Omg I am soooooo angry!!!

teabag29

Thanks for all your replies ladies, Im much calmer now lol. I spoke to camhs who also laughed at the suggestion and are fully behind my decision to home educate, they are going to dig out some material to help me get started on working with her emotional needs (I feel confident on the educational side, I am educated to degree level and have been doing extra work with her at home for the past 18 mths so I now what level shes at and how she learns best- visually and through role play).

I have spent the past few days researching and found some brilliant sites that sell material (and give ideas) on how to deal with her emotional needs, anxiety, problems that come with autism (like how to hold a conversation and recognise social cues etc) and also on how to improve her english taking into account her Dyslexia.
The material is largely based on game play which is how she learns best.

I have also found a home ed group that runs a few miles from us every Tuesday for people from our area of the city and another that runs once a month for the whole of our city home educators to meet up (at a farm park a bit further out). I have joined a adhd group too where adhd kids can meet up and parents can get handy tips on how to manage behaviours (they also run camps and days out throughout the year) so between those groups she wont miss out socially. Im feeling much more confident about it all now.

I finally recieved the decision on the statement, it was turned down. It basically said that it would be good practice for the note in leiu to be rewritten to take into account her adhd, pda and dyslexia diagnosis and tailor her extra help around this. I did all I could to get her help at school and thats all anyone can do so I can hold my head up. I am now putting on hold my plans for another few years (I want to do a conversion masters degree in mental health or teaching and get into employment) so that I can teach dd at home and then I will feel confident ive done all I can for her, then I can continue with my plans

Thanks for everyones advice, I will be speaking to p.partnership to make a complaint about senco, largely to make her think twice about doing this to anyone else!

whitewing

I've read this thread and have seen some of your other posts.

I would be concerned that the Senco actually thinks there is nothing wrong with your daughter.

I am quite impressed that she is aware of the possibility of a parent at the school having Munchausen's (sp?). I read a 'true story' about a girl who had endured years of medical tests because of her mother. I also know that it is flagged up on a non-school related child protection policy that I read recently. I think the Senco was right to raise it as a possibility for it to be considered by more properly qualified professionals. I don't think it right that she says she thinks you have it (if she actually worded it like that) and presents it as fact. I don't think she should present it as opinion. I think she should have presented it as possibility only. It would be sad if as a result of your complaint, a child whose parent does have Munchetc is not flagged up.

teabag29

yes I see what you're saying but the fact that dd has been seen by various professionals who have seen both sides of her (the pleasant girl who holds her anxieties in and the terror that isnt holding her anxities in lol) and have written this in their reports (so they know its not me making it up and that she can present differently in different settings) highlights im not making things up. Add that to the fact that she now has 5 different diagnosis' by 3 separate professional bodies again highlights that im not trying to make out she has issues to get myself attention, it is obvious for anyone to see that she most definately does have problems.
I dont believe for one minute that the senco thinks I have Munchausens, she said it purely for spite because I exposed her lies in court and embarassed her, that is the concern. Yes if my dd were functioning normally in all settings, was educationally and emotionally progressing and had no diagnosis or concerns from professionals despite being assessed then yes the accusation by senco would most definately be with warrant but in this case I have no doubt she did it for spite.

Dd also made a silly accusation up 6 weeks ago, unfortunately she does this all the time when things arent going her way, she makes lies up about me, about teachers, neighbours, anyone really (she accused neighbour of being a !!!!!phile, teacher of hitting her, me of taking her to the woods and leaving her there all weekend to starve etc). Anyway senco rang me and said she knew this accusation was rubbish and told staff to ignore her.... even though it was rubbish I didnt agree with this, logging all these things helps to show that she does have problems and also if staff ignore everything she says what happens if she is one day telling the truth? therefore I logged it with dd's mental health workwer at the time....... low and behold at the same time the senco told the social worker she thought i had munchausens syndrome she also told her she was extrememly concerned about dd's accusation! so concerned she told staff to ignore it and so concerned it took her 6 weeks to report??? Its clear she did this not through concern but through spitefulness that she was exposed as a liar at court

Luckily for me I logged it with the mental health worker who could verify that the accusation was false as she was present at the time and who was equally unimpressed with senco for not logging it at the time and taking 6 weeks to make out she was concerned. She obviously didnt bank on me logging things with other professionals. One thing I have learnt on this whole journey is to log EVERYTHING and get evidence wherever possible