Neighbour trouble

aileth

MrsE wrote: »

Hawthorn, its savage!

Can you believe my neighbours had the brass neck to complain about my Hawthorn damaging the balls their son kicked over!!!

The sad thing is I can. I hope the garden produces pricks bigger than her

Person_one

aileth wrote: »

Are there any ways to dissuade her spawn from kicking it at the house itself?

And re dog poo, we have already done this once when handing it back. It didn't stop her. Then again, she probably couldn't tell the difference between it and her own 'scent.'


She might actually be an extra-terrestrial with a love of cheap lager and simply lept over.

aileth wrote: »

I would love to ruin her gorgeous lemon adidas tracksuit in grease.

aileth wrote: »

The sad thing is I can. I hope the garden produces pricks bigger than her

aileth, I know you're frustrated, but try not to be dragged down to her level. If it does end up going through more official channels its better that you're squeaky clean and a victim rather than one of two people hurling insults.

red_devil

aileth wrote: »

Hi, wasn't sure where to put this so please move if appropriate. We have a neighbour who lives behind us. She has a son maybe 8-9 years. Son loves football like a lot of young lads and they insist on playing it right next to our house, despite there being a massive park 1 minute walk away. Now, we don't have a problem with that. What we do have a problem with is they both consistently kick it at our house which causes a massive bang, house shakes, sets dog off etc. they've almost nearly smashed our windows countless times.

We've put up with this for months as were not overly confrontational, but this week they've kicked the ball into our garden every single night and demanded we fetch it.

Tonight it came to a head as within a space of 15 minutes she kicked it in twice and came ramming her finger countless times on the door bell whilst we are trying to eat dinner. My OH quite rightly had enough and requested that if she can't keep it out of our garden, could she play it somewhere else, possibly the big park, to which he got a torrent of abuse and her saying that shell just climb over and get it herself. OH then removed ball from her garden and lobbed it in the road rather than passing it to her as normal, cue lots more abuse.

Now, I'm personally a bit worried that, a) she's going to now instruct her spawn to kick it against the house on purpose, and/or b) climb into our garden when we are in (she manoeuvred our bins last time to get in and out and climbed up a wall!)

Do I have any recourse if so? Will the Police do anything? When she kicks it against the wall, it's incredibly intimidating, and surely she can't just let herself into a secure garden when we are in!! She is a fairly coarse individual who according to my OH smirked every time she requested the ball back, so not sure how much we could do. Any advice?

technically if a ball comes over you leave it where it is!

If she comes in your garden yes call the police she is trespassing.

Joons

aileth wrote: »

Well hopefully OH snapping last night might've shown something. He's currently at B&Q buying trellis, berberis plant and the paint and sign Something tells me somebody is going to be getting very sticky and thorny soon.

Thanks for the advice, and hopefully they will understand that if they insist on kicking the ball into the garden countless times a day, they can only now have it back on our terms.

Haha, an update will be anticipated.

heartbreak_star

Good luck aileth, I feel so sorry for that poor kid with a mum like that

Could your OH take him to the park for a kickaround or would she not like that?

HBS x

iwb100

I'm not sure the best way to appease an aggressive sounding neighbour is to antagonise with paint, thorns and the like.

I'd think first a calm conversation explaining your issues with the ball and the distress it causes. If that gets nowhere then a letter through the letterbox (explaining your distress again) (and keep a copy) and if that gets nowhere perhaps make it official, via council or police route.

But be careful as what you might think is mild prevention could easily escalate into "neighbour war".

FatVonD

Joons wrote: »

There in, the problem lies, she thinks she's got the control over you, that you fear her, that she is verbally stronger than you - take some control back, I know it's not encouraged but she sounds like the woman I had the trouble with and the one and only way I knew I could resolve it immediately was to show her I was just as strong and abusive, I'll get slated on here for doing it but I don't care, the problem disappeared overnight, sometimes you have to go to their level and show them that you can be just as fierce.

I agree with you, Joons, sometimes with people like that you need to let them think you're even more of a nutter than they are. Unfortunately it's already gone on too long now with the OP being polite for that to be a tactic.

OrkneyStar

skintchick wrote: »

I am struggling to picture how the house wall can be part of the boundary that they can kick a ball at.

My mum's house is the end of a row. Her back garden and front garden are not joined and there is a path along the side of house which passes right against her wall. Luckily it is the stair/bathroom side but some houses at the opposite ends of the rows have their living room wall essentially open to kicking things against it.

Joons

FatVonD wrote: »

I agree with you, Joons, sometimes with people like that you need to let them think you're even more of a nutter than they are. Unfortunately it's already gone on too long now with the OP being polite for that to be a tactic.

Oh yeah she thinks I'm a nutter alright - suits me fine, she's not someone I would associate with anyway so what have I lost - nothing and gained my peace of mind and that her and her skanky family aint gonna get away with intimidating me - not the course of action for everyone but certainly works for me. I'll never stand for someone attacking me or my family for no other reason than they think they can.

trevor_john

Well done on getting the Berberis, that's got to be the most vicious plant I have ever experienced. if anyone tries to climb over a fence with that bad boy growing up it, well......I can guarantee they'll never try again.

I have a real big berberis hedge and although it's very pretty it makes me physically cry when I have to cut it....it is so painful.