Why do teenagers shout?

valk_scot

Teenagers shout for the same reason that toddlers do, they get over-excited especially when there are others of the same age around. But that's normal, what isn't normal is the aggression and bullying. If her mum is ill and you and OH are naturally quite quiet people, is it perhaps because she's been allowed to get away with this sort of behaviour too much? I realise she's got underlying issues but still, with three adults in the house it's astonishing a 14 year old is bullying the lot of you. At 14 it's a bit late to be starting to teach a child good manners and respect for other people though, it's best started at about age two, if not before. But still, it's worth a try. The three of you could get together and work out some ground rules and then the girl's mother could sit down and have a firm word with her?

And perhaps adult business like property division, OP, is best done at a more formal time away from the kids and away from the dinner table. And in front of a neutral third party, like a solicitor? There's no way that you can teach children that it's not polite to be shouting and arguing over the dinner table if the adults are all doing it.

pollypenny

Teenagers tend to mumble in my experience.

pigpen

pollypenny wrote: »

Teenagers tend to mumble in my experience.

exactly what I was going to say! or they grunt..

I have several teens 17, 15, 14 and 12 .. not quite teen but behaves like she is! and one 21.. I don't tolerate shouting we had enough of that from their vile father. My 17 y/o barely speaks, my 15 y/o has never been a great conversationalist you have to drag words out of her. my 14 y/o spouts complete claptrap 24/7 ditto the 21 y/o. My 18 y/o and 12 y/o never stop talking.. most is self obsessed twittering but at least they speak!

They get louder when they have a friend over I've found.. and silly and speak in stupid voices.

SingleSue

My middle son (16) talks, listens to stuff etc very loudly but that is because he has a hearing deficit.

My eldest son (19) talks loudly because he takes after his father, even his whisper is loud :rotfl:. His father was known as the foghorn.

My youngest son (15) barely talks, let alone shouts but as part of his autism, does have a tourettes like component and will whoop/bark/baa (yes baa like a sheep) very loudly at odd times.

You can imagine what it is like when we go out, planet Zog meets worlds loudest teenagers!

pigpen

SingleSue wrote: »

My youngest son (15) barely talks, let alone shouts but as part of his autism, does have a tourettes like component and will whoop/bark/baa (yes baa like a sheep) very loudly at odd times.

My 17 y/o clicks like a dolphin and has odd facial tics. He has been told off a few times at college for it.. cue psycho mother on the phone

Heffi1

Has anyone thought to to ask the teenager to talk a bit more quietly, my nephew is known for talking loudly, in his case it is to show off and act the big man, but I often ask him to stop shouting or I will not listen anymore, he then reduces the volume and we can have a good chat, but as he gets excited his voice raises, I remind him to stop shouting and so it goes on. In my house, if people are visiting then I expect them to act politely and not shout and scream.

In his own house it is a competition to see who can talk the loudest and therefore get the most attention as the parents don't seem to think any of the kids have anything worthwhile to say...

Speaks volumes.

At least in my house he knows I will listen if he is not shouting.

System

In another room i have two teenage children.

The boy is 17 and he mumbles. The girl is 15 and she shreiks. At this rate i might have to turn my music up.:D

SailorSam

Why do teenagers shout ?.....

NOTHING IS WRONG, WHY ARE YOU ASKING,
JUST LEAVE ME ALONE.

Blackpool_Saver

I often say to my son please lower your voice, use the inside voice, it's either LOUD or grunting, it's a different world nowadays, the kids are in charge (society and the media have told them this) they have rights don't yanno innit