Oh flippin eck, what next?!

Wellyboots6

Thanks everyone

In a way I would be glad if it was that as it would explain a lot of my symptoms, won't know anyway until next week so no point worrying myself silly just yet

lostinrates

I saw one of the foremost experts on PCOS when I was diagnose who to
D me that it tends to run in maternal lines...and that's the good news...because all those women in that line get pregnant and pass it on.

Diet and lifestyle, weight management are key.

belfastgirl23

A good friend of mine with PCOS came back from honeymoon PG when she had no intention of even trying for a baby yet! These things are not as clear cut as you'd expect!

As an aside, would you consider going ahead and having a baby on your own?? Not a decision to rush into obviously but just mentioning it as something to think on!

Brighton_belle

Is it worth trying to find some sort of councelling to work out why you have had a series of disasterous relationships? This isn't a criticism, by the way, but there can be reasons why we make poor quality choices and some good self awareness work can work wonders on these sort of issues

I note that you gave up on the fostering idea for a relationship that perhaps wasn't very old, to the extent you got a difficult dog that also ruled out this option, despite obviously very much wanting a life with children in it. You appear to have thought this was going to work as a long term relationship so this would be ok with your own kids. It would be good to spend time working out how you choose partners and what part you play in them not working out or making a poor choice in the first place.

I must stress I am not criticising you for this, you are far from alone, just trying to offer other ideas so you get the life you want in the future. Each time you commit to the wrong person, that takes up another few years of your life when you are not avaliable for the right person.

I work for someone with PCOS who has 2 children - conceiving took a little while but not forever.:)

Wellyboots6

Thanks Brighton belle, your points do make a lot of sense.

I have looked in to councelling to try and help with my relationships, but can't find anything free and can't afford to pay. The doctor was going to refer me for councelling for my depression, but then decided on tablets instead as I would only qualify for CBT.

I didn't give up on the fostering idea, I was told it would need to go on hold due to the new relationship. I'm not sure I chose the new relationship over fostering, but due to them knowing about it they recommended putting the application on hold as it would unlikely be accepted and would need re-doing later on. The dog issue then sort of followed on from that, as the application was on hold anyway and the relationship was going well and so there seemed no problems with taking on a dog with 'issues'.

I would love to know how I choose the wrong people, as it has happened too often to be purely chance!

I understand what you are saying about using up time being with the wrong person. It worries me, as being 30 I don't have huge amounts of time left to get the relationship bit right!

*Ro*

Hope everything works out for you whether you have pcos or not you will be fine

Brighton_belle

Thanks for taking my post in the spirit intended. And yes, I understand you only put the fostering on hold: that makes good sense whe starting a relationship, totally.
It is difficult re the money/counselling. I am trying to think of ideas to help but drawing a blank at the moment.
I really hope you get the help you deserve. I was aware of your age ish when I talked out no time to waste...it's easy to drift along in your early 30's and you are so clear you want a family, and suddenly you are 35/6 and it may get more difficult.
You still have plenty of time on your side though, so don't panic yet! But just being aware that something needs to change is the first step to creating that change.

Wellyboots6

I am open to any help I can get, but like you say, drawing a blank as to what help there is. I tried Relate but they were too expensive for me to really justify paying with the amount of debt I have.

mrcow

Are you overweight? With PCOS, one of the best things you can do for it is to lose excess weight, as someone earlier mentioned, low GI is the way to go.

I suffered from PCOS for many years and losing weight really helped. I also had my ovaries drilled which sorted it out long enough for me to have 5 pregnancies.

PCOS does not automatically mean that you can't have children. Far from it in some cases.

Wellyboots6

I'm not overweight, but I suppose there is no harm in improving my diet anyway. I also do plenty of exercise, don't smoke or drink very much. There are improvements I'm sure I can make in my lifestyle though.