Batten down the hatches.....

Orange_Ena

2 more days of 2nd job under my belt! I've been gven loads of Christmas hours, more than I really wanted but the extra money is very much needed. I'm hoping to clear about three quarters of my Barclayc@rd but I'll see what I get once the taxman has had his share!

Friday
* Throughly enjoyed my hair and facial being done. It was free!* Black Friday and all that!! *not really free, but I'll keep that a secret #bitashamed
* £2.81 sweep into FD savings account
* £1.60 sweep into overpayments account
* PA survey
* Youg0v survey
* 141SB earned and a £10 Am@zon voucher redeemed

Saturday
* £4.57 on a few small bits and receipt scanned on checkoutsm@rt!
* PA survey

Sunday
* NSD
* 11SB earned

Going to relax and catch up with diaries for the rest of the evening so no surveys tonight :T

Orange_Ena

I forgot to add earlier that I've been a bit annoyed by a couple of comments about my 2nd job. First of all, someone I sort of work with in my main job came to my checkout and was totally shocked to see me. The first thing she said was that she earns about half what I do and she has a daughter and a mortgage to pay for! I feel like I have to confess that I'm in debt to justify why I'm working a 2nd job! Then one of the new starters at job 2 said that one of the trainers was wondering why I was working there as I must earn loads in my main job! :eek:

I don't know if i'm being totally sensitive about it and ultimately I don't care what they think. I've got off my bum, a applied for a job and I'm now working it. I'm digging myself out of a hole. But then I start thinking, have I taken a job from someone that really needed it? Oh dear, I must stop over thinking and torturing myself.

GoingToDoIt

Hi Ena,
I think you are being a bit sensitive to comments BUT people need to mind their own beeswax! I imagine the woman with a daughter receives some extra money such as child benefit, child maintenance, possibly tax credits- it's not a straightforward comparison!
I think you should have a standard reply ready to roll out, such as "well I have something really important which I'm saving for, but that's all I'm saying for now!" Makes it sound mysterious and private.
It's a temporary job, a few weeks work, which you got on merit. They chose you, not someone else. You have not taken a job someone else could have had, you've filled a vacancy no-one else could fill!

crazy_cat_lady

I'd tell them to shove it Ena. As GTDI says, it really isn't any business of anyone else why you have a second job. I would probably do the same if I could find the time... When I went to Mr M last week, the bloke who served me at the checkout told me he'd done a 12 hour shift at his main job then gone straight to work there. I just thought 'poor bloke must be exhausted'. Didn't think about how rich he should be, or whether he needed the money. Think it says more about them passing that sort of comment than it does about you. So there

catriona79

Ena, I'm with Gonnna and Cat Lady.

As much as it made you emotional, (INFP:), there is an element of independence of purpose and nothing wrong with a second job

It does say a lot about our society that they don't think of you with admiration of your effort, but think there is something wrong with working hard! So what if you have a professional salary, goodness. So irritating, and it didn't even happen to me!! Why should you not have different priorities and earning capacity than your colleague with a child who has a mortgage?! It irritates me on so many levels. You are in your job thanks to your commitment to education. She should have paid more attention at school, so that she wouldn't earn less than you!!! What an unpleasant, self-important person.

But there will be intrusive people and therefore I agree you need a stock response, something cheerful and positive so that they leave you alone. And you can give it to them confidently rather than maybe look uncomfortable when they are sharing their unwelcome thoughts.


Grr!

Sending you a hug

AspiringButAnxious

What the F? It's not as if you're a multi millionaire — and even if you were, it's no one else's business if you work another job. Besides, I don't think anyone works in retail for fun: I did it in the past because I was desperate and the vast majority of my colleagues chose to work there because it's not the worst job in the world, the hours usually fit into their lives and they needed to earn a living. Does this woman think you work on the checkout because you like it better than socialising, reading or watching TV?!

Besides, everyone has different priorities and nobody should judge you for earning some extra money. There are a million reasons why you might need extra cash, which this woman should consider before making assumptions. You could be paying for a relative's healthcare or education, saving so that you can spend a year volunteering, saving a deposit for a bigger home so that your parents can move in... Any number of things. Or you could be saving so that you can go to Vegas and blow thousands on gambling. Not such a good reason as paying debt, but still none of her f-ing business.

I think an eyeroll might be the best way to deal with people/comments like this. One of my friends (who has many fabulous qualities, btw) had a habit a few years ago of saying "oh, I can't afford my own car" whenever I mentioned my car in passing. I used the car to travel to university, which was cheaper (yes, even factoring in tax, insurance and repairs) and less stressful than taking the train. I also live with my oarents, whereas she is still the only person I know of my age who can afford to live independently without a partner. In the end, I realised there was no point getting wound up about her stupid comments and did my best ot ignore them. Of course, now she is getting her own car and I got rid of mine because I couldn't afford the running costs, I plan to say "I can't afford a car" at every opportunity! I suggest you do the same: if your colleague ever mentions going out to dinner or on holiday, say "I wish I could afford that"

Orange_Ena

GoingToDoIt wrote: »

Hi Ena,
I think you are being a bit sensitive to comments BUT people need to mind their own beeswax! I imagine the woman with a daughter receives some extra money such as child benefit, child maintenance, possibly tax credits- it's not a straightforward comparison!
I think you should have a standard reply ready to roll out, such as "well I have something really important which I'm saving for, but that's all I'm saying for now!" Makes it sound mysterious and private.
It's a temporary job, a few weeks work, which you got on merit. They chose you, not someone else. You have not taken a job someone else could have had, you've filled a vacancy no-one else could fill!

Hi Gonna, thank you. Ooh I love a bit of mystery Yes I'll take your advice if anyone else queries the 2nd job. Ah thanks for that. Yep anyone could have applied, but they gave the job to me! I must have done something right

Orange_Ena

crazy_cat_lady wrote: »

I'd tell them to shove it Ena. As GTDI says, it really isn't any business of anyone else why you have a second job. I would probably do the same if I could find the time... When I went to Mr M last week, the bloke who served me at the checkout told me he'd done a 12 hour shift at his main job then gone straight to work there. I just thought 'poor bloke must be exhausted'. Didn't think about how rich he should be, or whether he needed the money. Think it says more about them passing that sort of comment than it does about you. So there

:rotfl: Haha thanks CCL, I want someone else to query the 2nd job now so I can happily tell them to shove it

Ah poor guy, that is tough. :eek:

Orange_Ena

catriona79 wrote: »

Ena, I'm with Gonnna and Cat Lady.

As much as it made you emotional, (INFP:), there is an element of independence of purpose and nothing wrong with a second job

It does say a lot about our society that they don't think of you with admiration of your effort, but think there is something wrong with working hard! So what if you have a professional salary, goodness. So irritating, and it didn't even happen to me!! Why should you not have different priorities and earning capacity than your colleague with a child who has a mortgage?! It irritates me on so many levels. You are in your job thanks to your commitment to education. She should have paid more attention at school, so that she wouldn't earn less than you!!! What an unpleasant, self-important person.

But there will be intrusive people and therefore I agree you need a stock response, something cheerful and positive so that they leave you alone. And you can give it to them confidently rather than maybe look uncomfortable when they are sharing their unwelcome thoughts.


Grr!

Sending you a hug

Thanks Catriona, I still need to read more about my personality type so thank you for reminding me. Maybe at Christmas!

Thankfully I haven't bumped into her since. I have told a couple of others about my 2nd job but they've been very positive. They know why I'm doing it so I guess they can't be anything but positive.

Thanks for the hug x

Orange_Ena

AspiringButAnxious wrote: »

What the F? It's not as if you're a multi millionaire — and even if you were, it's no one else's business if you work another job. Besides, I don't think anyone works in retail for fun: I did it in the past because I was desperate and the vast majority of my colleagues chose to work there because it's not the worst job in the world, the hours usually fit into their lives and they needed to earn a living. Does this woman think you work on the checkout because you like it better than socialising, reading or watching TV?!

Besides, everyone has different priorities and nobody should judge you for earning some extra money. There are a million reasons why you might need extra cash, which this woman should consider before making assumptions. You could be paying for a relative's healthcare or education, saving so that you can spend a year volunteering, saving a deposit for a bigger home so that your parents can move in... Any number of things. Or you could be saving so that you can go to Vegas and blow thousands on gambling. Not such a good reason as paying debt, but still none of her f-ing business.

I think an eyeroll might be the best way to deal with people/comments like this. One of my friends (who has many fabulous qualities, btw) had a habit a few years ago of saying "oh, I can't afford my own car" whenever I mentioned my car in passing. I used the car to travel to university, which was cheaper (yes, even factoring in tax, insurance and repairs) and less stressful than taking the train. I also live with my oarents, whereas she is still the only person I know of my age who can afford to live independently without a partner. In the end, I realised there was no point getting wound up about her stupid comments and did my best ot ignore them. Of course, now she is getting her own car and I got rid of mine because I couldn't afford the running costs, I plan to say "I can't afford a car" at every opportunity! I suggest you do the same: if your colleague ever mentions going out to dinner or on holiday, say "I wish I could afford that"

Thanks ABA. I'm still a bit annoyed about her comments but you're right, none of her business. Haha defo not going to Vegas to blow the lot :eek::D I'll just keep it vague if anyone asks, but if anyone pushes it I'll say it's for a holiday.

People are funny aren't they? Why can't people just be supportive and non judgy. I have a friend that always says she wishes she could afford to do stuff or buy this and that. I've never said anything as it's none of my business but as far as I can see, she does really fritter money away, every day. She needs her LBM then maybe she could buy what she really wants