commitment issues

seven-day-weekend

If it was me I would want to be absolutely sure that this was a long-term relationship before I introduced anyone to my offspring.

Maybe he is just not that sure yet. He may love you and want to spend his life with you, but is being cautious.

He's had one broken marriage, maybe he doesn't want another?

Dave_liverpool

I'd like to meet his friends and perhaps his parents by now!

Leave the kids out of it, yours and his.

burnoutbabe

Agreed, I'd have expected to have met some of the other people in his life by now - say work mates or some drinking buddies, his family if they are near. Maybe not his kids. But it depends on locations, its easier if they all live close.

19lottie82

Hi OP as my original post, I think if he was really serious about a future with you he would have introduced you to his kids and family by now, as well as making an effort with your kids.

I really do t honk there is much point in you "chilling out in the hope something will develop". After a year you (ie him) will know either way, and I really don't see that changing.

IMO he cares about you and enjoys your company but he isn't really committed to a future with you.
Where do you see your relationship in 1 year, 3 years and 5 years?
You should ask him the same.

If you hope for any major advance in the relationship, like moving in together or marriage, would make things very tricky, unless you met him teenage kids, wouldn't it?

I think you have two choices here, either accept that he prob won't change and be happy with the "relationship" you two have already (without hoping / expecting that it is going to take major leaps and bounds) OR realise this isn't for you and move on, to find someone who can give you what you want in life.

Good luck.

vodkachick68

Thanks again to you all for your input. I am a bit clearer in my mind about things. Still not sure about the future but i'm sure whatever happens will be for the right reasons. We will continue to communicate with each other to hopefully get the best outcome for both of us:D

chrisv24

If I were you, I would sit down and have a serious conversation with hime. The children are a massive part of who you both are and it makes no sense whatsover for him to not want to involve you in their lives at all. You don't need to be heavily involved but they should at least be aware of you.