Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

chewmylegoff

Nikkster wrote: »

Hypothetical conundrum:
At the end of a very long and drunken night out, someone emails someone else (email address found from invite to night out) expressing regret that nothing had happened between them that night, giving their mobile number and saying if you're ever around/ want to keep in touch let me know...
The person doing the emailing is a) married b) father. The other person isn't interested for reasons a) and b) and wouldn't be even if a) and b) didn't apply.
What would Nice People do? Assume emailer can't remember emailing and ignore? Something else?

Ignore and hope that's the end of it, unless likely to meet the person doing the emailing again, in which case possibly worth preempting any future "misunderstanding".

Nikkster

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Ignore and hope that's the end of it, unless likely to meet the person doing the emailing again, in which case possibly worth preempting any future "misunderstanding".

Hypothetically, it is not impossible that they could meet again as e.g. likely to attend the same large event towards the end of the year. Not guaranteed though.

michaels

Nikkster wrote: »

Hypothetical conundrum:
At the end of a very long and drunken night out, someone emails someone else (email address found from invite to night out) expressing regret that nothing had happened between them that night, giving their mobile number and saying if you're ever around/ want to keep in touch let me know...
The person doing the emailing is a) married b) father. The other person isn't interested for reasons a) and b) and wouldn't be even if a) and b) didn't apply.
What would Nice People do? Assume emailer can't remember emailing and ignore? Something else?

I'm going to go a bit contentious here but in the case that emailer was a more senior employee at the same company I might ask for something to be recorded by personnel department to make sure that no difficulties arise should emailer attempt to use their position within the hierarchy to 'take advantage' in the future.

Nikkster

michaels wrote: »

I'm going to go a bit contentious here but in the case that emailer was a more senior employee at the same company I might ask for something to be recorded by personnel department to make sure that no difficulties arise should emailer attempt to use their position within the hierarchy to 'take advantage' in the future.

Thankfully I hadn't added any further complications like that into my hypothetical situation.

vivatifosi

Nikkster wrote: »

Hypothetically, it is not impossible that they could meet again as e.g. likely to attend the same large event towards the end of the year. Not guaranteed though.

Hypothetically I think they'd be mad to try the same or think the same again. And if they did, then hypothetically there will be enough people around that they could be given a wide birth. Hopefully.

People like that are bad news - and that's not a hypothesis but fact.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

I'm guessing that the emailee might be quite concerned that they gave the emailer the wrong impression entirely. And would be very relieved that nothing happened.
Boy am I pleased that this is all hypothetical...

Did the emailee , hypothetically, really act overtly to flirt, or just be hypothetically concerned that someone might have interpreted non flirting actions as flirting?

A certain type of person often homes in on sweet people who do the latter to try and 'guilt' a connection.

Edit....there were no replies before bar nikkster's.

I agree with the others.

Nikkster

vivatifosi wrote: »

Hypothetically I think they'd be mad to try the same or think the same again. And if they did, then hypothetically there will be enough people around that they could be given a wide birth. Hopefully.

People like that are bad news - and that's not a hypothesis but fact.

I expect that if they did hypothetically meet again, the emailee would be making certain that they were not giving any encouraging signals - whether they emailer was thinking the same as previously or not. Emailee is not in the slightest bit interested, and is concerned that the emailer thinks that they are/ were.

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

Did the emailee , hypothetically, really act overtly to flirt, or just be hypothetically concerned that someone might have interpreted non flirting actions as flirting?

A certain type of person often homes in on sweet people who do the latter to try and 'guilt' a connection.

Edit....there were no replies before bar nikkster's.

I agree with the others.

Errr... hypothetically speaking, the emailee can't remember (I know ), likely they were just drunk and friendly rather than flirty. Emailer mentioned they thought (ie weren't sure, but must have been sure enough to email) that the regret was reciprocated. No-one else has mentioned any hint of anything between emailer and emailee.

lostinrates

Nikkster wrote: »

Errr... hypothetically speaking, the emailee can't remember (I know ), likely they were just drunk and friendly rather than flirty. Emailer mentioned they thought (ie weren't sure, but must have been sure enough to email) that the regret was reciprocated. No-one else has mentioned any hint of anything between emailer and emailee.

Drunkeness makes most people more friendly. It's a poor state to make a judgement in. Emailee was foolish at best to do so IMO.

Please let your hypothetical characters stay slightly less drunk next time. They are precious.

Spirit_2

Nikkster wrote: »

Hypothetical conundrum:
At the end of a very long and drunken night out, someone emails someone else (email address found from invite to night out) expressing regret that nothing had happened between them that night, giving their mobile number and saying if you're ever around/ want to keep in touch let me know...
The person doing the emailing is a) married b) father. The other person isn't interested for reasons a) and b) and wouldn't be even if a) and b) didn't apply.
What would Nice People do? Assume emailer can't remember emailing and ignore? Something else?

Circulate it to everyone in the hope that it goes viral;)