Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

I am one of 3 living children, the first born died when he was around 5 months old, he would have been 53 this year. Then mum had lots of miscarriages and then my brother, more miscarriages and then me, then had a stillborn (another boy) and then the surprise package which is my sister.

My sister was a total surprise, not planned at all...well apart from on my dad's part who decided he fancied another and surprised my mum one night!:rotfl:

I'm the youngest of four that lived. There were various miscarriages too.

Families of four were quite normal among my friends when I was growing up. I don't know many my age who have four kids now, though.

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's not what she does..... it's that she's managed to fool a lot of people into buying her name.

At first glance I thought it was going to be a copy of Lola Rose jewellery, but its totally different. Just similar sounding names.

Slightly similar to Tiffany mesh range - so you could look on it as a saving!

zagubov

vivatifosi wrote: »

To an extent that has legs, but groups such as Daughters of the American Revolution, the Jamestowne Society and the Mayflower Society have the lineages sewn up.

I do however think that a historical novel, written about a strong male character, born to low gentry in England and turned into a composite of early settlers would make an absolute fortune. They could go to New England or be a Jamestowne planter, either would make a fantastic story. Trying to recreate English society while dealing with harsh winters and Indian attack. The popularity of the likes of Hilary Mantel and Philippa Gregory show that there is a market for such books, though I have to admit I have no idea if someone has already written something similar to the above concept.

I'faith and 'sblood- it's already been done . I see they think it'll make a 12- hour movie !

This couple who're in their 100s- it's a shame there's no children - they seem sensible people and pbviously have the gift of good health to pass on. Considering that in China someone's put a baby down a sewer - actually I don't know what to say after that -words honestly fail me!

silvercar

Going to the funeral soon, 100 miles away so leaving in good time. The inquest starts soon, so hope the coroner does the necessary quickly or we will have a wasted journey!

silvercar

zagubov wrote: »

This couple who're in their 100s- it's a shame there's no children - they seem sensible people and pbviously have the gift of good health to pass on.

I know a handful or people with 4 children, none with more other than Rabbis or people on second marriages. Quite a few with 2 or 3 and only a few with 1. Normal distribution statistically.

Interestingly I can't think of any couple with no children. Those who had fertility issues have either had one or two with medical intervention or have adopted from overseas.

In my generation I know of a few adopted british children amongst us, but no overseas adoptions and they were some couples that were childless.

michaels

PasturesNew wrote: »

... a bunch of old nuts on a bit of elastic at £195.

Is that a Man-kini?

silvercar wrote: »

I know a handful or people with 4 children, none with more other than Rabbis or people on second marriages. Quite a few with 2 or 3 and only a few with 1. Normal distribution statistically.

Interestingly I can't think of any couple with no children. Those who had fertility issues have either had one or two with medical intervention or have adopted from overseas.

In my generation I know of a few adopted british children amongst us, but no overseas adoptions and they were some couples that were childless.

You clearly don't mix much with the benefits class...

Dw and I have the three between us, it feels like hard work and expensive, I'd have been fine with two, DW wouldn't say no to another. I have to say I am not a big fan of the idea of 'only cildren', it must be hard for the parents to make sure they are 'grounded' not spoilt.

Spirit_2

silvercar wrote: »

Interestingly I can't think of any couple with no children. .

I know quite few couples of longstanding who are childless. Amongst the 5 direct staff I manage 3 do not have children 2 are women in their 50's one of whom I know it was a choice, the other we have never discussed it and the third is a guy in his thirties who is in a civil partnership. I have number of colleagues who choose not to have children.


Amongst our immediate neighbours are a couple in their 80's who married late in life and we have good friends now in the 60's who decided not to have children although he has a daughter he adopted during a previous marriage.


Thinking about it..I think the childfree come across as making great aunts and uncles or godparents.

neverdespairgirl

GDB2222 wrote: »

She dragged me off to the other side of town to look at some jewellery she wanted from Alice Menter. It consisted of £5 worth of M4 nuts strung together with elastic, being sold for £195. Ridiculously not MSE! Maybe one of the NPs wants to make one?

I'm pretty sure I could make something like that for a fraction of the price - it's embarrassingly expensive.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Me neither. I'm not really into a lot of "recycled, re-used" or steampunk pieces. I like simple lines, but I'd be too embarrassed to put my name to a bunch of old nuts on a bit of elastic at £195.

If people were prepared to pay me £195, I'd overcome the embarrassment, I reckon.

fc123 wrote: »

:rotfl:
We CBA with our silver one in Feb 2012 as we were saving every penny..and this year we didn't bother with the 26th as we were buying the retreat house and saving every penny.
I wonder what 27th is? If it's something nice maybe we'll have a 'do' down Margate It may be a theme that could link to home furnishings ..that would be handy.

My parents had a joint 25th wedding anniversary and my Dad's 50th birthday, and they had a big party at Dr Johnson's house in Gough Square, which you can hire for bashes of all sorts.

It was really lovely - I was 21, my siblings were 19, 15 and 14, so we were all old enough to attend and enjoy it.

Spirit wrote: »

This September we are celebrating our Pearl anniversary:j:j:j. NDG has offered to give me advice so I am more informed on what to buy, as my husband would like 'us' to have new string, (and I haven't the heart to disappoint him);). I would like to look and possibly buy in Dubai next week but am worried about getting 'ripped off'.

Happy to give any advice I can - feel free to message or email me.

I would be careful in Dubai; unless you know a lot about pearls, I imagine you could be well ripped-off there.

fc123 wrote: »

Got a pack of old deeds and stuff, fascinating so I am going to get them scanned and made into wallpaper for one wall somewhere in it. Turns out she was built in 1821 (not 1896 as the surveyor said) and there were damp issues in the basement in 1948 as one solicitor had written to the buyer about it (in ye olde typewriter text on a bit of feathery A5.)

Old deeds are great fun. My parents have a huge set of documents for their Kent house, some of which go back to the early 17th century, with three random ones from the 16th.

The bundle includes lot of maps, surveys, sale details from 1860s, Zepplin insurance certificates from the first world war, bills of sale for hops in the 1890s and 1910s and 1920s, all sorts of things.

There was a massive legal battle over the house as a consequence of the South Sea Bubble; the then owner granted an equitable mortgage to someone else in order to invest in the South Sea Company, and then lost his money when the bubble burst. That caused a lot of gathering of papers, whcih then stayed with the deeds.

Spirit_2

michaels wrote: »

I have to say I am not a big fan of the idea of 'only cildren', it must be hard for the parents to make sure they are 'grounded' not spoilt.

Yep. We have to avoid putting all our 'expectations' on her , or any expectations for that matter. If they are the centre of your universe they do believe they are the centre of the universe.

Not had an only child by choice, I miscarried an early pregnancy after her and then never pursued 'why/who' was at fault and the it was too late. On the other hand DD is quite happy being the only one. I worry that she will be on her own with no sibling to share decisions about which nursing home we go in.

On the other hand I cannot stand my brother so I know all brothers and sisters do not get on.

She is also my one shot at being a grandma . I really want to be a grandma. Scrumptious small people to lavish ponies on...and give back when they are grumpy.

neverdespairgirl

LydiaJ wrote: »

I'm the youngest of four that lived. There were various miscarriages too.

Families of four were quite normal among my friends when I was growing up. I don't know many my age who have four kids now, though.

As one of 4, born between the end of the 1970s and the mid 1980s, we were larger than most families, but I did have other mates with 3 siblings. I don't know anyone of my age who has 4, though. My best mate wanted 4, but has had one child and 7 late miscarriages, poor girl.

lostinrates wrote: »

It's probably a treat aty that age as your care home feeds you bland mash of meat and veg with weak sweet tea.

My several times great uncle made to to older, with his marbles. His wife didn't thoygh:(. And he outlived all but two of his numerous children :(

Bit like the astonishing, one-off, Eleanor of Aquitaine. She was in her 80s when she died (no-one exactly sure how old she was, but she was between 81 and 84, I think). That was an impressive age in the 12th and 13th centuries.

She had a total of at least 10 children - 10 who lived long enough to be named and in the records, that is. She might have had other premature or still-births, or children who died very shortly after birth, as they were unlikely to have been recorded.

Of those 10, 2 (both girls) were by her first husband, the King of France, and they both lived to adulthood, married, and had children, and died in the 1190s. Eleanor lived until 1204-ish.

Of her 8 children with Henry II, one died as a young child, and the other 7 all lived to adulthood, and all married. They were Henry the Young King, Matilda, Eleanor, Richard I, Geoffrey, Joan, and King John.

Of those 7, 5 died before Eleanor, so only 2 of her children were alive when she died - Eleanor (then a queen in Spain) and John.

vivatifosi wrote: »

To an extent that has legs, but groups such as Daughters of the American Revolution, the Jamestowne Society and the Mayflower Society have the lineages sewn up.

I do however think that a historical novel, written about a strong male character, born to low gentry in England and turned into a composite of early settlers would make an absolute fortune. They could go to New England or be a Jamestowne planter, either would make a fantastic story. Trying to recreate English society while dealing with harsh winters and Indian attack. The popularity of the likes of Hilary Mantel and Philippa Gregory show that there is a market for such books, though I have to admit I have no idea if someone has already written something similar to the above concept.

There is a book called the Winthrop Woman by Anya Seton, which is about the puritan societies established on the east coast, it's rather good.