Has Anyone Had Any Experience of a Prohibited Steps Order??

Savvy_Sue

As I said before, the place for this is Discussion Time, NOT HERE!

tomstickland

Perhaps we could do the OP the courtesy of considering the question in general terms of preventing someone from attending a function at which their presence is not welcome,

Yes. Why not just speak to them and explain why they're not welcome?

Preventative Steps Order. Would that be the prohibition of playing any of their records.

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Hapless_2

tomstickland wrote: »

Preventative Steps Order. Would that be the prohibition of playing any of their records.

we can dream

all I can suggest is have a word with your ex and explain the situ. Ask if it would be possible that she didn't attend. Otherwise, grin and bear it.

silvercar

My ex is welcome to attend as are his family its just his wife that I have the problem with.

If I was your ex, I would tell you to stuff it. As they are now married they should come together or not at all.

asea

could you ask your ex? if you don't have a problem with him perhaps you could both sit down & talk about it privately now to preempt any problems.

SSB

Hi
The Communion should be a significant day for your son, he is the centre of it. You should be grown-up enough to put aside your personal feelings and focus on your son. It is not exactly a good example for your son if you cannot behave appropriately.

belfastgirl23

Unless you have real concerns that she will cause a scene or otherwise cause a problem for your child you should let her attend the ceremony at least. If it's about you feeling uncomfortable with her being there it is something that will come up time and again and you are better trying to get used to it sooner than later with more bad blood in between to get over. The point of a FHC is to encourage the child to be part of a community in god and if you believe that it's good for your child to do this then it is difficult to justify excluding some parts of that community. BTW as someone who has been to several, making her attend the ceremony might be revenge enough on your part boy can they go on and on and on (no offence to anyone who is religious intended!)

newcook

hmmmm - I'm slightly confused from what I have read on your other threads you are happily married so am I right in thinking that you want your new husband to attend the ceremony but you are also expecting your ex's new wife (your son's stepmom) not to attend? sounds a bit mean to me.

how would you feel if your ex husband had organised something for your son and invited you and not your new husband???

absolutebounder

SSB wrote: »

Hi
The Communion should be a significant day for your son, he is the centre of it. You should be grown-up enough to put aside your personal feelings and focus on your son. It is not exactly a good example for your son if you cannot behave appropriately.

The sad reality is that this is not about the son, but the parents imposing doctrine and theories at an age where it cannot be debated by the recipient and so is accepted as truth (Brainwashing).
As far as the son is concerned the bribery received (money gifts etc) for accepting the doctrine is like another christmas.
As far as the church is concerned they have another one signed up to protect their wealth and power at an age where the child has no chance of sensible debate as he will not understand the counter arguments or the restriction of freedom that religion falsely imposes.

Savvy_Sue

Sigh. Discussion Time. Please. Not Here!

By all means urge the OP to consider her son and his feelings first, but the rest is OT.