What do you tell a 3 year old?

sexy_fufu

My dad died in March and my daughter who is 3 now, was with us when it all happened it was very sudden. She was actually staying at nanny and grandads house. Mom rang me to say she had called Amburlance and to go up. When i got there dad was fine but paramedics took him hospital but wouldnt let mom go in amburlance. So me mom and daughter followed when we got there dad had died. Mom took daughter in to see dad this was 15 mins after him dying.

So now she thinks Grandad is asleep in the hospital, but i have told her he is with jesus and in the sky with the stars.

She as dealt with it ok, and she saw him every day.

liz105

madison's_mum wrote: »

thanks everyone. She seems to be ok. she has a toy mobile & at bed time she told my husband that grandad was dead but he was phoning to say he loved us & did we want to talk 2 him. Which is better than this morning when she was saying "grandad got dead". She been really cuddly too & is telling everyone she loves them which is making me feel better as well. Once again, thanks, i appreciate your support

XX

hey lady, you've gone and damn near started me off, I'm welling up, DD is such a little angel

x x x

bylromarha

Sorry to hear of your loss.

Another recommendation for Badger's parting gift. Really accessable for young minds and written so simply it makes you realise the footprints the person left all over your life too.

Fizog

I told my kids that their great grandmother had got very old and her body just wore out. (true) I told them that her soul ( the thinking, feeling bit ) had flown out when she died and she was now a new star, and would always be looking over them when they slept! The body was now a shell and no use to anyone - over time it would shrivel like an old apple and so society had to dispose of it carefully at a special party (funeral).

purplepurple

So sorry for your loss... my dad died very suddenly when I was 19.... still miss him.... I hope you're getting lots of support from your family.....

"Goodbye Mog" is a lovely book about death... even though it's aimed at children that have lost a pet, it's still brill and my kids got great comfort from it when a member of the family died.

A book that gave me comfort when my Dad died was "Through a Glass, Darkly" by Jostein Gaarder. It's not really a religious book, but tells the story of a terminally ill little girl who meets an angel and finds out what it's like to be an angel.... might give you some comfort too.....