Looking for the silver lining

brizzledfw

beanielou wrote: »

Agree 200% xx

Beautifully put bubbles..and seconded beanie :beer:

brizzledfw

beanielou wrote: »

Just about to start when Breathe Becomes Air!!

I miss my old life too.
I did not appreciate how lucky I was.

Its a wonderful book..I loved it (and wept buckets too..)

Sun_Addict

Dear Nosey Nellies - no I never found out about DD's secret admirer. He's not very proactive as nothing has happened since. So looks like I don't need to buy a hat after all. Will I ever get rid of her! One positive, she's a live in house and pet sitter when we go on holiday.

Finally heard from the builder today, not looking good, he's just taken on a big barn conversion and doesn't think he'll be able to fit us in He will let me know for sure when he's spoken to the client. Bit disappointed as he seemed alright and Mr SA liked him. Plan B is friend's hubby is a builder and she said contact her if I get let down.

mummytogirls

Oh booooo to the builder SA, hope he can manage to fit you in but you don't want him rushing your job. Hope all ok with you guys, not long until jolly hollies now xx

Sun_Addict

Yes I'm disappointed MTG and a bit miffed he didn't let me know before, he admitted he'd been avoiding contacting me. At least the re-mortgage is all in place now.

It's been a really busy week, I've gone a bit free range with everything, spent too much, not kept an eye on finances, not really been sticking to budgets or counting my WW points.

Another busy day today, Mr M delivery soon, then going to WW, straight on to hairdressers, then DS and family coming this afternoon. Got to crack on and get my cleaning done this morning. Must look at finances this weekend and get back on track.

Watching Shop Well for Less on Thursday, where the man of the household spent a fortune on a car and tools, Mr SA declared "I think I should be spending more money and running up a credit card bill, everyone else does it". The thing is he wasn't joking :eek:
This is what he'd be like if he could get out and about more, he'd be a nightmare, he loves spending.

To be honest he's been really annoying me this week. He does absolutely nothing around the house other than leave crumbs and coffee stains and tread in mud everywhere. As soon as I get in from work he's asking about his dinner. My ankle/foot is still swollen and sore and I'm limited as to what I can do. So when I get home I'm cleaning, ironing, cooking, trying to fit in exercises and anything else that needs to be done. All in a limited amount of time as I need to go to bed at 9pm to be up at 5am. Then he has the cheek to say I don't pay enough attention to him! Moan, moan, moan

Thank goodness only 2 more working days. I am so ready for this holiday.

Hope everyone has a fab weekend - weather forecast sounds good :j

Moneywhizz

I read your diary but have never posted. Just can't help saying that it seems that you certainly have a difficult time with Mr SA. He seems to think you are his personal slave. I know he has been ill and is limited in his movement but I am sure there are some small things he could do to help you rather than adding to your workload. He comes across as very selfish and demanding and maybe it's time to change the way things are done around your house. You need to take care of yourself and have some time to relax. Hope you have a great holiday.

mummytogirls

Morning SA,

Sounds like you've got a busy day ahead. Your bit about going free range really struck a chord with me... I've never realised but when I'm off on one with the money spending my calorie counting goes out the window!!!

Men are such attention seekers aren't they!! My DH is the same, he reckons I don't pay him enough attention... rolls eyes ha xx

Sun_Addict

Thanks both.

Moneywhizz you are right, he's become very selfish since his illness. I think he became used to having all the attention focused on him. I asked him if he would do odd housework jobs, nothing too taxing, that would help me out but he refused saying he wants to do men's jobs not women's - which is very sexist I think.

Despite going free range with spending and WW points, have lost half a pound and after plucking up the courage to look at CC balance, it wasn't as bad as I thought and I've now cleared it.

Every time we go on holiday I always end up buying last minute stuff I don't really need so maybe it's time to factor in a pre holiday spend budget. For instance on Monday I spent £40 on trousers and top to travel in. I always buy a new outfit to travel in, I don't know why, it's not like we'll get upgraded to First Class on a Thomas Cook flight is it. However I do need some new work trousers so they will come in after the holiday.

Hair is done, cut and colour £50 which I think is very reasonable. DS and family were there when I got home, grandkids had decimated the house, so waste of time cleaning up this morning. It was chaos, the dog stole both of the baby's gingerbread men and there was soil from a plant all over the floor. DS bought me his usual bottle of Blossom Hill wine for Mother's Day - this is a standing joke in our family, he has bought me this every year since he was old enough to buy alcohol. He said he'd gone for white this year as a change from red. He had also bought a low alcohol one! Asked him what he was trying to say!

please-let-me-be-lucky

Sorry to hear Mr SA is being awkward/annoying. Mr Lucky does the washing up and hoovering whenever possible, says it helps him feel less useless. Perhaps you could convince Mr SA to see it that way??

Enjoy your wine Xx

JWPopps

Oh gosh, SA, you've had a right old time recently!

I'm so sorry things can be difficult with Mr SA... I've never lived with my partner (in fact I actively avoid the possibility of living with my boyfriends!) but I know for a fact I wouldn't be able to cope with someone expecting me to run around after them when I'd already been at work all day. I can't abide those sexist attitudes of what is 'women's work' and what is 'men's work' - if you both live in the house then it is both of your responsibility! Maybe it would be different if you weren't working a different job all day as well.

I really hope you have a fabulous holiday, you work very hard and you have been a total trooper about your ankle so you deserve it!!!