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tigerwhite_2

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

My DS was like that, nothing worked. Amazingly I ended up sending him to his room and he would just sit on his bed, not playing or anything! In the end just the threat of sending him to his room did the trick

Thanks - He sits (or screams and kicks the floor!) in his room, only to say he then wants to be on the naughty step instead blah blah blah. May have to do a little search online. It's only at home with us that he sometimes goes bonkers. He's just moved nursery/pre school so am hoping it's an adjusting period and he is just pushing us.

But mine pale into insignificance compared to Dr V. I really feel for you . I know what you mean though about being so helpless.. it comes to a point that you want to take everything off them and shut the door on them for hours!

My brother was horrible from aged 12 - 20 :eek: But his involved hormones, my dad never being around and then drugs. Mum had the police round numerous times etc. How my poor mum coped i'll never know. The good news is he finally sorted himself out mid 20's and is a really lovely man now (aged 31!)

AngelsMadv wrote: »

Good morning all, :wave:

Happy birthday, Jumblejack; Have a great day. :bdaycake:


I still am :A :rotfl:

But on this very subject. OH and I are beyond fair in our house. We have (at home) 16, 10, 7, 5. The 10 year old boy has pretty much pushed OH and I to the edge. This morning he refused to go to breakfast club and his mum, who is so calm it is unnerving, lost it and threw him in the car. He then wouldn't get out for me and started kicking and punching me. It took all my might not to leather him until next Christmas.

I literally would have been grounded for life had I done anything as remotely bad as he did. :eek: His 16 year old sister walked away because she was so upset with him for treating me and OH the way he did. She actually asked permission to "sort it" - I of course told her no!

I guess I'm asking like Tiger. What do you do when they get to the point where they, if they wanted, could simply walk away from you. I feel sick to the stomach, the OH is in pieces, and I can now, for the first time in my life, understand why some families put their own children into care. I feel that would be giving up, but short of giving him the hiding of his life, I have nothing left.

The one breaking point we have that makes us a special case, I guess, is that I'm step dad. His real dad would welcome him back no problem and let him do whatever he liked. His bed time would be "whenever" and school would be optional! I'd feel like sending him there would be sentencing him to a life with nothing more to look forward to than his older (27) half brother - a life of crime and drugs. :(:(

Deb_S_2

eightieschick88 wrote: »

Debs - why am I not the slightest bit surprised? lol :EasterBun

I love that smilie, that was me at 11pm last night

Sarahdol75

Deb_S wrote: »

I love that smilie, that was me at 11pm last night

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

And me, polished off an easter egg last night no probs.

artha

David. wrote: »

Ermm TM there is a queue, but if you brought a picnic

Morning David. wondered where you had got to. Having a lie in?

midsguy75

couponqueen123 wrote: »

im probaly goign to get shot down in flames here but bear with me THIS IS JUST WHAT I DO/WOULD DO AND JUST MY OPINION

while leathering him is wrong a smack isnt well if my children behave like that (im not standing pointing finger as my dd dose this to me );) then i ask and plead and try my hardest to sort it but when enough is enough i give her a smack and yes in public if i need to i dnt batter her just a single smack and tbh

it works she stops misbehaving and dose whats asked

im had a few arguments with ppl in street but when my dd is taking her seatbelt off while im driving or bites her sister or pulls hair etc etc and iv requested plz dnt do it then ended up screaming the car down/street /house and shes still not listening

Before responding, ask yourself four important questions...
1, what am i feeling now
2, what does the young person feel, want or need.
3, how is the enviroment effecting the young person
4, how do i best respond

This is taken from tci (theraputic crisis intervention)

I work with young people with challenging behavours. Never should anyone smack or hit a young person, impliment consequences.

JulieElizabeth

I'd downloaded the shop, scan save app for the free maltesers. This is the screen I see - is there supposed to be a voucher - I tap on the offer but nothing happens

David.

artha wrote: »

Morning David. wondered where you had got to. Having a lie in?

Eldest was doing course work on comp earlier but when I mentioned how long he was going to be said well I can do it on my own now it is working :eek:

Call_of_Trouty

Smart1e wrote: »

Apologies if already posted

Download the Shop Scan Save App to your smartphone and get a FREE 360g box of Maltesers at the Co-Op until 8th March

I downloaded the app from the Google play store free :j:j:j

A bit like shopitize except the discount comes off in store and the big box of Maltesers is FREE!

This is in Martin's email this week :money:

This is a pretty crap app, it crashes more than it works.

I had this before but deleted it as it kept crashing. Have just downloaded it again and it has already crashed. Will get the maltesers and then delete again.

midsguy75

JulieElizabeth wrote: »

I'd downloaded the shop, scan save app for the free maltesers. This is the screen I see - is there supposed to be a voucher - I tap on the offer but nothing happens

No, they just scan your id barcode

Morgy9

Ok peeps - can anyone confirm eggs today?

I waited and checked Monday and until 1pm yesterday when I decided RL needed to kick in so tacked the ironing (also first result sounded like not working). Logged on at midnight to find had missed chocolate feast. This happened last mini-glitch too - so I promise I wil iron more often in the hopes of glitches.

Anyhow 30 mile round trip - happy to take a punt if signs loking good for today - anyone help?

Thanks ....