what to do?

pinkshoes

Fake a dead phone battery and ask to borrow OH's phone. See how he reacts!

marisco_2

This must be such a horrible position to be in OP. I cant imagine much worse than being in a relationship with someone when you cant tell whether they are being truthful with you or not. It must have you in a state of confusion and anxiety. That is no way for anyone to treat their partner.

If he has got involved with another woman and has let you down again, then let her keep him and move on from him. Real men cant be taken from partners they love and respect.

thehappybutterfly

I agree with verysillyguy. Keep your eyes open, be alert and do some digging around. Don't confront your partner until you have strong evidence and definitely keep your child out of it.

What shame it's come to this. It's exactly the reason I wouldn't take a man back after cheating. You never know, it could be something completely innocent but you're suspicious because of past behaviour. I hope you're ok.

notnew

Thanks for all replies and advice.

Have not spoken to either of them yet.

Not really anything to keep a check on, there would be no reason for me to use his phone (plus it is a business one with a code). We are not FB friends, agreed not to be - if we want to communicate we talk to each other or call/text/email. Each have our own laptops.

The issue before was with a work colleague, so there wasn't any disappearing out of hours, so to speak.

SuzieSue

notnew wrote: »

The issue before was with a work colleague, so there wasn't any disappearing out of hours, so to speak.

If you don't mind me asking, how did you find out about the last one?

notnew

Very long story...

peachyprice

Are they still work colleagues?

Joons

If there's no point in asking your OH then you need to ask your teen, or else, go detective but I wouldn't recommend that. It's either that or you forget about it, which I doubt you can do now.