Is anyone happily married??

bitemebankers

I'm happily married. My wife lives up in Cheshire with her BF and I live down here with my GF.

*Louise*

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I'm curious to know whether for all those who mention "ups and downs" etc., any of them have involved romantic association with a third party? In my (sadly all too recent) experience, things are never the same again after that. You can forgive, move on, draw a line under it etc., but something dies.

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Thankfully not. If that was one of our 'ups and downs', I might refer to us as being married, but it wouldn't be a happy one. I am the type who would dwell on it, pick all the details to pieces and as you say, something would die.

I admire the fact that after 35 years together you are doing your best to forgive, but it must be so difficult if he is as money orientated as you suggest

aarchk

an unhappily married here! I seem to be in the minority... Married less than two years and already in counseling at Relate. It will not last I know that

I do prefer the single life but it will be scary getting back to it. I don't want to end up alone, but as I am now 40 and don't fancy dating old bald blokes :eek: I think I will probably have to stay single.

Netwizard

I don't know of anyone at work who is happily married. People seem to stay together for convenience. None are really that happy.

I don't think marriage will ever for me, but having been single all my life, its not an immediate worry for me

beckysbobbles1

I really have enjoyed reading all the nice happily married here but it does make me sad the unhappy people.

I was widowed at 25 and although we were in love, we were rather uphappy and I do not think the marriage would have lasted much longer.

I'm now scared that I won't find anyone my age willing to accept my past.

I thought I had found 'The One' but as he was so easily able to change his mind about me and the relationship, I find myself single and terrified again.

Life is too short to be unhappy. And I do feel really bad for those people who feel trapped. Although being single is scary, surely it's worth taking the brave leap to see if there is something better out there?

Everyone deserves to be happy.

I know anyone who isn't willing to accept my past, isn't the right person. But the thought of not finding someone special who can see and respect me for who I am is really worrying.

Those who are happy, please treasure every moment and make sure your OH know how you feel. x

bitemebankers

beckysbobbles1 wrote: »

Life is too short to be unhappy. And I do feel really bad for those people who feel trapped. Although being single is scary, surely it's worth taking the brave leap to see if there is something better out there?

Hear hear! Separating was the best decision I ever made, both for me and for my wife. We're so much happier now and have managed to complete the journey back to being friends.

Everyone deserves to be happy.

Can't agree with this though. What you get back from the world is very much a function of what you put out. There's no right to be happy. If you're miserable and cantakerous with those around you, you'll find the world a difficult place to be. And vice versa, if you spread joy, it'll come back to you sooner or later.

I know anyone who isn't willing to accept my past, isn't the right person.

You know what you need to do: get out there and meet people, whether that's though expanding your social circle, taking up new hobbies and interests, or joining a dating site. Or all three. The more new people you meet, the more likely you are to find "the one".

bylromarha

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Recently marked 26 years married and I grow more in love with him in each passing year. There have been difficulties but I can honestly say that he is my soul-mate and I can't imagine life without him. He makes me smile when I'm down and cuddles from him are the best bit of the day.

Hope you find someone.

This, but coming up on 13 years here.

I do moan about him now and then, but who doesn't? He moans about me too. If we were all perfect, then we'd get bored.

quintwins

bylromarha wrote: »

This, but coming up on 13 years here.

I do moan about him now and then, but who doesn't? He moans about me too. If we were all perfect, then we'd get bored.

We don't moan, I actually asked him after reading this thread stating I wouldn't be annoyed I was just wondering if I was odd. Don't get me wrong me can moan like the best of them but when t comes to us it's much better to moan to each other and sort the issue out

juliebunny

Oh wow, there are some really lovely tales of love and friendship here - and even a wedding album link and some newly weds! Congratulations to all of you and thank you for taking the time to show an old cynic that love could be out there....:p

I'm so sorry for those of you experiencing relationship issues....one of the things I do enjoy about being single is that it is so drama free. But I think that if I spend too long alone I will become too selfish and will have even less of a chance to make a long term relationship work. And I miss cuddles, and friendship, and company....and sharing things...

I ended my last relationship (5 years) because I wasnt prepared to 'settle' for less than love. I am still not. It's either love or singledom for me....:o

abailey54

Hi, just wanted to add that I love being married, it's only been 2 1/2 years (5yrs since meeting), but I couldn't be happier. I've previously been in long term relationships that I committed to despite not being happy, and so has DH

There was a year, about 2yrs in, where we really learned how to communicate with one another - I found it difficult to express what I really felt and DH found it difficult to express his feelings without accusations. This was in the backdrop of us both coming to terms with various unpleasant experiences in our past, and really there was a need in both of us to understand and to be understood. It was tough and hard work and all that, but it has enriched our lives completely.

We have seen the worst in one another and yet we are still here, enjoying our relationship. To me that is pretty special. As for the next catastrophe that comes along...I think we're pretty armed and dangerous now :-)