Is anyone happily married??

whitewing

We're happily married but it has definitely been tough for us while DD was young.

We abide by the phrase, 'if you can't be nice, say nothing'. We do have discussions and disagreements and sometimes make each other want to scream, but we make an effort to not let the little annoying things become dealbreakers. It really drives me potty that he leaves empty coathangers on the bed but I'll just mention it occasionally and he will occasionally try not to do it; it's not a situation either of us has to 'win'.

floss2

Yes thanks! We both had long term relationships behind us (and I had 2 teenagers) when we met almost 10 years ago via a dating website. We married in September 2010.

Errata

I was happily married for donkey's years; the secret is leeway, flexibility and communicating like grownups and not 5 year olds.

fluffnutter

Yep, very happy. Marry someone kind.

marisco_2

juliebunny wrote: »

Can anyone please restore my faith in love and relationships?:(

I can restore your faith in how nice it is to be free and single. Wish I could say young too but am knocking on the door of my 40s so can kiss that idea goodbye

Enjoy being by yourself for a while. Re-evaluate what you want from your life now emotionally, practically and professionally. When you are happy and content with your own life you will attract people to you who will easily become a part of it. Or worst case scenario will stand out a mile that they dont.

It can be quite liberating to be single. You only have yourself and your needs to think about. You can be as spontanious as you like. It doesn't have to be a lonely experience either. Get out there and mix and make some new friends.

Enjoy your new found freedom for a bit is my advice. Starting new relationships too quickly can end up as an 'out of the frying pan and into the fire' experience.

Bennifred

Another long-term happily married here! :j
We sometimes say to each other "and never a cross word spoken" and roar with laughter, as it has been somewhat tempestuous (to say the least!) on occasion, especially in the early years.....love never in doubt, though.

City_Girl_2

Me too, 10 years married in May, we have a great, strong marriage. Love him sooooo much he is my best friend too:)

CITY x

System

I'm not married but my mum and stepdad have been happily married for 20 years this year so if i can have a marriage as good as theirs i will be happy

Ich_2

Yes
27 years and counting, the only problems have really been medical.
But we have both worked at it, compromised when needed, not tried to change each other to an "ideal" but remembered the person we married, trusted each other without any doubts (which means we never even thought to stray), agreed how we are going to deal with problems before they arise and finally always enjoyed each others company.

balletshoes

yes, I'm married, and yes, I'm happy.
I don't believe in love at first sight or soul mates, but I do believe we fit together as a couple . We've had loads of rollercoaster ups and downs, one thing is for sure - its never boring being married to my OH! We try to treat each other the way we would want to be treated ourselves.

I was happy when I was single too - so I don't think I'd rush into another relationship if I found myself single again.

As to everyone around you just doing nothing but moaning about their partners - really, everyone? I work with 3 married women, and none of us run down our partners to the others. I know they all love their husbands, they don't need to gush about them, I can tell by the way they talk about them, its not all bad by any stretch of the imagination.