you care. C how many times you get this, if you get a dozen your loved"""


that is for everyone on here,a user on My Space website created this and I am just giving it to everyone I like

Katie

Tiff_2

Hi qb!:hello:
Just wanted to say, great graphics!
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tulip

Hi Tiff,

Hope Tiffy is having a great weekend,I am off soon now as want to go out and get some fresh air,I am alright I dont have any boyfriend as I got hurt so much by them and my parents had to pick up the pieces,Life isnt a bed of Roses and the perfect man is out there but its just knowing where to look.I had been engaged once and the boyfriend had been moody so I ended it.I didnt want a moody fiance in my life and I realised I couldnt marry him as I couldnt see him in my life not after being so moody to my friends.I am just happy being single as I can do what I like without sharing it with a boyfriend as you have to compromise and do things together when I like my space and quiet and with someone I lose that freedom.Sorry to preach too I may find the right man someday but until then I am just enjoying life and I am living it the way I want to,I have men friends and for me thats just nice

love and light,

Katie

Tiff_2

geminilady wrote: »

Thanks Rbk,you hit the nail on the head when you said he is never going to be the person i want him to be,i do know that,even as friends i get so frustrated i am an open type of person can talk about anything but he has built a wall around himself and nobody gets in.I suppose it is a type of self protection but it is hard for me because i know i would not hurt him and am honest loyal and trustworthy.I hoped after 4 yrs he would realise that.As to texting i won't, but going by previous experiance he will text me and it will start all over again.I told him once i would never "blank" him and i always keep my word.I just need to distance myself from him.As you know the best way to get someone out of your system is to meet someone else.I have been on a couple of dates recently but when your mind is set on one person it is hard to get interested in another.I will try though.

Hi again gem!:wave:
Atta girl hun!:T You know all the answers as I said. Methinks that maybe a little part of you 'enjoys' the challenge of breaking through to him.
When you are being hurt and neglected hun, it's not about breaking your word - it's about changing your mind and protecting yourself!!! You don't need to keep hurting yourself like this gemmy - throw the sim card away when you're ready hun so he can never jump in and out of your life again and go look for your happiness angel.;)
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

gillette147

Hi folkes,

Very dull day today. Nothing taped or good on TV. Don't feel like going out. MSE very quiet too.

I am becoming really subdued. Not working or seeing anyone has made me really quiet. I don't even join in on MSE much nowdays. I see friends on msn but I stay hidden. I was thinking about it yesterday and I am shocked how quiet I have become. My humour has dwindled, my interest in talking has dried up.

I need to make an effort in finding work now my exam results are in but I find I'm procrastinating.

Hello to Katie xxx
Sazzy - Nice to see you around. Mistya girlie xx
SF - I am sad to read about your troubles. Stay positive xx
GL - You are worth so much more than this bloke sounds like he gives you xxx
Tiff - Blessings as ever xxx
Karrie xxx

Hugs and handshakes to all on here.
Life is something that just needs to be survived sometimes.
So we are all successes.

xxx

Tulip

:Hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all well,Isnt the weather today a scorcher,well I went to that afternoon in the park and Katie got what she wanted The Autograph woohoo He had just declared the fete open and said we could come up and ask questions etc and I didnt hesitate,got the autograph book out and asked nicely for the autograph I spent some money on Raffle tickets and some Marmalade to support the fete It was just nice the weather held for it


Karrie: Dr Who is on this evening at 7.10pm on BBC1 dont forget I will be watching that and of course Any Dream will do,Casualty

so thats my line up for this evening.

*hugs* to Gillette xxx


lots of love and light to all,

Katie xxx

andipandi_2