Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

I expect I'll go first... being unfit etc.

Buses? Have YOU made a will?

tomterm8

I think if I bought a bath I'd actually have to go to a show room. These pictures don't really tell you the important thing ( is it comfortable and can you read in it) .

Besides, I think I'd prefer a wetroom...

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

Really? If she was legally adopted, I thought the intestacy rules would treat her as if she was actually the child of the people who adopted her, and therefore the sister of their son.

I took the statement to mean she'd been adopted away from the man with the will .... not adopted into.

PasturesNew

Every time I get in a bath and want to relax/lie down, I dream up what could be put at the end of a bath so that short people like me could achieve it without going under the water

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

We bought a lovely double-ended bath once, with the taps in the middle. Really nice, and very MSE as it saved on bath water. I see that ideal Standard are doing them from just over £100.

There are lots of really well priced double ended baths.

There are fewer that are
1. reinforced not just the very thin/cheap feeling acrylic,
2. 1700 x800 (more that are 1700 x 750, but we do want the width)
3. Extra deep.

We really want to keep the width in the corridor so getting the width and depth would be a real bonus...or even just basically right. Squeezing in the girly bath would be the bonus really.

chewmylegoff

LydiaJ wrote: »

Really? If she was legally adopted, I thought the intestacy rules would treat her as if she was actually the child of the people who adopted her, and therefore the sister of their son.

Me and my sister were the named beneficiaries of the will- it might have been complicated if there was no will. My mum was related in some obscure way to her "brother" but not very closely - her real mum was a cousin a couple of iteration out who couldn't afford to bring her up as a single parent. My uncle had a "real" brother although he died a few years before. He had several children though who are not very nice and my understanding is that a few of them came sniffing around to see if they had been left anything.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Buses? Have YOU made a will?

No, I know I should. I think me and younger sibling are both intestate at the moment.... so if we go it tops up the care home fees pot

lostinrates

tomterm8 wrote: »

I think if I bought a bath I'd actually have to go to a show room. These pictures don't really tell you the important thing ( is it comfortable and can you read in it) .

Besides, I think I'd prefer a wetroom...

There is going to be a wet room at the other end of this bathroom. The guest bathrooms are going to be wet rooms. We might have a double shower in the en suite instead of a wet room. (I am even toying with just using the shower in the main bathroom, but expect a shower seems sensible)


Edit: I absolutely agree one should see it, but you have to know what you think you want to see, then find where it might be!

tomterm8

lostinrates wrote: »

Buses? Have YOU made a will?

I haven't made a will, and I think a lot of the reason is displacement. I have no idea really how to do it for my situation, which is atypical.

When you a computer programmer and writer you tend to create a lot of really complicated assets that will need to be actively managed after your death. A bog standard will probably won't cut it.

lostinrates

tomterm8 wrote: »

I haven't made a will, and I think a lot of that is displacement. I have no idea really how to do it for my situation, which is atypical.

When you a computer programmer and writer, you tend to create a lot of really complicated assets that will need to be actively managed after your death. A bog standard will probably won't cut it.

But that makes it all the more important, surely!

It really distresses me. Dh's mother died intestate, and for the actions of an extremely naughty father and some very naïve and traumatised kids they would have been rather well off now. (We'd have our bathroom here done and a flat in london:D) (yes, I know that's over what should have been dealt with by intestacy laws, and was, but its a long and indiscreet story and not mine to tell) tbh, it wouldn't leave me cross if she had left it all to a cats home, but to see how it has caused some discomfort between the family because they just cannot say whether its what she would have wanted or not really IS upsetting . My sil told me a story about what is happening now that exemplifies why it's unlikely they will inherit and its really not the money that matters about a situation like that, but its nevertheless often clear where an imbalance and lack of care lies. And the sil is the favourite child of fil, so for her the ripples of the pain of it are keenly felt.