commitment issues

go_cat

I would give him a time limit to introduce you to kids and family or you walk away.

You should not invest more time on someone who isn't as committed to the relationship as you are.

vodkachick68

Mojisola wrote: »

Where does he live? Have you been to his house?

yes have been to his house many times.

vodkachick68

go_cat wrote: »

I would give him a time limit to introduce you to kids and family or you walk away.

You should not invest more time on someone who isn't as committed to the relationship as you are.

I have got a time limit in my head as a guideline so will wait till that time and then will seriously have to think again about this relationship. Its easier said than done as i really love him.

Mojisola

vodkachick68 wrote: »

yes have been to his house many times.

Well, that's good because you know he isn't still living with the family and keeping you as his little secret.

vodkachick68 wrote: »

We have had countless chats about this issue and always seem to go round in circles.

You've got to have the conversation again and make clear to him that it's getting to be a breaking point for you - either you meet his children and family or the relationship finishes.

claire16c

A woman did this to my DHs friend. Made excuses for a similar amount of time. His mates kept telling him to wise up but he was loved up. Suprise surprise she dumped him not much longer as she said she couldn't commit to him.

SailorSam

When i started reading i was expecting that you were going to ask if after a year was too soon to move in together. But not to have met people in his family sounds very strange,

lika_86

A year isn't that long really, particularly with teenagers who are likely to have very strong opinions on the whole thing.

I didn't meet my OH's family until 3 years in and there were no children involved, just chill out.

suki1001

If he feels awkward now, three years after the split, then it's surely going to be a long time before he feels ready?

Is it possible a relationship in between has set a precedent for all this?

Perhaps he did all the introducing and it went wrong, perhaps he got close to someone else's children and had to break away, perhaps his children were really miffed off he met someone else?

That would make a lot of sense if he's incredibly cautious now, espcially if it was a relationship early on into the split. It's just a suggestion, but a logical one.

FBaby

Could it be that having gone through the break-up of his marriage, his attitude is now 'never again'? He is happy with you in his life, but without the commitment and the risk of losing you and all the hassle that comes with it. He is not telling you how it is because he knows that if he did, you would indeed be gone?

yvonne13_2

OP you have been with your bf for over 365 day's yet your a stranger to his family?????
Do you know that saying fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me.