Fussy family

sonastin

If he's not on board with what you're trying to do to save money, I'd be asking him to find a second job to pay for his extravagant preferences! If it is a one-off or he wasn't aware that you're doing this to save money start with talking to him about it before you send him down the job centre.

I can't get my OH to have any input into what we are going to eat but he's more than happy to criticise if he doesn't like something. Thankfully there isn't a lot that he doesn't like! I now plan what suits me and if he's upset me, I'm petty enough to make sure I'm picking the things that are on his "oh no not again" list. And when he's done something good, I go out of my way to try to make him a nice meal. It is worrying how easy it is to control a man through his stomach - I always thought that was just a saying!

System

Must admit hubby is the fussy one in our family. He hates chips, not keen on rice (unless its special fried rice cooked in the wok), he used to like roast potatoes but hates them now, he hates all pasta sauces. Doesnt like parsley sauce so fish and gammon have to be smothered in cheese sauce.

Every week he moans about the cost of the food bill but when i try and cut down he moans about the quality/quantity of food we eat.

We had the usual argument today when i spent £93 in the supermarket. I am beginning to get sick of this ritualistic verbal earache i get every Saturday. So today i told him to shut up as he'd just spent half the cost of the shopping on cigarettes! I must remember this for next week.:)

He's paranoid about meat. I either overcook it or undercook it. I cant get it right. So much so that i am getting as paranoid as he is that ive got it right.

Honey_Bear

At the end of an evening meal once, my mother asked us to say thank you to her for cooking us dinner. The deep humiliation I felt at needing to be reminded to show her the good manners of even acknowledging that she'd done so has never left me.

I simply do not understand why women who work so hard to produce nourishing, home-cooked food should have to put up with savages who think they deserve to be served gourmet food on a shoe-string budget being rude to them.

And in front of children?

ska_lover

My OH is just like yours OP. It is a struggle to find a meal that he will eat other than two firm favorites.

He likes to eat rubbish (sausage egg and chips every night if he had his way) but I won't cook like that very often, and tend to go down the route of casseroles etc...

There have been a few times that I have tried out reciepes on him and he has simply taken one forkful and refused to eat it, or the time I made soup and he said it LOOKED LIKE SICK (leek and potatoe, it was yummy) and wouldnt even try it.

My answer to him is well fkin well starve then..or if he wants to get off his backside on HIS days off from work, he can go get the shopping and choose

Long_tall_sally

I too have fussy ones in my family. Not OH, he will eat anything but my DD isn't keen on any pasta or rice, my two step sons can be a right pain - one won't eat my spag bol, has to have a jar of Dolmio, both don't like fajitas, both don't like any veg apart from carrots or peas, both don't like curries or eggs, none of the kids like prawns and then to add to it my DS has Coeliacs so he cannot eat anything with gluten in it. I do get a bit fed up with it sometimes but its not always as simple as saying tough luck as I don't want to be the "Wicked Stepmother" and try to accommodate when and where I can. Mind you, that is probabaly one of the reasons that my food bill is always so high!

This_Year

I'm the fussy one in my house but I do the meal planning so I just don't plan the foods I dislike :rotfl: DD and OH will eat whatever I put in front of them.

Saying that OH does all the food prep so it's ready to cook when I get home, so it's not really a case of "I" put in front of them. I just take the credit. :rotfl:

Steve059

Things you never hear in a refugee camp. "Mummy, I don't like ...".

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Why not ask the "fusspot" to write down the things they do like. They'll think that you're only going to make these for them. Then tell them that it's so that, if and when you do these for yourself, you'll know to make some for them.

suki1964

My husband used to be a fussy eater. He grew up in a middle class family where steaks, chops and roasts were the daily dinner, and to him sausages were a breakfast dish. He had never in his life been fed spaghetti Bol or liver or curry and for years I got "I don't like that" all because he had never ate it before

This week I even got him to eat fishcakes :rotfl:


His sister is the same, learned mums dishes and has stuck to them, and her kids wouldn't know what a curry or Chinese was. The only take out is a chippy and there's no "foreign muck" such as pasta served in their house:eek:

I just made the changes and served it up. Yes there's some meals he likes more then others but he eats what I put in front of him It works the other way, he loves cabbage and bacon boiled together with the tatties in their skin, which to me is food hell, so it's a compromise, I fry the cabbage and bacon and serve new pots lol

grousescot

I hope you don't mind my tuppence worth here (single bloke, early 30s) but I'm genuinely astounded that there are still husbands around who react in such a way to what their wives provide for them. It really sounds like a throwback to the 50s to me. Since it's just me here I do all my own cooking and won't let myself get into the habit of living on takeaways - even though there is a chip shop practically next door. It's a treat for me to have a meal I haven't had to prepare myself. On Sundays I go round to my folks for dinner and that's usually prepared by mum (who in retrospect was remarkably tolerant of my fussiness as a small boy). I wouldn't dare say anything other than something complimentary about a meal I hadn't had to prepare myself. If someone passed a negative comment about something I'd spent time and care planning and making, that would be the last time I'd bother making anything for them.

jackyann

We used to do the "everyone choose a meal they'd like" - in advance. If you moaned, you didn't get your choice the next week!
However, I did say that it was OK to politely say that you didn't like something, or that something would be nice if......
I would ask OH what is it that he likes about the bought stuff? Can you replicate it (I put garlic, salt & paprika on my wedgies). I do think that someone working hard all day should - up to a point - expect a nice meal BUT - before I'm flamed ! It should be done politely, constructively and in recognition of the budget (and of course, most adults don't get their dinner cooked for them!)