Household Chores

lynzpower

Me & OH ( no kids) split. but I woldnt say its completely fair, but then again he works funny hours

Me - menu planning, shopping ( I do this on a sat while hes working)
All the washing, drying , putting away ( we dont iron )
Most of the washing up
Most of the cooking
general tidying
cleaning, dusting, swiping of sides etc

Him - general tidying
some washing up when I cant be bothered
cooking the meals I cant get right but he can ( strangely the simplest ones, bangers & mash etc.
he always changes the bedsheets and does the floors ( mopping/. hoovering) as these are my least fave jobs
takes the bin & recycling out.

Id like Oh to do a bit more, but then again Im a control freak and if I get him to clean the bathroom its not to my standard so he lets me get on with it.

Personally, Id say you are getting a very raw deal here- your 13yo daughter doing more than he does speaks volumes. Id give him a champion kick up the ar5e if he was my fella- including not making hot drinks, not doing his washing, not having his tea on the table. Hes an adult not a toddler.

finlaybaby

My OH does no domestic chores whatsoever -He thinks that men and women have clearly defined roles in life due to evolution! I've tried telling him that women stopped being chained to kitchen sinks in the 1950's, but it falls on deaf ears!

liney

Husbands works full time and does gardening, DIY/Decorating, car washing.

I work part time, and study part time. I do all housework, cleaning and cooking.

Quite traditional, but it works for us.

Errata

Only thing I can suggest is that you do everything one week (write down exactly what you do!) and he does everything the next week ! Mnd you, you might find the tables turned on you and you'll be expected to do the diy, decorating, fetching the coal in on the week's he's doing 'your' jobs !
Other than that, break an arm or a leg then he'll have to get stuck in!

kaykay_2

In our house we both work full time and there are two kids:
Me
washing
drying
sorting
hoovering
food
loading and unloading dishwasher
sorting kids out before and after work
him
???
bathing kids sometimes
some tidying
some washing and drying but clothes get ruined!!
kids get away with doing very little at ages 6 and 9
OH ofter works long hours 6am - 6/7pm mon - fri
but even so i often feel my hours including all chores take longer.
Things were worse than this - but i got cross because he expected MORE!!! and stopped cooking and washing his clothes for approx six months. He does do his own WASHING and food prep mainly now but i will do it if i feel like it and he doesnt expect it doing at all now.

We also have a cleaner/ironer otherwise i just wouldnt be able to keep on top of everything.
My philosophy is if i feel like doing it i will and if not then we live with the untidyness as long as mine and the kids clothes are clean and ironed.

Eels100

We both work full time but I often work longer hours (and I'm pregnant so currently getting limited special treatment!)
- Me:
Laundry, 60% cooking, packed lunches, bathroom, 80% kitchen, financial stuff, washing up
- Him:
40% cooking (including buying takeaway when he should be cooking!), early morning dog walk, mows lawn weekly, takes out bins, 20% kitchen, hoovering, drying dishes

I'm always moaning about it (mainly cos we've lived here a year and he's cleaned the bathroom once and even then it wasn't done properly) but written down it's not that bad. He does more than he used to but only after years of me whingeing and heavy hinting that I work long hours and am sick of doing everything.

I have found a good way to get things done without nagging too much or making fights is to approach everything from the DIY perspective, ie play on his machismo and make yourself damsel in distress:
"Darling, I'm struggling to reach these high shelves, can you wash them for me?" ... "Sweetheart, I've done all your* washing but it needs to be folded, would you manage to do that for me while I finish making your* dinner?" ... "I'm SO exhausted tonight but I won't sleep knowing the kitchen's such a mess ... SIGH ... could you help me quickly clean up so I can have an extra ten minutes in bed?". Never fails.

* Note careful transference of responsibility!

ailuro2

We both work full time, but my hubby does shiftwork.

I do all of the cooking, shopping,menu planning lists etc. phoning up of banks/meter readings and my own and dd's ironing, and sorting out of the clothes piles.DH irons his own stuff. I do the tidying of cupboards, cleaning of fridge, window cleaning and other stuff that doesn't need done every couple of days.I aslo ferry dd to her girl's brigade,childminder,swimming etc.
I change the bedding/curtains etc. too.

DH does the dishwasher,hoovering,mopping of floors,general tidying, looks like a short list but these need done ever couple of days.He also cuts the grass and does a bit of weeding but I do the pruning,fence painting etc.
He normally takes down the bins.

We share the washing of clothes- if it is a nice day he hangs it out, if it's a rainy day I hang it up inside-
we are well matched because we both prefer our own chores.

Your oh is being lazy,no excuse for that!!

Why not time how long you take to do these every week, then pay yourself the same rate per hour as you used to pay 'your' cleaner.;) See if he fancies helping out then.

Lyndsay_21

I dont work but am a sahm so i do -
washing
ironing
cleaning
cooking
shopping
everything basically

but oh does -
put the kids to bed
wahsing up twice a week
washing (sometimes)

sometimes i begrudge the fact that i do most things but he does work full time and will always pretty much do anything if i ask him, plus he is my taxi service as i dont drive.

Zoetoes

Decided to remove post

bluesindy_2

Morning all

Ailuro2, you must have read OH mind because he said he would pay me what we paid the cleaner so that amount plus cleaners wages can now be thrown at my debt ( which OH doesn't know about) meaning I'll be debt free approx 6 months earlier than expected!! Also he now has washing up duties allocated to him which is a start, I thought taking baby steps and introducing things slowly might be a better approach but so far so good.


Cheers for all your replys

xxxx