Parents giving my partner and I £50 000 deposit... how do I safeguard this money?

wannahouse

seriousDFW wrote: »

You have to do what you and your parents feel comfortable with. I can understand the argument, I just wouldn't personally want to be involved with that sort of arrangement. Apart from anything, your OH is the father of their grandchildren, so surely it's not the end of the world if this money was split equally on separation? And also there's no saying that IF separation did occur you couldn't come to a mutual agreement about splitting finances? How do you take account of what OH has brought? For example how do you split who has earnt what? Are you going to 'cost' your childcare provision out and compare that to the financial contribution made by your OH through salary? It's messy to be able to determine what and how much is contributed to a real-life partnership.

My parents have gifted me money/cars in the past but if they had offered these with conditions, I would politely refuse, even if this was cutting my nose off to spite my face. Perhaps I'm too trusting and naive. How does your OH feel, out of interest?

And I could completely understand your parents' reservations if you and your OH had not been committed for very long, but it seems perverse to me when you are obviously very much committed to each other.

i don't know why every one is being judgemental?
she shouldn't have to justify reasons for anything, or explain the insand outs of her person life or convictions..she purely asked how to safeguard her parents gift, hich is fair enough, and people are taking it as an opportunitry to be nosey and judge instead of answer the damn question!