Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Do you not have mates who have birthday drinks, or stuff like that?

No, people I've mixed with don't have birthday drinks. And then... I have no mates

Nikkster

CKhalvashi wrote: »

I'm not stating that in so many words.

This is the last post I'm making on the matter, as I feel that some NP probably won't want to be having this discussion, however I'd take a reasonably good stab at the BBC actually making a profit at the end of the contest, as the EBU take 10% of the televoting money, and the other 90%, minus 100% of the fee goes to the BBC.

The football rights, if I remember rightly did come at a cost, however as this is not my department, I have absolutely no idea how much. I'm not trying to avoid this question, I genuinely don't know how much was paid, nor do I know how much revenue was generated from it.

If I did know, it would probably remain commercially sensitive information, however you can write to the BBC and ask them. I'm more concerned about how much MediaCity will cost public broadcasters.

CK

Sorry CK - if you didn't want to discuss, I expected you to just not reply
Was just trying to understand - e.g. I didn't realise that the European football rights go through the EBU too (though thinking about it, isn't it ITV/ Sky who show that rather than the BBC).
Its all too complicated for me!

Nikkster

PasturesNew wrote: »

No, people I've mixed with don't have birthday drinks. And then... I have no mates

You've definitely been to at least one other party/ gathering... and you were invited by the host

Nikkster

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

You've not met my darling Mama. You'd be a beginner in the adventurous with BB dates. "Bacon 3 months out of date? It's fine, it's cured and in a packet anyway."

Sounds like a sound rationale to me

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

<sigh> me too. That's why I have another half stone to lose.

I've lost just under a stone - ideally would like to lose another couple, more realistically I'd be happy if I can lose another one!

SingleSue

PasturesNew wrote: »

Does everybody here have friends that have parties? I've never been part of any "party having" social mixes, unless you count sitting in a damp bedsit with dole-scum while they smoke cannabis and drink Stella a party..... which I don't, so withdrew from the social groups I could afford to sit with.



I've probably been to 5 'parties' in my life at houses. Twice I wasn't invited by the people throwing it either, but by somebody they'd invited.

One was my bf's workmate's Xmas Eve party (1977?)
One was something to do with work when somebody bought a house - it didn't even have carpets down that night, they'd just got the keys. (1982?)
One was "posh people" as drinking was done out of glasses and they had a conservatory (1995?)
One was at a shabby B&B and the bloke doing a bit of painting said "everybody's invited", that was a Halloween one (2005?).
One was a garden BarBQ where two people I'd just met were going round a friend's "everybody's invited" BarBQ (2003?)

We used to go to parties a lot, especially in our pre children younger days. The invites coincidentally stopped when me and hubby split as it wasn't really worth inviting me as I could never get childcare/I wasn't in the right 'place' mentally.

One thing I have always hated though was fancy dress parties, I never know what to go as, haven't the imagination, time or skills to make my own and really really don't feel comfortable doing it anyway.

Generali - I don't need to worry about the noise the drum kit makes as it lives at my parent's house...we only have his guitars, keyboard and ukelele here.

He likes all constructive critisicm as it can only improve what he is doing, he knows that I will soon tell him if something is not right (like the 'ding' halfway through the last song, I cringed at that one or the cymbal use at the beginning of The Fray cover..I grimaced for that one!)

PasturesNew

Nikkster wrote: »

You've definitely been to at least one other party/ gathering... and you were invited by the host

When I say "party", I was meaning more of the other type... iyswim. "Party" type of party - not get together sort.

The one I recently attended, with some lovely posh people, was the sort I'd like to be invited to .... civilised, safe and pleasant.

vivatifosi

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

You've not met my darling Mama. You'd be a beginner in the adventurous with BB dates. "Bacon 3 months out of date? It's fine, it's cured and in a packet anyway."

Out of interest ndg, did your Mama grow up here or abroad, or through rationing? I think people who either come from a country where BB dates don't exist, or who have lived through times where food was a precious and treasured commodity, find them at odds to how they have been brought up. My own parents are like that too.

Funnily enough I was clearing out a store cupboard a while back with one of the National Geographic programmes about Egypt on in the background. I was about to chuck out a jar of honey when I heard that they had found honey in the Pyramids that was thousands of years old and that was still edible. It made my couple of months over somewhat irrelevant and pointless, so the jar went back in the cupboard.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

As I've said before - I've not been able to afford to mix with people above the scum level, hence one of the reasons I've never bothered trying to go out and "make friends" as the only ones I could afford to meet/mix with are scum

I know you have written that tongue in cheek, but there are people without a lot of money who aren't scum and who can throw one heck of a party. One where you can have a stonking good time without a single posh alert. It's about the get together, the craic as the Irish would say, not status or cost.

In my family we've had a few parties where you get together to do a team effort, such as someone's garden or decorating a room, then in the evening you share some food to celebrate your good work. The host gets something done that they can't do themselves in exchange for laying on about a tenner's worth of buffet food and a few bottles of drink. It's a win/win.

Nikkster

SingleSue wrote: »

One thing I have always hated though was fancy dress parties, I never know what to go as, haven't the imagination, time or skills to make my own and really really don't feel comfortable doing it anyway.

I hate fancy dress parties too! Luckily I don't get invited to many (don't get invited to many parties full stop), but I have a (clean) lab coat and some safety specs as a really unoriginal back up

Ooh - I also have a superted costume! Ex wanted one for a 'superheroes' fancy dress at his work (before he had to leave), so I made one. Including a furry bear hat-type thing and furry bear gloves I was pretty proud of that (not least because it was completely hand-sewn. I claimed that when we split.

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

I know you have written that tongue in cheek, but there are people without a lot of money who aren't scum and who can throw one heck of a party. One where you can have a stonking good time without a single posh alert. It's about the get together, the craic as the Irish would say, not status or cost.

There might be, but the cost of getting to know them, maintaining contact, doing other stuff with them, etc, soon adds up.

I'm struggling to find the right words.... but to be invited to parties at peoples homes means you usually have to have become friends with them first, then maintained that etc .... before you get invited round.

If you're not just like them, able to do all the stuff they do regularly with other people etc, they won't be calling you only to always hear "I can't afford it, have a nice time". You'd just be dropped.