Contact order to see my son

steph25

hi witsend901 i really feel for you.
My ex boyfriend and father of my daughter left me when our babby was 4months old and just after i had moved from london to ipswich because he wanted to be nearer his family!
And i just want to say that i have never once stopped him seeing our daughter and she was 7 back in march.
Yes he's been a pain the backside and called me every name under the sun...even though he was in the wrong (his brain obviously, was still making its way bk from his y fronts to his head at that time)
I can understand being a bit bitter at first if the other partner has gone off but at the end of the day you have to think to yourself
"my child will find out that ive stopped them having a relationship with their mum/dad and they'll probably hate me for it"
This was why i never stopped him seeing our kiddie.As the trust has grown he's gone from seeing her at his nans house for a few hours to having her overnight and now comes to see her once a month (always been once a month but thats cause he still lives 100miles away) and he has her at his house for long weekends during school holidays.I obviously miss her like mad but its HER right to see her dad and also gives me a few days "off"
We still b**ch at eachother now and then (not that often) but our daughter knows she has 2 loving parents who would do anything for her.
Im not sure what advice i could give you except speak to citizens advice and show all the texts and any other proof you have of you ex being malisous (god i cant spell).See if you can get legle aid and most of all dont give up.The more you do to try and see your child the better they will feel about you in the future when they realise you did everything you could and were not a absent parent by choice.
Maybe you could also apply for parental resonsability if you've not got it already..heres the goverment website, i hope it helps.
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/FamilyIssuesAndTheLaw/ParentsRights/DG_4002954

witsend901

Wow, I'm overwhelmed by the support and advice.

Just a quick update, I did see my son on Sunday but first had to suffer her ranting on the doorstep for 10 minutes in front of her neighbours. I've now written to her solicitor saying that I'm not prepared to be abused like this when I call to collect him.

I'm not to see him now for a month so I'm hoping she will have calmed down by then!

Thank you all very much.

mutley74

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Vomityspice

Keep a record of her abuse towards you. Then later you can make an application under the Harassment Act to encourage her to stop. This obviously won't endear you to your ex but at least her ranting would stop.

Have a look at: http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts1997/1997040.htm

pipkin71

witsend901 wrote: »

Wow, I'm overwhelmed by the support and advice.

Just a quick update, I did see my son on Sunday but first had to suffer her ranting on the doorstep for 10 minutes in front of her neighbours. I've now written to her solicitor saying that I'm not prepared to be abused like this when I call to collect him.

I'm not to see him now for a month so I'm hoping she will have calmed down by then!

Thank you all very much.

Is there anyone else who could pick your son up from the ex's to avoid confrontation? Obviously it would need to be someone both your ex and yourself trusted.

With regards visitation, I hope you do come to an agreement with your ex that benefits your son.

regards
Pipkin xxxx

Katie~baby

taggiesgirl wrote: »

''the mum does normally get what she wants ''
complete rubbish!!, All i seem to read about is 'the hard done by dad's'
nothing about the mums that were left on their own with the children,no money,no home etc...
Why do dad's always feel the need to try to be the 'big I am'(not everyman) and go to court when they are the ones that have left the child (not in all cases).
I just feel that maybe a mediation session would be just as effective in some cases had my ex have approached me properly and gone down this route then he would have got alot more access than what he is getting now through the courts decision.

What!??!? Stop talking complete trollop! The dads not trying to act the big i am just trying to see his son!! When a man leaves the family home its because the relationship has broken down not because he is leaving his children! Why should the children suffer because two people cant get on anymore? Why didnt you contact your ex and suggest mediation why make him do all the running? I feel sorry for your kids!!

To OP sorry you have to deal with this deranged woman! The best thing to do is get legal advice, you shouldnt have to put up with this eith regards to your son. It may be a long battle but worth it in the end and as i always say the kids will see who is the better parent in the long run!

Good luck and all the best