Neighbour trouble

gwynlas

I think you should contact Social Services re abuse, the way she talks to him is emotional abuse,derogatory in language also neglecting his welfare by inadecuate play provision.

newcook

Have a piece of wood with some nails in it – when the ball comes over into the garden you cant help it if the ball gets burst on it… they aren’t to know that you whacked the ball with the wood and nail before passing it back to them and they cant prove that you did it deliberately!

Addiscomber

I suggest that you have a read of this before considering anti vandal paint, sad though it is.
http://www.thelawforum.co.uk/anti-vandal-paint

I agree with those who suggest physical barriers to both interfere with ball on wall if possible, and to make it difficult for her to climb into your property.

When my sister and I were kids we used to play with a tennis ball against a narrow strip of wall beside our outdoor loo door, and of course quite often we missed the wall and hit the wooden door, both our property by the way. It never took long for our neighbour to appear or bang on the wall inside! We thought of her as miserable but I'm feeling quite ashamed now!

aileth

Addiscomber wrote: »

I suggest that you have a read of this before considering anti vandal paint, sad though it is.
http://www.thelawforum.co.uk/anti-vandal-paint

I agree with those who suggest physical barriers to both interfere with ball on wall if possible, and to make it difficult for her to climb into your property.

When my sister and I were kids we used to play with a tennis ball against a narrow strip of wall beside our outdoor loo door, and of course quite often we missed the wall and hit the wooden door, both our property by the way. It never took long for our neighbour to appear or bang on the wall inside! We thought of her as miserable but I'm feeling quite ashamed now!

Well, we didn't want to be the miserable, grumpy fun-killing neighbours so we have been very polite, but now it seems that she is doing it on purpose and we have asked politely to please stop dozens of times. We don't like confrontation, but we are pretty sure she views us as a walkover and we want to prove we are not.

I did read the page and I don't think her slipping would be a problem, as she would need to touch the top of the wall first to pull herself up on it, and surely she would realise then that something is amiss! We would put a warning sign down at the very least.

Addiscomber

aileth, I didn't for a moment mean to suggest that you are miserable and fun-killing. I understand exactly how you must feel about the football. I was just thinking back to how I used to feel as a child and how I feel now.

It does sound as though the mother in your case is trying to wind you up.

Joons

go_cat wrote: »

She sounds such a great role model for her child :eek::eek:

She sounds like she needs a good !!!!en kicking

aileth

Addiscomber wrote: »

aileth, I didn't for a moment mean to suggest that you are miserable and fun-killing. I understand exactly how you must feel about the football. I was just thinking back to how I used to feel as a child and how I feel now.

It does sound as though the mother in your case is trying to wind you up.

Oh no no I didn't mean it that way, I just remember I used to feel that way as a child as well and didn't want to be *that* person, but it's a lot different being on the receiving end eh? I started off not wanting to be *that* person but now I truly understand how *that* person felt heehee!

Well yes we think she is. She seems to have taken us being polite and always handing her the ball back and putting up with it a lot as a reason to try and antagonise us. We want her to know that we aren't pushovers and she can't treat us how she likes, but we also don't want to get in a neighbour war as it's not a particularly good area and she has a lot of 'friends'...

Joons

aileth wrote: »

Well, we didn't want to be the miserable, grumpy fun-killing neighbours so we have been very polite, but now it seems that she is doing it on purpose and we have asked politely to please stop dozens of times. We don't like confrontation, but we are pretty sure she views us as a walkover and we want to prove we are not.

I did read the page and I don't think her slipping would be a problem, as she would need to touch the top of the wall first to pull herself up on it, and surely she would realise then that something is amiss! We would put a warning sign down at the very least.

There in, the problem lies, she thinks she's got the control over you, that you fear her, that she is verbally stronger than you - take some control back, I know it's not encouraged but she sounds like the woman I had the trouble with and the one and only way I knew I could resolve it immediately was to show her I was just as strong and abusive, I'll get slated on here for doing it but I don't care, the problem disappeared overnight, sometimes you have to go to their level and show them that you can be just as fierce.

aileth

Well hopefully OH snapping last night might've shown something. He's currently at B&Q buying trellis, berberis plant and the paint and sign Something tells me somebody is going to be getting very sticky and thorny soon.

Thanks for the advice, and hopefully they will understand that if they insist on kicking the ball into the garden countless times a day, they can only now have it back on our terms.

MrsE_2

aileth wrote: »

Well hopefully OH snapping last night might've shown something. He's currently at B&Q buying trellis, berberis plant and the paint and sign Something tells me somebody is going to be getting very sticky and thorny soon.

Thanks for the advice, and hopefully they will understand that if they insist on kicking the ball into the garden countless times a day, they can only now have it back on our terms.

Hawthorn, its savage!

Can you believe my neighbours had the brass neck to complain about my Hawthorn damaging the balls their son kicked over!!!