Has Anyone Had Any Experience of a Prohibited Steps Order??

looby75

absolutebounder wrote: »

That is child abuse.

If you think that is child abuse you must have a very warped view of the world

absolutebounder

looby75 wrote: »

If you think that is child abuse you must have a very warped view of the world

So using the threat of eternal burning in hell and scaring children witless if you dont join up is not abuse? Forcing your beliefs and insecurities on your children at an age where they are unable to argue is not abuse? Using bribery and peer pressure is not abuse?
Natural selection builds childs brains with a tendency to believe whatever their parents and tribal elders tell them. Such trusting obedience is valuable for survival but the flip side of trusting obedience is slavish gullibility. The inevitable by product is vulnerability to infection by mind viruses. To misuse this trust by way of coercion and peer pressure is mental child abuse by any standards.

looby75

as I've already said this isn't the place, If you want to take it over to the discussion time board I will be happy to continue to discuss it with you over there (after I've picked up my abused child from school that is )

bright_side

joeblack066 wrote: »

My first husband ran off with my friend. I was devastated for a very long while, and my life has not gone in the direction that I would have chosen since then. However, I realised early on that to show animosity towards the 'other woman' would be to totally traumatise my 3 boys. She had become a part of their lives whether I liked it or not. I have always been civil, chatty, and well behaved around them/ her. I have three very well adjusted boys, and now that my first grandchild has come along, it is possible for us all te be in a room without it affecting my son or his family. I do my crying in private, my kids don't need to know how bitter I feel towards this woman. You will open a huge can of worms if you let your personal feelings get in the way of what is right for your son.

Big hugs for you and you should be VERY proud of yourself that you have managed to hide your true feelings about the 'other woman' from your children.....not an easy task by any means.