I need to scream

Saturnalia

Latest on the house move. It still hasn't gone ahead, and yesterday our landlord text us and told us the new house he had lined up for us he didn't feel was up to standard and was too small, and he has found another one on the next street to us that is better. He took us to see it last night and the new-new-house is beautiful and the same price so we hope to get that one now but aren't holding our breath.

The walls need to be skimmed and repainted in the new house so now it might be April 1st we move. All my clothes and bedding are packed ready for the move so I'm seriously thinking about unpacking again if we are going to be here another 2 weeks plus.

But the letting agent has given the homeowner a key and the psycho bovine turned up this afternoon while I was in on my own. She and another woman let themselves in and sat down in the living room and refused to move. I called the police but they left while I was on the phone to them so I told them not to send anyone to the house. But the call operative told me to ring the non-emergency police line and report the harassment to them, and feel free to call 999 if there is another incident like today.

What more does this scummy family want? We're leaving. They've bullied us out. They've gone against the law and got it all their own way. Her son is a sleaze, he makes all the women here feel creeped out, he shows up on the doorstep most days and now he can let himself in while I'm here on my own in the day. I'm scared!

I am seeing a counsellor, I had my second session with her yesterday and talked a lot about the job disappointment and taking control of the situation. Whether or not to ask for feedback (I'm temping there next Monday!). I am going to do this as I feel I need to know the truth. After two years on-and-off temping for the company, never a complaint or criticism about my work, the senior receptionist trained me and I took on board everything she said and she was backing me to get the permanent job... I've been loyal to the company and I thought I'd be given the contract because I earnt it.

That is what stings. I didn't get what I want - fair enough, I've never been handed what I want and don't expect to be. But I feel I have been cheated out of what I earnt, what I deserve, what I've worked damn hard to achieve.

heartbreak_star

I really wish I had some advice...but as I don't, I'd just like to send you a *hug*

HBS x

chrisv24

Chickabiddybex wrote: »

Make sure everyone has nice big poos in the loo before you leave. "Forget" to flush.

Haha that is absolutely brilliant!

Mojisola

Saturnalia wrote: »

But the letting agent has given the homeowner a key and the psycho bovine turned up this afternoon while I was in on my own.

She and another woman let themselves in and sat down in the living room and refused to move. I called the police but they left while I was on the phone to them so I told them not to send anyone to the house. But the call operative told me to ring the non-emergency police line and report the harassment to them, and feel free to call 999 if there is another incident like today.

What more does this scummy family want? We're leaving. They've bullied us out. They've gone against the law and got it all their own way. Her son is a sleaze, he makes all the women here feel creeped out, he shows up on the doorstep most days and now he can let himself in while I'm here on my own in the day. I'm scared!

What are your door locks like? Ours can't be opened from the outside if the key has been left in the lock inside.

If your locks are different, the old trick of a chair wedged under the door handle works quite well.

Engagedtobaz

Chickabiddybex wrote: »

Make sure everyone has nice big poos in the loo before you leave. "Forget" to flush.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Saturnalia

I have put a chair behind the front door. It isn't tall enough to stop the handle being pushed down, but the hallway is only just the width of the door so trying to shove the chair out of the way to get the door open will buy me enough time to lock myself in my room and call the police (as our landlord has instructed us to do if they turn up again).

My friend who is a couple of streets away has offered me her house key so if I feel unsafe here on my own in the day I can go over to hers. But I think I'd be more scared to leave our house empty. At least all our bedrooms have secure locks on them and we've moved anything of any value into our rooms.

Saturnalia

It now looks like we might be moving in the next few days, so this weekend will be spent on packing. It looks as though the three couples upstairs will be moved over on Sunday and me and the other downstairs housemate a few days later. Seems about right as the large room downstairs needed a wall putting in to divide it into two rooms, so that will account for the extra few days' delay.

Not looking forward to this at all! I have a tall bookcase which is double-stacked with books, 3 lamps, goodness knows how many clothes, a microwave which is wrapped in a sparkly pashmina and serving as a bedside table... aargh!

Saturnalia

And while I am tempted by the poos in the loos suggestion (fish under the floorboards was another thought of mine!) I have a much better plan. I don't want to give details on here, but I know rather a lot about what this family are up to and the relevant authorities would be very interested in hearing it. That's as well as our landlord planning to take them to court over a number of things (and he got his degree in law before going into the property management business!) So once he has had his pound of flesh, I'll be making a few phone calls.

Callie22

If your landlord has a degree in law then why on earth is he letting you be treated like this? He doesn't seem to realise that he he is ultimately responsible for this harassment and the authorities would not look at all kindly on tenants being treated as badly as this. I really think you're being way too nice about all this disruption as you shouldn't be in a situation where you're scared in your own home and you're being advised to call the police if people turn up! I appreciate it's not always easy to complain when you need somewhere to live but I hope to god your landlord is compensating you for all this!

marisco_2

Sending you a huge hug. My goodness OP you have been through so much.

Firstly I am very sorry for the loss of your great uncle. It must have come as such a shock. It is awful to lose someone. Many of us hope that when it is our time to go it will be as quick and painless as his passing was though. He lived life to the full, happy and content surrounded by friends right up to the last. He had no idea that his time was about to come. I hope that comes across in the right way.

The way you found out about the loss of your job is awful. Clearly it has been handled very unproffessionally. Try to see this from another perspective. Your colleagues are appalled at how you have been treated. This speaks volumes about how much they valued and appreciated you. I am sure you were excellent at your job. The fact that you haven't been kept on is the companies loss in the long run. A very short sighted way to run a company and not one I would want to be assocaited with. I have come to realise that everything happens for a reason. I bet there is a role out there that you are destined for which will ultimately make you far happier and will be much more fulfilling. This could all be a blessing in disguise.

With everything else you are coping with, having problems with where you live must be the final straw. At times of grief and anxiety home should be a safe haven where you can relax. Understandably all you are putting up with, from the current homeowner and their family, must be adding to the strain you are under. Your landlord is moving you away from all the hassle and bad treatment you have been recieving. This is a good thing. In a short amount of time and with a bit more upheavel you will be somewhere new where you can enjoy living in peace.

I hope your move goes as smoothly as possible, that you like your new home and can start to heal and move on with life again. All the best to you.