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BarleySugar

Just had to join you all in saying....


Hugs to Logie, you're doing so well and it's only natural to feel down at times. Hope you feel better soon.

And hugs to Tinyshoes. What a predicament for you. Please get the hospice to help you set up carers to come in to help your mum sometimes, so that you can get a break. My mum was 90 on Monday and is struggling to cope in her own house, so I know what a worry it is for you.

rhosynbach

morning all very very cold in north wales had to go round with a kettle for the animals water this morning.. ducks were not impressed

speacil big hugs for logie and tinyshoes xx

Tinyshoes

silvercar wrote: »

Please don't be pushed into doing something that you don't want. Have the pallative care team agreed that it is in her best interests to be moved?

I was told that hospices have two sections, one for those who are close to the end and another for those who are not so close. Maybe that isn't all of them, but I would want to know that their encouragement for her to be moved was in her best interests.

Unfortunately this one doesn't, it is mainly geared to end of life and pain control. And now her pain is under control has needed nothing extra for around 4 days and now that is classed as being stable. Her appetite is very good now too. They may have kept her a bit longer but she mentioned going home so that has speeded things up. She is confused but they tell me she has stated to 2 doctors now that is her wishes. Trouble is she still thinks she will be stronger at home and does not really realise the consequences. Still even if she had not mentioned it she would have had to leave at some point so only postponing the inevitable.

Just going down for results of blood tests which hopefully should confirm a clearer prognosis, then I can decided definitely if I am doing the right thing. Might sound hard but I know I could not sustain another year but if say 6 months then yes. I must sound quite cold for feeling that way. But such a rollercoaster of being told couple months left then couple of weeks and now I'm not sure.

hornetgirl

((((logie)))) and ((((Tinyshoes))))
Both of you, don't forget to take care of yourselves too, while you are doing so much for other people.

Suzysnowball

Bug hugs Logie and Tinyshoes

Logie I would come and clean for you if I lived closer.

silverhairgranny

to Logie and Tinyshoes
You are both doing an amazing job, Hugs to you both.

Tinyshoes

Before I go, I should have made it clearer, she will have palliative care nurses going in 3 times a day, for nursing needs. It's the times I need to go shopping, do my own house stuff and get a good nights sleep occasionally. Mum can no longer do anything for herself that she can't do in bed like drink and eat if that makes sense.

Thanks for all the replies xx

xoAmyox

izzy65 wrote: »

Try a good quality honey in warm milk, cooled for the LO, it has amazing healing properties and you can't do any harm with a natural remedy, also if it's congestion that making him cough try a vapour plug in , I have the sudafed one.:)

When working in a doctors surgery I was always told that honey was best for children's coughs. I now swear by it for my little one.

If local honey, it can also help with building a resistance to hayfever/allergies.

rhyl_2

rhosynbach wrote: »

morning all very very cold in north wales had to go round with a kettle for the animals water this morning.. ducks were not impressed

speacil big hugs for logie and tinyshoes xx

Bird bath frozen solid here!! :eek:

izzy65

Tinyshoes wrote: »

Unfortunately this one doesn't, it is mainly geared to end of life and pain control. And now her pain is under control has needed nothing extra for around 4 days and now that is classed as being stable. Her appetite is very good now too. They may have kept her a bit longer but she mentioned going home so that has speeded things up. She is confused but they tell me she has stated to 2 doctors now that is her wishes. Trouble is she still thinks she will be stronger at home and does not really realise the consequences. Still even if she had not mentioned it she would have had to leave at some point so only postponing the inevitable.

Just going down for results of blood tests which hopefully should confirm a clearer prognosis, then I can decided definitely if I am doing the right thing. Might sound hard but I know I could not sustain another year but if say 6 months then yes. I must sound quite cold for feeling that way. But such a rollercoaster of being told couple months left then couple of weeks and now I'm not sure.

Tinyshoes you do not sound cold just realistic, even six months is a massive undertaking of giving care 24/7, my dad had many health probelms and I was always there for him but no where near 24/7 but still found it draining please find out about all the help you can get and take it.