Tips on not crying!

thunderbird

Prepare yourself beforehand. Talk about and view the occasion as a positive and happy occasion. Visualise yourself smiling and happy and waving her off.
Focus on your daughter not yourself.

Mrs_Bones

In the other thread you said you were not going to see her off, but a friends mum was taking her to the airport. Has that plan changed? I think in the circumstances it's probably best if you don't go if it's going to have such a drastic effect on you. Much better if you can't stop yourself crying to wave her off from home in private where you can let the tears flow than embarrass and possibly upset your daughter in public in front of all her friends and peer group.

anqet

stebiz wrote: »

Try not to make this post on opinions please. But I'm due to wave my daughter off on a long haul trip tomorrow and really don't know how I can hide my tears. As a Dad this is important to me and I'd like to get her off in a happy mood with little fuss.

Any ideas?

Why would you want to hide your tears, I'm curious? They're tears of hapiness. Crying is healthy

meer53

anqet wrote: »

Why would you want to hide your tears, I'm curious? They're tears of hapiness. Crying is healthy

They're not tears of happiness though, read the OP's other post, he will be crying because he will be missing his daughter as she's off on a trip to New York soon.

stebiz

Mrs_Bones wrote: »

In the other thread you said you were not going to see her off, but a friends mum was taking her to the airport. Has that plan changed? I think in the circumstances it's probably best if you don't go if it's going to have such a drastic effect on you. Much better if you can't stop yourself crying to wave her off from home in private where you can let the tears flow than embarrass and possibly upset your daughter in public in front of all her friends and peer group.

I'll be dropping her off at her friends house.

arbroath_lass

There's nothing wrong with crying and her friends won't take the mickey out of her (you, probably!). At 17 they are all still at the "parents are soooo embarassing stage".

A few wee tears are harmless and understandable as long as you are smiling and laughing at yourself at the same time.

Oops forgot to add my "not crying hint" - take deep breaths and hold them for a few seconds (count in your head) as if you are trying to get rid of hiccups.

meer53

stebiz wrote: »

I'll be dropping her off at her friends house.

You see, i'm completely different here. I couldn't drop my daughter off at a friends, i'd want to be the one taking them to the airport, she'd want that too.

valk_scot

Digging your nails into your arm is a good distraction and slightly less conspiculous than the other pain distraction technique suggested! (Though I'm not a man, what do I know about it, lol.) Otherwise, get the case out the car, give her a big hug and then leg it as fast as humanly possible. You can always stop the car round the corner to have a cry...best you do, actually, it's not safe to cry while driving. The longer you drag things out, the worst it will be. Say all you have to say re safety etc the night before, so that you don't have much to say apart from "Bye love, enjoy yourself, don't eat too much pizza" or whatever.


My DS came home with a Batman onesie from his US trip, btw. He's six feet tall, 18 stone and a rugby prop. You could always hold that thought in your head to distract you from crying, perhaps?

marisco_2

Focus on all your daughters strengths, that will enable her to cope with this adventure. You have raised her to be a strong, sensible, street wise and confidant young lady, well able to go out into the world to explore it and enjoy it. She will be fine and this trip will do her the world of good.

When I put my dad through exactly what you will experience, he use to sit me down the night before for a chat. He would say 'I am going to say this once, you are my daughter, I love you and I want you to enjoy this trip and make the most of it. Most of all I want you home safe, so take no risks and contact me at any time day or night if you are in any trouble'. No fuss, no over emotions just him talking straight to me. Bless him he was still saying this to me when I was 23. I loved him for it though

Turtle2010

Mental arithmetic. Honestly it works! As daft as it sounds