Tips on keeping a great relationship

geelamch

Personally I don't think there is easy road to a successful relationship. We are all of a different opinion as to what " is and what isn't ".the only input I would have is to talk ,doesn't matter what about ,if one half is unhappy it will come out and you can usually nip it in the bud so to speak.my wife and I both work awkward shifts however the other always waits up on the other coming home (not for everyone I know) then sit in the dining room ,no tv/distraction and chat.talk about grown up kids etc never work chat.her work life is hers and mine is mine so to speak so in a way I suppose we are a bit independent of each other.oh no !! Sounds like I've just agreed with everyone else.the magic word in a relationship could be "SPACE"

Bazey

Fellatio really works wonders, also if your partner is a non- smoker, invest in some nicotine patches and cover their back with 2 or 3 whilst they are sleeping, carefully remove before they wake. Keep 'em addicted to you.

System

Fulfilling the needs of your loved one and having your needs fulfilled in return.

The problem is when one partner gives and the other just takes.:(

geelamch

Love the post bazey

Joons

andygb wrote: »

I think that this is a really important point, and it would be a good warning to those people in a relationship, who try to mould or change the other person to suit their needs.
Once you have found your "ideal partner", stay with them because of what they are like, don't imagine that you can turn them into something else, because that path can lead to resentment.
We have a relation in her twenties, who married a nice, successful guy, but she is constantly bragging about how she stopped him doing something, be it hobbies or going places. The result is that he has changed, for the worse. He has gone from being outgoing, cheerful and witty, to someone with a short temper. At social gatherings he spends most of his time in the kitchen preparing food and then washing up. His wife doesn't cook and hates housework, and he works long hours, then comes home and has to do more.
I have referred to my OH and me as a "team". We have our ups and downs, life is not a bed of roses, but we can cuddle up on the sofa and watch a film, and go for long walks at weekends - snow permitting:mad:
After 22 years, we are just very comfortable and happy to be with each other, and I guess that is as much as you can hope for.:)

The relation in her 20s is not having a relationship with that guy, she's merely his master and he is her slave, how sad but it takes two to tango.

bitemebankers

Good communication and plenty of bonking.

You can't go wrong.

lostinrates

Laughing a lot. Trusting each other totally....whether its to not let you down, not to laugh at you or to tell you what you need to hear. Prioritising the relationship. Saying sorry sincerely when it's needed, and forgiving sincerely when apologies are offered. Being clear about what works and doesn't work and finding compromise you both can really accept.

andygb

Joons wrote: »

The relation in her 20s is not having a relationship with that guy, she's merely his master and he is her slave, how sad but it takes two to tango.

I agree, and I wonder if he will "snap" suddenly, either have a relationship or simply walk away from it all? The problem is that if that happens, he will lose everything which he has worked for, including the children.
The weird thing is, that although he can be bad tempered with other people, he never says a word to his wife.

Joons

andygb wrote: »

I agree, and I wonder if he will "snap" suddenly, either have a relationship or simply walk away from it all? The problem is that if that happens, he will lose everything which he has worked for, including the children.
The weird thing is, that although he can be bad tempered with other people, he never says a word to his wife.

That's actually quite worrying, hammer, fall, stairs, accident are coming to my mind...:eek:

andygb

Joons wrote: »

That's actually quite worrying, hammer, fall, stairs, accident are coming to my mind...:eek:

Blimey, I hadn't thought of that - "the worm that turned":eek: