leaving children on their own?

glitter_fairy

Thank you for all your replies. I have just heard back from my client who say she does not mind me bring then along im so relived.

sooty&sweep

Hi

I''ve not read the whole thread so sorry if I'm repeating someone but is there a holiday club you could put them in ? Or could you take them with you ? Take a DSi etc & a few sweets ?

Jen

Jen

Spendless

It's a bank hol tomorrow, which is why most childcare facilities will be closed, but lots of other businesses remain open. Probably one of the worst days to get stuck for. Glad you've got it sorted glitter-fairy.

glitter_fairy

Spendless wrote: »

It's a bank hol tomorrow, which is why most childcare facilities will be closed, but lots of other businesses remain open. Probably one of the worst days to get stuck for. Glad you've got it sorted glitter-fairy.

Thank you x

verysillyguy06

Just to be very clear on the 'Law':

There are no laws against it, only guidelines....however, if something goes wrong , you would be prosecuted.

Always been a strange dilemma the Law puts parents but it does provide some leeway

fawd1

nzmegs wrote: »

Sorry, 9 & 10 is far too young to be left alone in the house. My son is nearly 14 and I still only leave him for an hour or two at the most and never in charge of our younger daughter who is 11.

I think you need to rethink your priorities. your kids should come before work - sorry.

Sorry, I haven't read through everything, but had to say that I think actually maybe you need to rethink your priorities. At 14, he is 2 years away from being allowed to get married, have a child and run a house. The fact that you won't let him be alone by himself is doing him no favours. At all. When I was 11, I was left not only alone, but in charge of a baby. And amazingly I didn't implode.

wik

I in the past had to leave 2 of my children alone for a couple of hours, they would have been 11 and 9 at the time,
I gave them some rules....
No using cooker or kettle or microwave...
No answering the door...
No answering the phone... (We have a code we use even now ... I phone and let the phone ring 3 times then hang up, then ring again and they answer, but now that phone has caller display, they answer it.

Newly_retired

i hope it worked out for you OP.
I also hope this has given you the nudge you needed to get to know the neighbours.
It reminded me that when I was 11 I was home alone for an hour when my Aunt rang to say that my Nan had died! I took it in my stride ( Nan was ill and very old and it was expected) but I don't think my Mum ever forgave herself for not being there to take the call.

poet123

fawd1 wrote: »

Sorry, I haven't read through everything, but had to say that I think actually maybe you need to rethink your priorities. At 14, he is 2 years away from being allowed to get married, have a child and run a house. The fact that you won't let him be alone by himself is doing him no favours. At all. When I was 11, I was left not only alone, but in charge of a baby. And amazingly I didn't implode.

You were fortunate that nothing untoward happened, but it could have.

I don't know how long you were left or how far away help was, but in my opinion it was irresponsible and unfair of whoever left you to put that responsibility on an 11 year old.

I do agree that a 14 year old should be able to be safely left alone for reasonable periods.

FBaby

Thank you for all your replies. I have just heard back from my client who say she does not mind me bring then along im so relived.

This statement changes everything. I assumed you were confident about your children being capable of being on their own. You being 'so relieved' makes me wonder now if that was the case. Leaving kids alone on the basis of feeling you don't have a choice rather than being confident that are capable is wrong. I'm glad you are not doing it now.