I think my friends are trying to convince me I'm going mad when I'm not!

RAS

I would ask "Since when were you medically qualified?"

And check that you are not vulnerable on Facebook?

FBaby

I was thinking, in light of you stating that one of the friends you don't get along that well with in the first place, but you do with the other, whether there might be some benefit with meeting with the 'nice' friend. You might find it much easier talking to her only and make her see that you are in now depressed. You might also find out that she is very different on her own than with the other friend. I would think it is worth a try. If she goes on like she has been, I would forget about both of them.

Joons

I agree, you became assertive, friend 1 didn't likey, friend 1 now poss turning friend 2 against you, ie, you're depressed etc. You stand firm girl, you've done nothing wrong. If either of them are half decent pals, they will see the error of their ways and you'll get them back, if they are genuine friends.

busiscoming2

Agree with what's been said. Friend one is having a hissy fit because you didn't agree with her. She is obviously immature and friend two probably feels bamboozled into taking sides with her.

Ignore them both and get on with your life.

Yorkie1

I don't disagree with the other posters.

I just wonder about the interpretation of the 'losing friends' bit. Everyone here has assumed that it means that the friends will cut her off. I think there may be an alternative interpretation; certainly, I interpreted this completely differently.

If I was friend 1 and one of my friends had suddenly decided to drop contact (to my uninformed and un-self-aware view) for no obvious reason, I'd be getting in touch to say I didn't want to lose their friendship - i.e. that I didn't want them cutting themselves off for whatever reason (e.g. depression).

Just a thought.

meritaten

she is gaslighting you hun - because you had the temerity to disagree with her - and even worse, you stuck to your guns. she is trying to make you doubt yourself and for your other friends to doubt you and side with her.
Drop these two fast! and don't even mention them on facebook - in fact you should 'unfriend' them (or whatever the correct term is for blocking them).
Don't complain and don't explain if others ask what happened 'Just say 'I found out they weren't really friends' and leave it at that.

Savvy_Sue

I'm another one who might give Friend 2 another chance, on her own. If she still can't accept that the OP's not depressed, then that would be it.

Dinosaur_Train

meritaten, gaslighting is exactly what sprung to my mind too about what they are doing.

I've been thinking about this a lot and I'm definitely going to give both a wide berth for now. I don't 'need' the friendship of either of them, and have plenty of other friends. I just think they must discuss me, and if they're discussing me over this, then what else will be discussed, and what else will friend 2 believe? It'll all be fine until friend 1 doesn't get her own way again...

I've seen friend 1 treat others quite badly in the past; she falls out with a fair few people and it's never her fault, always their fault according to her. Looking back a few things have rang warning bells with me regarding my friendship with her in recent months, so I'm going to step back.

Mrs_Imp

The mean part of me says to ask friend 2 if friend 1 is ok, as you're concerned that her accusations of you being depressed are really a cover up for her own health issues.

The sensible part of me says - leave em to it and get on with your life. You don't need friends like that.

Orlando_Virgin

Just bin them off. You seem like a level headed lass who has more than enough friends to compensate.

It's sad when you have to do it, but you shouldn't have to feel that way.