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Time to be completely honest

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  • hypno06
    hypno06 Posts: 32,296 Forumite
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    Yes, hope things are ok x
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  • Sea78
    Sea78 Posts: 6,185 Forumite
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    Hi all

    Well, the worst has happened and I have lost the baby. Been up the hospital checking it all out today, but I knew yesterday by the blood and pain (sorry TMI). I'm not sure how I'm feeling at the mo - was really upset but now we are looking at it more practically. We have realised how much we want another though and are going to do everything we can to get out of debt, sort our relationship so that we can start trying again - I can't think about when yet, it'll probably be a more long term plan tbh.

    Thanks for thinking of me. I'll try to be on a bit more, but I've felt so drained and wiped out. Spending has gone haywire - takewaways, and the tv broke, I was in no fit state to argue so OH has bought a new flashy one for £420- but I don't care. He's promised to do the overtime to pay off the payments for 6 months (0%) and so as long as he does that.

    Feel alittle like I'm in a bubble and not really feeling much at all. Was so looking forward to this baby.

    Sea xx
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  • katierose
    katierose Posts: 260 Forumite
    So sorry to read you're news sympathies to you and you're oh.
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  • tigtag02
    tigtag02 Posts: 6,857 Forumite
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    HUGE HUGE hugs sea

    thinking of you all

    tigtag
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  • Seaxwyn
    Seaxwyn Posts: 4,896 Forumite
    Oh Sea, I'm so sorry to hear you lost the baby.

    I'm sure it was meant on some level and that good will come out of his/her brief life. It sounds as if you and OH are communicating better so that's good for a start.

    I lost a baby once and though it was terrible at the time I look back on it now as a positive experience - if that sounds heartless it's really not meant to.

    Take care of yourself now, cuddle those two children, watch that new TV and let the debts take a back seat for now.
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  • SarahNeedle1872
    SarahNeedle1872 Posts: 6,166 Forumite
    Oh Sea, that's terrible news, I'm so so sorry:grouphug: bigs hugs to you.
    Don't know what else to say really x

    Sarah x
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  • ZTD
    ZTD Posts: 24,327 Forumite
    Really sorry to hear your news. Hope things start going better for you soon. It has been a hell of a ride so far.
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  • in_debt_again_but_dealing_with_it
    in_debt_again_but_dealing_with_it Posts: 1,337 Forumite
    Hi Sea
    Huge hug coming your way honey! I've been where you are and no words can take away how you're feeling right now, take comfort in your family, hold your children close and your precious memories of what might have been are important too, don't deny them! Glad your dh is there for you.
    love and hugs
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  • skysky69
    skysky69 Posts: 436 Forumite
    :grouphug: I am so so sorry to hear your sad news. Big hugs to you and your family. My thoughts are with you
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  • slowlyfading
    slowlyfading Posts: 13,429 Forumite
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    I'm sorry to hear that. -hugs- are being sent your way. x x
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