What should I do

Skyter

Quit my job a few months ago, don't regret it and had a couple of offers since but haven't worked out for different reason.

Split with my ex the beginning of the year and now I find myself doing absolutely nothing all day every day. She had children so all my time was spent with them and her apart from when they were in school.

I have no friends either.

Apart from looking for jobs every day I pretty much do nothing. I'm doing an open uni course but i've done all the work for that now.

Any ideas what I can do to get out of this?

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Join some social groups - library, gym, book clubs, sports teams. Meet people

HBS x

[Deleted User]

Hi,

you could do a bit of helping out in a charity shop, people coming and going and a wee bit craic.

Amanda65

Volunteer! Charities are always looking for help. Find the local volunteer bureau in your area and pop in and see what takes your fancy - you could help out at more than one charity. You don't know where it will lead or who you will meet, you will be helping those in need of a bit of a hand and filling your day. It's a win win situation

heartbreak_star

Now there's a good idea I did a bit of volunteering years ago and loved it. Nice one!

HBS x

Panda78

Are you close to any family you could spend time with? I split with my partner this year too, so i know how you feel, it's so life altering, but it has made me reconnect with some family members who i didn't always get to spend enough time with before.

You've gone through two major changes already this year so don't be too hard on yourself, things will feel a bit more settled in time.

When you find a new job, perhaps make special effort to connect with people socially. You could meet a whole new set of friends through work.

beckysbobbles1

As Amanda has said, volunteer. It will look great on your CV and will keep you busy.

I also love to learn so I'd be down the library or taking some free online courses. Whether it's a language or a completely random subject, it's always great to learn.

Maybe you can support your family a little more. If you have nieces and nephews, look after them. Take them to the park, be the fun Uncle!

Pechow

Volunteer, learn a new language or other skill (art, writing, etc), find free events and clubs to go to and potentially meet people, find something else you want to learn and look for online materials/courses/library books, offer to walk dogs-for money or not. If there's anything that needs doing around the home, now is the time to do it!

What OU course are you doing?

snowleopard61

If you don't already cook, teaching yourself would be a useful skill, and if you do, extending your skill would be worthwhile and practical. You probably don't have a lot of money to splash around in your present circumstances, but it can be done very cheaply and with luck you'll find yourself saving money rather than spending more. Try some of the frugal blogs (Google them) or the OS board on MSE.

ETA: Sorry, OS is 'Old Style'; forgot this wasn't obvious!

Skyter

I have looked into volunteering but many require a DBS check and are unwilling to accept the ones I have (most recent came back in January), by the time that comes back i'm hopefully going to be back working anyway. Obviously I could look into other areas to volunteer, I'll have to see what i can find.

I have looked into social groups, tried finding a photography or walking group but there seems to be very little around this area and can't really travel too far due to money. I've looked up to 20 miles away so I don't feel i'm restricting my search too much.

Not close with my family anymore unfortunately, tried seeing my nephew more but now I no longer talk to my sister. Her decision not mine and was fairly recent.

Online courses sound good, wouldn't mind taking up a new language.
Ideally I need something where I can get out and meet people as thats the thing I miss the most, going days without actually talking to someone is pretty hard. But again, when I've looked there seems to be nothing around, i'm pretty open minded and willing to try most things, i just need to find them.

Errata

Join a walking group. Local ones are free.